Respect from peers...

[Ken785]

this thread is about respect...i had a conversation with my girl cousin the other day...

she told me that i needed stand up from myself and that people walk on me all the time. she said i am too nice. she says she sees people around me all the time that walk on me. even cousins and people i consider my closest friends. i dont get it though...why do people do this? i try to be cool with everyone....

 

[Potbelly]

"I do not know the recipe for success, but I do know the recipe for failure: trying to please everybody."
- some guy, look it up. he won a pulitzer prize

 

[Jariel]

I remember someone saying the same thing to me about 4 years ago. Only weeks after she said it, I dated a girl who took me for a ride, "borrowed" money and then ditched me to avoid giving it back. I learned the hard way, and she wasn't the only one.

Few things annoy me more than people who take advantage of good people. I mean, you try to be cool, make them feel good and they exploit it.

What you have to remember is that people like this do not deserve your courtesy! You may avoid standing upto them to spare their feelings or avoid any awkwardness, but these people deserve to be put on the spot and embarrassed! They're asking for it! Just remember that.

I'm still cool with people, but the moment they try to take advantage of my good nature I'll put them in their place. You don't have to get confrontational or aggressive, you just need to call them on it. It's usually enough.

 

[djSlvt]

Read up on JD Fuentes - Sexual Key, and Julious Fast - Body Language.


Human interactions consist of dominating and submitting. Respect occurs when these things are balanced, nothing ever is balanced perfectely, it counts when it is balanced to a point where you are compfortable.


In your case, you are submitting too much. (your girl can tell) You might be compfortable with that, but other people see that and they understand that you are something they can dominate, and thus you get less and less respect.


Simple prison example; first thing you do when you come to prison is fight. You can loose this fight, it's ok, but if you don't fight, other inmates will know that you're a b1tch.



Again, this is a state of mind. There isn't a single thing you can do, just learn theory (those two books give basics), and practice, and it comes to you.