Replace fear with curiosity

lakeshore

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Just a little tidbit.

Instead of being afraid of something: OMG, what if she doesn't like me. I can't talk to her.

Be curious: Hmm, I wonder if she likes me. Lets find out.


Just a little nugget I picked up, thought it made sense. Try to flip fear into curiosity.
 

lakeshore

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and you can do it with whatever really, not just girls.

fear: I can't wear that, people are going to look at me like I'm an idiot.

curios: I wonder what kind of reaction i get if i wear that.
 

Stryker

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Definitely helpful, but it might be better to imagine yourself as the superior. Say to yourself, "She's cute, but I wonder if she's actually worth talking to. Let's find out..." You shouldn't be bothered about whether or not she'll like you. That's what cripples most guys. Wondering whether or not she'll like you creates that fear of rejection. Flip it over, make yourself the prize.
 

DaveHart

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I thought I'd interject this little tidbit myself.

Did you know that anxiety (fear) and anticipation (excitement) are biologically the same? The release the same chemicals... the only difference is we percieve one as negative and one as positive. Change your perception, change your life ;-)
 
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