The Antichrist_Star
Master Don Juan
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Today guys... we are going to take it back to the very essence of Don Juanism, and life. This thing is... confidence. In my opinion... this is one of the biggest problem that men face in today's society, we have no confidence in ourselves. Men have become simple molds of jello allowing women and the media to shape us into whatever they want us to be. Let me tell you something right now guys: If you do not believe in yourself... other people will not. If you do not respect and value yourself... other people will not. It is that plain, and it is that simple. Now... it is my hope that I can create a new brand of confidence. I personally am an arrogant person (which supposedly women do not like... my question to you is... why should it matter what women like versus what women do not?) and have noticed on the forums time and time again that being arrogant is bad... I beg to differ, but I digress.
So then I pondered this thought for the past week, "What if you could be confidently arrogant?" Meaning that you have all of the good qualities of being confident (high self-esteem and self-worth) without the negative sides (basically no one knowing that you have such esteem because confident people are not supposed to show that they are confident). Then add in all of the good qualities of being arrogant (people knowing that you have such a value on yourself, thereby placing a high amount of value in you also) but without all of the negatives (inferiority complexes, or people thinking that you think that you are better than them). What you have in this hybrid is Confident Arrogance, and the tips below may help you in the quest to find this interesting synergy.
You are what you think: Remember that old adage, "You are what you eat?" the same thing applies with belief in yourself... you are what you think. Often the problem with keeping confidence is that everything does not pan out the way we want it to all the time. Sometimes we hit rough spots, that make it seem like the good times did not ever matter. Sometimes we simply get cynical, and begin to expect less and less from the world... this is not the way to live. What you want to do is the opposite and expect almost too much from people... you would be surprised at what you can get people to do if you merely asked. This particularly true with women and sex. Women want to do kinky things, women want to be slutty, your job is to merely ask.
But Confident Arrogance is not only about asking... it is mostly about expecting. People should get that aura from you that you expect to get everything that you want in life, because you deserve it (whether you do or do not is completely irrevelant). How do you think spoiled kids get everything they want? They honestly believe that they deserve nothing less but whatever they want, and parents are more than happy to give it to them. So set high standards and make bold demands... believe me, people will be happy to give them to you. But remember the most important part about this: People will only believe in you only if you believe in yourself. Not only that, you have to act differently from everyone around you... thereby reaffirming your self-belief to everyone else.
That was easy: To further reaffirm your Confident Arrogance to other people, you have to make everything that you do seem extremely easy. I know guys in High School that people flocked to... they partied all the time and it appeared to everyone else that they never did any work... but they always got all A's. One day I simply asked them how they did it... the answer did not surprise me much. They did all of their hard work in the privacy of their own home. They sweat, they toiled... but to everyone else it looked like they weren't struggling at all. People have this habit of wanting to show off their hard work, thinking that people will congratulate them for it... usually the reverse happens (that's one of the follies of arrogance).
People do not want to see struggle and hard work (humans are inheritenly lazy)... they just want to see the results of it... the glamour (which is why they like celebrities so much). People do not want to see all of the hard work... they just want to see Michael Jordan score 45 points when he has the flu. This means that whatever your talent or hobby is... keep your mouth shut about all of the labor that you may put into it. Everyone knows that you may have put a lot of work into it... but if it just seems like everything comes natural to you... people will embrace your Confident Arrogance... rather than shun it.
This is merely the first step into the bigger picture guys. Confident Arrogance will give you the confidence in yourself that you need, but the arrogance towards everyone else in order to get whatever you want. The only boundaries and limits that exist in this world are the very boundaries and limits that you set on yourself. There's always more to come gentlemen... next I will take you guys back to charm school and bring back the fine, and ancient art of charm (I mean real charm).
The Bad Man Is... Reloaded
So then I pondered this thought for the past week, "What if you could be confidently arrogant?" Meaning that you have all of the good qualities of being confident (high self-esteem and self-worth) without the negative sides (basically no one knowing that you have such esteem because confident people are not supposed to show that they are confident). Then add in all of the good qualities of being arrogant (people knowing that you have such a value on yourself, thereby placing a high amount of value in you also) but without all of the negatives (inferiority complexes, or people thinking that you think that you are better than them). What you have in this hybrid is Confident Arrogance, and the tips below may help you in the quest to find this interesting synergy.
You are what you think: Remember that old adage, "You are what you eat?" the same thing applies with belief in yourself... you are what you think. Often the problem with keeping confidence is that everything does not pan out the way we want it to all the time. Sometimes we hit rough spots, that make it seem like the good times did not ever matter. Sometimes we simply get cynical, and begin to expect less and less from the world... this is not the way to live. What you want to do is the opposite and expect almost too much from people... you would be surprised at what you can get people to do if you merely asked. This particularly true with women and sex. Women want to do kinky things, women want to be slutty, your job is to merely ask.
But Confident Arrogance is not only about asking... it is mostly about expecting. People should get that aura from you that you expect to get everything that you want in life, because you deserve it (whether you do or do not is completely irrevelant). How do you think spoiled kids get everything they want? They honestly believe that they deserve nothing less but whatever they want, and parents are more than happy to give it to them. So set high standards and make bold demands... believe me, people will be happy to give them to you. But remember the most important part about this: People will only believe in you only if you believe in yourself. Not only that, you have to act differently from everyone around you... thereby reaffirming your self-belief to everyone else.
That was easy: To further reaffirm your Confident Arrogance to other people, you have to make everything that you do seem extremely easy. I know guys in High School that people flocked to... they partied all the time and it appeared to everyone else that they never did any work... but they always got all A's. One day I simply asked them how they did it... the answer did not surprise me much. They did all of their hard work in the privacy of their own home. They sweat, they toiled... but to everyone else it looked like they weren't struggling at all. People have this habit of wanting to show off their hard work, thinking that people will congratulate them for it... usually the reverse happens (that's one of the follies of arrogance).
People do not want to see struggle and hard work (humans are inheritenly lazy)... they just want to see the results of it... the glamour (which is why they like celebrities so much). People do not want to see all of the hard work... they just want to see Michael Jordan score 45 points when he has the flu. This means that whatever your talent or hobby is... keep your mouth shut about all of the labor that you may put into it. Everyone knows that you may have put a lot of work into it... but if it just seems like everything comes natural to you... people will embrace your Confident Arrogance... rather than shun it.
This is merely the first step into the bigger picture guys. Confident Arrogance will give you the confidence in yourself that you need, but the arrogance towards everyone else in order to get whatever you want. The only boundaries and limits that exist in this world are the very boundaries and limits that you set on yourself. There's always more to come gentlemen... next I will take you guys back to charm school and bring back the fine, and ancient art of charm (I mean real charm).
The Bad Man Is... Reloaded
