Revenge

[MuscleDude]

How do you get back at a chick that teases, flirts, jokes, emails you all the time, lies, breaks dates and never puts out?

 

[WatchMeWalk]

That's a nobrainer. Have fun with another woman while she's watching.

 

[100cagefighter]

Make fun of her.

 

[Grey Fox]

Simple ignore her.

-Grey Fox

 

[squirrels]

Revenge? For what? She didn't screw YOU over, she screwed HERSELF over by not spending time with someone as cool as you. Stop worrying about revenge and find some other girl to hang with.

Like WMW said, when she sees how much fun the other girl is having just being around you, she'll feel pretty dumb. But you won't be worried about how she feels, because you don't have time to think about girls who don't respect you.

 

[Starman]

silly rabbit, revenge is for kids

 

[Umbra]

Ignore her ass.

 

[jlujan]

Originally posted by MuscleDude
How do you get back at a chick that teases, flirts, jokes, emails you all the time, lies, breaks dates and never puts out?

The fact that you feel that you have to make her suffer means she kicked your butt, i would ignore her ass and move on.

 

[Starman]

True dat.

Revenge is nothing but the feeling of being hurt..(taken advantage of, walked on , made to look foolish, etc)

and wanting to hurt the other person back..in order to make yourself feel better.

Its like a primitive form of childhood anger when we dont get our way, we want to punish the wrongdoer..why? to make ourselves feel 100% again!

The easiest path to peace is forgiveness...compassion..Girls like the one you just mentioned..have a really long road ahead..with self destructive type of behavior.

How are they self destructive? They hurt others..and its a type of a lifestyle..that they repeatedly live over and over and over..hurt and hurt and hurt...and become hurt over and over and over until they are old gray..and lonely.

Take the high road.

 

[backbreaker]

Originally posted by MuscleDude
How do you get back at a chick that teases, flirts, jokes, emails you all the time, lies, breaks dates and never puts out?

Not necessary true.


First let me say that EVERYONE on this forum would like to get "sweet revenge" on someone in their life, it's just plain human nature, but how you go about it is key. If you go out and get other woman, just to flaunt them in her face, even though you won the battle she still won the war: She got to you to the point where you had to go out and find another woman just to put in her face.

What I have found out over the past years, is that EVERY GIRL THAT EVER DID ME WRONG WAS FOR A REASON I COULD HAVE PREVENTED. Yes I have been cheated on, But for one reason or another I triggered the outcome. It may be because of something as small as not wanting to go to the movies or something as big as not wanting to have sex, even though it's not technically wrong, and even though women are irrational creatures, very rarely does a woman just say "hum, I think it's time to cheat for no particular reason whatsoever."

Let me give you an example of some of my past girlfriends:


Girl A) Over an eight month period, did not have Sex one time, although she through hint after hint at me. I was in love with her, and I still LOVE her as a person, but I was never just that physically attracted to her. I liked being with her, even as a boyfriend, but didn’t' want her physically. Not only that, she was a virgin, and I wanted to be really special when we actually did do it.

Outcome? She lost her virginity to someone else, causing us to break up.


Girl B) First and foremost, she cheated on her b/f me WITH me, that should have raised red flags all around. Started off as a great couple always having fun, died died down eventually.


Outcome? She cheated on me, because I didn't spend enough time with her and she "fell in love with this great guy".


Girl C) Put on a serious pedestal, were good friends, I had a major problem with saying no to her, weather it be pick her up at 6 in the morning or pick her up from the movies at 12 at night in the rain, or come fix her TV at 1 in the morning. We never actually went together but this is a great example nevertheless. Always talked about her b/f with me and their problems, things like that.


Outcome? We haven't talked for around a year and 2 months now, I told her unless she plans on having sex, don't think about calling.


What am I trying to say? Even though girl A lost her virginity with another guy and we were together for 8 months, can you really, Seriously blame her? I mean, I didn't give her any for almost a year, and I am supposed to expect her to stand pat, even though she though hint after hint after hint at me? I didn't realize it then but I do now, every flower in the garden has to be nourished to some extent. Even though it hurt like crazy when we broke up, it was the best solution: I couldn't give her want she wanted, which was sex, and that wasn't going to change. Why get mad? I love her, we went though a lot. Wish her the best, and move on with your life.

With Girl B, a red light should have gone off in my head when she happily cheated on her b/f with me. Pretty much the exact same t hang happened with us. I didn't care for her much, so it stung, but didn't hurt. If you know a girl has history of cheating, why do you get surprised when she does it to you? I shouldn't have been. Learn and move on.


With girl C, and let me mention that this girl was a knockout, why would you not take advantage of a guy who will do any ting for you, and ask for nothing in return? What I am saying is that although It sucked from my end, look at it from the other perspective, I really can't blame her now. I would have taken advantage of me. Eventually I wised up and told her to stop calling me. I hold no grudge towards her or any other girl to this day; hell if it wasn't for girl C I might not have found this site.

What really gets me is how these guys here, mostly the younger ones think it's cool and want to be a "player" by talking to different girls, but think that every girl on earth is evil when they are caught doing the same. It's a game, play it for what it's worth. Learn the rules and move on.

Every relationship with women except for possibly 1 in your life will result in a breakup. It's a fact. So why in the HELL get so bent out of shape with every one? You need to do the exact opposite; look for reasons why you are more than likely going to break up, because facts show, it's the overwhelmingly likely result in the relationship. When I meet women now, by judging their attitudes, I can pretty much tell why we are going to break up, when, and how.


Anyway to the point.

Revenge? First, look back and learn. What did you do wrong? What could you have done differently? How did you handle yourself? Once you do these things, and then seek revenge by making yourself a better person. not just by getting other women.

For most men they say 3 months to make you better. I said what the hell I could accomplish in 3 months. It took me almost 2 years to get where I wanted to be; where I could look at any woman in the face and not think, KNOW that they need me in their life, to wear I had a better understanding of what life has to offer, not just sex and parties.

Over those two years, I am less needy of women, I need more "me" time, because I got used to it over the last couple of years, and I am less tolerant of crap, from anyone, let alone women. I don't play phone tag, I don't leave messages, I don't lie about my motives, I don 't shy away from women, because I know I could care less about them (which I honestly don't know if that is a good thing). I could care less if I got rejected, I don't care if I have to spend a Friday night at home alone, I usually end up having more fun by myself then having to put up with a women all night just to get laid. When you can honestly have that attitude, you will have gotten revenge.


Perfect Example: Saturday was my little sisters birthday party. A female friend of mine had said she wanted to come to "meet my family". I was fine with that, and told her to come by my place at no later than 1:15. At 1:15 she is not at the door, didn't call, so without hesitation I left, at 1:15 on the dot. After the party I am back at my place playing pool with my best friend and she stops by, saying how sorry she was and things of that nature and how she wanted to make it up with me later. I told her in a polite manner that I already had plans and my "schedule" wouldn't be open until this coming thursday. She gets fustrated, pouts and leaves.

Mind you I had no plans whatsoever, actaully I had not planned, but was thinking about going to her place that night, but when she didnt' show I know that was down the drain. I went to blockbuster, rented a few movies, cut my phone off, ordered some pizza and watched movies to 3am.

My best friend who I was playing pool with had a friend of his call him and she said she wanted to go out to eat that night. We were suppose to go bowling saturday but he postponed to go with her. I had no problem with that, differnent guys have different styles, who am I to impose right? I even was going to let him borrow my car for the night. What happens? This girl calls him at 8:00 telling him she was getting ready, and never called him back the rest of the night. He left at least 4 messages on her answering machine. What it boils down to is that he canceled a surefire fun night with friends to see a girl, and she played him like a puppet. If he was a real man he woudln't talk to her again, what does he have to gain? He ruined a good saturday night playing phone tag with this tramp, for nothing at all.

After the girl left my apartment, he asked me "why are you doing tonight?" I said I didn't know, more than likely nothing. He said that was supid and I was passing up a good opprotunity to "get some". I broke it down to him, that it was WAY beyond the matter of sex, I could call her now and go over there tonight if I wanted to, it's about control of a relationship. You mess with my time, you pay a price. In this case, you won't see me again until thursday. What did I accomplish? Well for sure she knows I am not a chump, I have a life, to the point where I am busy for a week (and really, I am) until the next time she can see me, I haven't called her since and she has left 3 messages on my account and sent 1 email. What has my friend accomplished? By chasing sex, he isn't going to get any. I am guranteed a good night on thursday if I choose so.


IN other words, when you start doing things to better yourself because you geniunaly want to be a better person, and not because you wantmore women, is when you have gotten revenge.


Revenge is just another word for hurt, face it, if you didn't care for them or about them, you wouldn't want revenget because it would be a waste of time. What you need to do is stop the hurting, and don't try to redirect it towards them.

 

[Starman]

Good post backbreaker.

But you seem to have a lot of self directed anger/blame towards yourself for your relationships.

Revenge, anger, grudges, etc are ugly traits that you carry in a HUGE LUGGAGE BAG with you the rest of your LIFE.

A girl dissed you? You are angry. Hurt. You dissed her Back. Now feel a moment of satisfaction. NOTE: A MOMENT OF SaTISFACTION

the rest of your days you will carry with you that anger that this girl in the past dissed you..and your future behavior towards women will be based on a series of anger/revenge stories.

Yes, its true what you say.

A girl dissed you. Forgive her for being in her own self interest (as you are) and move on. Improve yourself. Feel Happy. Forget that garbage of lugging around bagges of anger, humiloiation and revenge.

 

[jlujan]

I hate my dad, he wasn't there for me at all during most of my life, you know what i say to him?

"I don't blame you, what happened happened and i made it, don't worry about me worry about yourself"

That says a hell of a lot more than doing something to make him pay.

 

[marqZAL]

In the words of Tu Pac "revenge is the sweetest joy next to gettin *****"...Fvck her sisters, her best freind...tell her new bf she gave you stds....do what you feel as long as its not illegal....

 

[Dust 2 Dust]

Re: Re: Revenge

Originally posted by backbreaker
Not necessary true.


First let me say that EVERYONE on this forum would like to get "sweet revenge" on someone in their life, it's just plain human nature, but how you go about it is key. If you go out and get other woman, just to flaunt them in her face, even though you won the battle she still won the war: She got to you to the point where you had to go out and find another woman just to put in her face.

What I have found out over the past years, is that EVERY GIRL THAT EVER DID ME WRONG WAS FOR A REASON I COULD HAVE PREVENTED. Yes I have been cheated on, But for one reason or another I triggered the outcome. It may be because of something as small as not wanting to go to the movies or something as big as not wanting to have sex, even though it's not technically wrong, and even though women are irrational creatures, very rarely does a woman just say "hum, I think it's time to cheat for no particular reason whatsoever."

Let me give you an example of some of my past girlfriends:


Girl A) Over an eight month period, did not have Sex one time, although she through hint after hint at me. I was in love with her, and I still LOVE her as a person, but I was never just that physically attracted to her. I liked being with her, even as a boyfriend, but didn’t' want her physically. Not only that, she was a virgin, and I wanted to be really special when we actually did do it.

Outcome? She lost her virginity to someone else, causing us to break up.


Girl B) First and foremost, she cheated on her b/f me WITH me, that should have raised red flags all around. Started off as a great couple always having fun, died died down eventually.


Outcome? She cheated on me, because I didn't spend enough time with her and she "fell in love with this great guy".


Girl C) Put on a serious pedestal, were good friends, I had a major problem with saying no to her, weather it be pick her up at 6 in the morning or pick her up from the movies at 12 at night in the rain, or come fix her TV at 1 in the morning. We never actually went together but this is a great example nevertheless. Always talked about her b/f with me and their problems, things like that.


Outcome? We haven't talked for around a year and 2 months now, I told her unless she plans on having sex, don't think about calling.


What am I trying to say? Even though girl A lost her virginity with another guy and we were together for 8 months, can you really, Seriously blame her? I mean, I didn't give her any for almost a year, and I am supposed to expect her to stand pat, even though she though hint after hint after hint at me? I didn't realize it then but I do now, every flower in the garden has to be nourished to some extent. Even though it hurt like crazy when we broke up, it was the best solution: I couldn't give her want she wanted, which was sex, and that wasn't going to change. Why get mad? I love her, we went though a lot. Wish her the best, and move on with your life.

With Girl B, a red light should have gone off in my head when she happily cheated on her b/f with me. Pretty much the exact same t hang happened with us. I didn't care for her much, so it stung, but didn't hurt. If you know a girl has history of cheating, why do you get surprised when she does it to you? I shouldn't have been. Learn and move on.


With girl C, and let me mention that this girl was a knockout, why would you not take advantage of a guy who will do any ting for you, and ask for nothing in return? What I am saying is that although It sucked from my end, look at it from the other perspective, I really can't blame her now. I would have taken advantage of me. Eventually I wised up and told her to stop calling me. I hold no grudge towards her or any other girl to this day; hell if it wasn't for girl C I might not have found this site.

What really gets me is how these guys here, mostly the younger ones think it's cool and want to be a "player" by talking to different girls, but think that every girl on earth is evil when they are caught doing the same. It's a game, play it for what it's worth. Learn the rules and move on.

Every relationship with women except for possibly 1 in your life will result in a breakup. It's a fact. So why in the HELL get so bent out of shape with every one? You need to do the exact opposite; look for reasons why you are more than likely going to break up, because facts show, it's the overwhelmingly likely result in the relationship. When I meet women now, by judging their attitudes, I can pretty much tell why we are going to break up, when, and how.


Anyway to the point.

Revenge? First, look back and learn. What did you do wrong? What could you have done differently? How did you handle yourself? Once you do these things, and then seek revenge by making yourself a better person. not just by getting other women.

For most men they say 3 months to make you better. I said what the hell I could accomplish in 3 months. It took me almost 2 years to get where I wanted to be; where I could look at any woman in the face and not think, KNOW that they need me in their life, to wear I had a better understanding of what life has to offer, not just sex and parties.

Over those two years, I am less needy of women, I need more "me" time, because I got used to it over the last couple of years, and I am less tolerant of crap, from anyone, let alone women. I don't play phone tag, I don't leave messages, I don't lie about my motives, I don 't shy away from women, because I know I could care less about them (which I honestly don't know if that is a good thing). I could care less if I got rejected, I don't care if I have to spend a Friday night at home alone, I usually end up having more fun by myself then having to put up with a women all night just to get laid. When you can honestly have that attitude, you will have gotten revenge.


Perfect Example: Saturday was my little sisters birthday party. A female friend of mine had said she wanted to come to "meet my family". I was fine with that, and told her to come by my place at no later than 1:15. At 1:15 she is not at the door, didn't call, so without hesitation I left, at 1:15 on the dot. After the party I am back at my place playing pool with my best friend and she stops by, saying how sorry she was and things of that nature and how she wanted to make it up with me later. I told her in a polite manner that I already had plans and my "schedule" wouldn't be open until this coming thursday. She gets fustrated, pouts and leaves.

Mind you I had no plans whatsoever, actaully I had not planned, but was thinking about going to her place that night, but when she didnt' show I know that was down the drain. I went to blockbuster, rented a few movies, cut my phone off, ordered some pizza and watched movies to 3am.

My best friend who I was playing pool with had a friend of his call him and she said she wanted to go out to eat that night. We were suppose to go bowling saturday but he postponed to go with her. I had no problem with that, differnent guys have different styles, who am I to impose right? I even was going to let him borrow my car for the night. What happens? This girl calls him at 8:00 telling him she was getting ready, and never called him back the rest of the night. He left at least 4 messages on her answering machine. What it boils down to is that he canceled a surefire fun night with friends to see a girl, and she played him like a puppet. If he was a real man he woudln't talk to her again, what does he have to gain? He ruined a good saturday night playing phone tag with this tramp, for nothing at all.

After the girl left my apartment, he asked me "why are you doing tonight?" I said I didn't know, more than likely nothing. He said that was supid and I was passing up a good opprotunity to "get some". I broke it down to him, that it was WAY beyond the matter of sex, I could call her now and go over there tonight if I wanted to, it's about control of a relationship. You mess with my time, you pay a price. In this case, you won't see me again until thursday. What did I accomplish? Well for sure she knows I am not a chump, I have a life, to the point where I am busy for a week (and really, I am) until the next time she can see me, I haven't called her since and she has left 3 messages on my account and sent 1 email. What has my friend accomplished? By chasing sex, he isn't going to get any. I am guranteed a good night on thursday if I choose so.


IN other words, when you start doing things to better yourself because you geniunaly want to be a better person, and not because you wantmore women, is when you have gotten revenge.


Revenge is just another word for hurt, face it, if you didn't care for them or about them, you wouldn't want revenget because it would be a waste of time. What you need to do is stop the hurting, and don't try to redirect it towards them.

This is the best post that I have read on here in weeks. I think its bible material.

 

[-HPNOTQ-]

BackBreaker...

Amen my brother... Articulately describes a true Don Juan.

DJ BIBLE Stuff...Very Nice...

 

[diplomatic_lies]

I say "WTF am I doing with this chick, am I a moron or just stupid, or has studying for university destroyed my brain?"

 

[princelydeeds]

I ain't a killa but don't push me
revenge is like the sweetest joy next to gettin pu$$y
Tupac Shakur

Revenge is a dish best served cold

Revenge can be sweet but those who are so busy trying to get even can never really get ahead.

 

[suavedave]

IGNORE!!!!!!!!!!!!!!!

IGNORE

 

[InLawsHateMe]

Lose her... chances are, it's all talk, and no game. Your expectations are too high now for what she would be capable of doing. One women used to drive me crazy with her dirty talk, but when it came down to it, she was just that, talk.

Fellas, if a chic ever says to you 'I don't masterbate, it's gross, and...' blah blah blah... lose her. She ain't worth the time.

 

[On-top]

Success is the best revenge. Sometimes it's a long term process, but it's still best.