Response Suggestions for OKCupid Dilemma

[finickywake]

Chick and I are "matches" on OKCupid. Meaning we both rated each other highly. She's easily a 10 in her photos and I was in no way expecting a response. I send her a message asking her what she wants to do next week, if she could do anything. In my profile it states I'm sober/don't drink. She replies "Have drinks with you."

Seeing as I don't drink, I'm not sure how to respond. This harkens back to my first post on confusion regarding sobriety and dating. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

 

[goldengoose]

She's easily a 10 in her photos.

HAHAHa a 10 on OKCupid

There are no 10's on OKCupid, Okcupid has uglier women than POF. You do understand that a 10 is perfect in every way, right? Why would a chick who has supermodel looks be on a site to get messages from fat, ugly, unemployed AFC's? She would be using her 10 looks to make millions of dollars off of herself, dating another famous man, not hitting up dudes below her in value on a free subpar datng site.

Why not go out with her for drinks? You don't drink yourself, let her drink the booze, get her h0rny, and get her back to your place to fvck. Easy huh?

A 9 then. Yeah, easy enough, but I don't want to be banging a drunk chick either.

There are no 9's on there either, Try like a 6 instead. I seriously doubt she will be drunk off a drink or two unless she is a lightweight. The point is to take her out to a place with a good atmosphere, get a drink in her, get her to laugh, get some kino in, get her h0rny, and get her back to your place for the bang.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

The mistake you made was in asking her what SHE would want to do, instead of already having a plan of action in place.

At any rate, she could be joking with you, especially if she saw your profile. My response would be semi-sarcastic - something like: "Great! Why don't we meet up at Starbucks and you can get any 'drink' you like - coffee, tea, mocha... whatever you get, it's all on me! "

Remember: dating is supposed to be FUN. Playful banter is encouraged.

 

[Piers Nivens]

People use 10 so commonly. There is NO SUCH THING AS A 10

 

[finickywake]

HAHAHa a 10 on OKCupid

There are no 10's on OKCupid, Okcupid has uglier women than POF. You do understand that a 10 is perfect in every way, right? Why would a chick who has supermodel looks be on a site to get messages from fat, ugly, unemployed AFC's? She would be using her 10 looks to make millions of dollars off of herself, dating another famous man, not hitting up dudes below her in value on a free subpar datng site.

Why not go out with her for drinks? You don't drink yourself, let her drink the booze, get her h0rny, and get her back to your place to fvck. Easy huh?

A 9 then. Yeah, easy enough, but I don't want to be banging a drunk chick either.

 

[finickywake]

The mistake you made was in asking her what SHE would want to do, instead of already having a plan of action in place.

At any rate, she could be joking with you, especially if she saw your profile. My response would be semi-sarcastic - something like: "Great! Why don't we meet up at Starbucks and you can get any 'drink' you like - coffee, tea, mocha... whatever you get, it's all on me! "

Remember: dating is supposed to be FUN. Playful banter is encouraged.

Thanks for the real response.

To the rest: 10, 9, 8, 7, whatever. And where I'm from POF is all black chicks, none of which I find attractive.

 

[Harry Wilmington]

Numbers are subjective. One man's 10 is another man's 4, and vice-versa.

Once you get out of the mind frame that these numbers exists on girls, your dating life will become a LOT easier because you'll realize that despite how they look on their outer shell, there are other factors that will bring them down to earth and have you viewing them as actual human beings with flaws instead of numbers. I lived with a chick in college that most would consider a "10," and everyone thought I was banging her. I wasn't, and we were just friends. Why didn't I date her? In short, she was very unclean around our apartment; she had irritable bowel syndrome and would take these awful-sounding craps every morning that I could hear from my room; she was very much about herself at times; and, when things would get broken around the apartment and I wasn't there, she would let it sit there and not be fixed or call maintenance.

So, to me, her "10" status dropped down to a 6 at best. More importantly, though, living with her gave me a more realistic expectation of what to expect when actually LIVING with a woman vs. just seeing her from time to time on dates. So now, when I meet up with a girl that everyone thinks is untouchable, the first thing I think to myself is: "I'll bet she has some kind of disgusting bathroom habit or living habit that's going to get on my nerves at some point..." It makes me less intimidated to talk to them, and I've been able to hook up with chicks that other dudes were afraid to even approach because of it.

 

[asa_don]

She's easily a 10 in her photos and I was in no way expecting a response.

you placed higher value on her.

I send her a message asking her what she wants to do next week, if she could do anything. In my profile it states I'm sober/don't drink. She replies "Have drinks with you."

don't ask her what she wants to do, tell her what you want to do. you're on online dating, you need to have that stuff planned out. a lot of women don't bother to read profiles, they just look at your pics. when i used it, women were asking me stuff that was already in my profile so i know they weren't readng it.

Seeing as I don't drink, I'm not sure how to respond. This harkens back to my first post on confusion regarding sobriety and dating. Any suggestions would be appreciated.

i have a feeling this date won't happen since you're not being assertive. since she offered drinks and you don't drink, i would change the date to do something else that is fun and cheap, that way it shows that you planned the date and you don't have to feel unconfortable about not drinking. bowling, shooting pool, anything you can interact and have fun to where you can bounce her to another place, most likely yours.

 

[finickywake]

Well, she wants to meet for coffee. "Sounds good to her". Cool stuff. 5 days single and already have a prospective date.