Relationship sex poll

[DJinTraining06]

For those of u who are currently in an LTR, how many times a week on average do u have sex?
I'm trying to see if once a week is extremely low or not that uncommon. Considering I live with the girl I feel its way too low.

 

[oakraiderz2]

All the time. Once a week would NEVER fly with me. You should do some investigating.

 

[oakraiderz2]

All the time. Once a week would NEVER fly with me. You should do some investigating.

 

[The Logical Player]

you are SUCH an AFC trying to come up with rationalizations such as making this thread, in order to stay with your disrespectful useless guuuuuuurlfriend

grow some balls chump

in case people are wondering what im talking about, im referring to this:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=154704

you have been given advice OVER AND OVER, and yet you don't listen,

WHY DO YOU HAVE A GODDAMN GUUURLFRIEND WHO DISRESPECTS YOU AND DOESNT PUT OUT?? WHAT IN THE BLUE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU???

what a loser!

 

[DJinTraining06]

you are SUCH an AFC trying to come up with rationalizations such as making this thread, in order to stay with your disrespectful useless guuuuuuurlfriend

grow some balls chump

in case people are wondering what im talking about, im referring to this:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=154704

you have been given advice OVER AND OVER, and yet you don't listen,

WHY DO YOU HAVE A GODDAMN GUUURLFRIEND WHO DISRESPECTS YOU AND DOESNT PUT OUT?? WHAT IN THE BLUE HELL IS WRONG WITH YOU???

what a loser!

She doesn't disrespect me we get along very well. The lack of sex is what is bothering me, and it doesnt seem to be bothering her, she seems happy as a clam. Im just trying to figure out why?
I can't seem to find the slightest evidence she may be cheating on me, and i know she used to really really like sex so it doesnt make sense. If she isnt into me anymore why is she always talkin bout us being married and why is she so happy in general? She also wants to see me and do struff with me all the time. I do love her and i want to get it back to how it was with alot of sex but im not sure how to go about it. I know you think im a loser for staying with her, but it's not at that point yet. If a girl who loves me this much wont give me any what makes u think another girl will after dating a while. So the way i see it the problem is not just her it must be the fact that I allow it right?

I decided im gonna just keep improving myself, working out, eating good, socializing - goin out more with my guy friends, and working overtime cuz money ain't a bad thing. The distance and lack of my attention will make her think bout how she acts when she is with me and maybe lead to more sex. As a side I wil be in better shape, healthier, and maybe get a bigger social cirlcle all of which will make me feel more confident and ill have more money in my pocket from the overtime. This way if it doesn't get better with her, ill be completely ready to move on since i'll be at my best and feel confident around girls and in general. If this doesn't work i promise u i will listen to ur advice and dump her.

 

[Captain]

If she isnt into me anymore why is she always talkin bout us being married and why is she so happy in general? She also wants to see me and do struff with me all the time. I do love her and i want to get it back to how it was with alot of sex but im not sure how to go about it. I know you think im a loser for staying with her, but it's not at that point yet. If a girl who loves me this much wont give me any what makes u think another girl will after dating a while. So the way i see it the problem is not just her it must be the fact that I allow it right?

The last part I made bold: Yes, problems like this are much easier to fix earlier than they are to fix later.

It doesn't really matter if she is into you or not, you aren't getting everything that you want out of the relationship.

 

[DJinTraining06]

The last part I made bold: Yes, problems like this are much easier to fix earlier than they are to fix later.

It doesn't really matter if she is into you or not, you aren't getting everything that you want out of the relationship.

So let me ask you then, is there no way at all to change the lack of sex. Does ending the relationship have to be my only course of action? Are u saying that there's nothing I can say to her to get more sex. Is there no behavioral change I can make? Does kicking herout have to be the only way?

 

[pLaYtHiNg]

If she's happy and respecting your feelings then talk to her about it! Personally, I've been in her shoes... and it was a lack of romance, timing, energy, whatever that got in the way of my libido. That being said, a little effort on my partner's part, (making the time to talk, go out... act like a couple, as opposed to acting like roomies)was all it took to bring it back. Guys often stop doing all the little romantic things they do when 'courting' and just as they become 'comfortable' within the relationship, so does the woman. Just in different ways.

No, ending the relationship and kicking her out quite possibly means even LESS sex for you... and it's really shallow and flaky on your part, especially if you're both happy with the rest of the relationship.

Forcing the issue will just repel her, so be patient and subtle about your intentions, (to get more sex) and act like a guy who really appreciates what he does get out of the relationship. No two people are ever going to be exactly perfectly compatible ALL THE TIME!

 

[DJinTraining06]

If she's happy and respecting your feelings then talk to her about it! Personally, I've been in her shoes... and it was a lack of romance, timing, energy, whatever that got in the way of my libido. That being said, a little effort on my partner's part, (making the time to talk, go out... act like a couple, as opposed to acting like roomies)was all it took to bring it back. Guys often stop doing all the little romantic things they do when 'courting' and just as they become 'comfortable' within the relationship, so does the woman. Just in different ways.

No, ending the relationship and kicking her out quite possibly means even LESS sex for you... and it's really shallow and flaky on your part, especially if you're both happy with the rest of the relationship.

Forcing the issue will just repel her, so be patient and subtle about your intentions, (to get more sex) and act like a guy who really appreciates what he does get out of the relationship. No two people are ever going to be exactly perfectly compatible ALL THE TIME!

Why's it always the guy's fault lol. I've tried acting like before we moved in together and it has no effect. Im startin to think she really thinks once a week tops is alot of sex. It's weird.

 

[DJinTraining06]

If she's happy and respecting your feelings then talk to her about it! Personally, I've been in her shoes... and it was a lack of romance, timing, energy, whatever that got in the way of my libido. That being said, a little effort on my partner's part, (making the time to talk, go out... act like a couple, as opposed to acting like roomies)was all it took to bring it back. Guys often stop doing all the little romantic things they do when 'courting' and just as they become 'comfortable' within the relationship, so does the woman. Just in different ways.

No, ending the relationship and kicking her out quite possibly means even LESS sex for you... and it's really shallow and flaky on your part, especially if you're both happy with the rest of the relationship.

Forcing the issue will just repel her, so be patient and subtle about your intentions, (to get more sex) and act like a guy who really appreciates what he does get out of the relationship. No two people are ever going to be exactly perfectly compatible ALL THE TIME!

And one more thing I'd like to add was that maybe if she put out a lil more and really just a lil I would treat her differently. i'm really not a hard guy to please. Sex 2-3 times a week on average, with a bj or 2 a month would make me a very happy guy. Is that so much to ask?

She's the one who is in bed at 9-9:30 every night. Sometimes i get home from work at 9:15 and shes in bed with the lights closed asleep. Even when im home before her from work she does that. So how can i be romantic? the girl is in bed when 6 year olds are. If we're ever home on a rainy sat night, she isnt even up late enuff to watch SNL, 70 yr old ladies r up at that hr! When we werent living together she never wanted to go to bed at those times and she used to attack me and talk so dirty and stuff whatver chance she had. i feel almost tricked, it boggles my mind. Things were so much better before we moved in.

I recently watched that movie American Beauty and I don't want to become Kevin Spaceys character someday if i marry this girl. In the movie theres a line when he complains to his wife about how unnecessary she considers him to be (im paraphrasing) plus she doesn't have sex with him. I have a feelin that how it'll be 10-15 yrs from now, hell prob even sooner.
Like i said 2-3 times a week (most weeks not even every week, just most) and you could minus the bj's id still be completely happy and satisfied with the relationship.
She feels infrequent sex and no oral ever is ok in a 2 yr relationship well fine, but then whats in it for me? Why should i b treating her like some princess with all the romance and all that bs if i dont feel wanted and desired myself and not getting laid. Why is it always the guy?

 

[oakraiderz2]

I recently watched that movie American Beauty and I don't want to become Kevin Spaceys character someday if i marry this girl.

Youre a f*cking tool. IF YOU MARRY THIS GIRL???! She doesnt have sex with you EVER and you are considering marrying her? If shes doesnt want some d*ck then leave her. Case and point.

 

[slickaz]

listen dude..
go back to the top of this thread and start reading again..slowly.

see what logical said?
then see you're reason why he's wrong?

and see you're final post on how mad you are.

yeh, get it?

go back and read it all over again if you dont..

and call her out on, coz no, she is not responsible to give you what you want, you're a man, go get what you want, and if you aint getting what YOU want, which at this point seems to be s3x, then put her out.
also remember, absense makes the heart grow fonder, the more you push her for it, the less she'll wanna give you.

so go out buy yourself some new clothes, new fragrances, dress well for work, gym and go out more with your boys, dont give her much attention, she'll start to crave it. then you'll see she'll wanna jump you.

and if she aint jumpin you after all that? well then im sure other girls in the clubs would want to since you smell and look nice..right?

 

[DJinTraining06]

listen dude..
go back to the top of this thread and start reading again..slowly.

see what logical said?
then see you're reason why he's wrong?

and see you're final post on how mad you are.

yeh, get it?

go back and read it all over again if you dont..

and call her out on, coz no, she is not responsible to give you what you want, you're a man, go get what you want, and if you aint getting what YOU want, which at this point seems to be s3x, then put her out.
also remember, absense makes the heart grow fonder, the more you push her for it, the less she'll wanna give you.

so go out buy yourself some new clothes, new fragrances, dress well for work, gym and go out more with your boys, dont give her much attention, she'll start to crave it. then you'll see she'll wanna jump you.

and if she aint jumpin you after all that? well then im sure other girls in the clubs would want to since you smell and look nice..right?

I like your advice cuz at least you give the relatiuonship a chance. Thats exactly what i been thinking - improve myself - workout, go out, etc. and see if the absence makes her change her ways. and if she still don't want to put out then i'll give her the boot. it just feels so shallow cuz personaltiy wise we click and we love each other. I am gonna have a hard time goin thru with it if it comes to that.

 

[slickaz]

yeh well life is full of fun decisions apparantly.

Be more independant, tell her you're working late some days, dont tell her what you're doing though.
Other times just go out tell her you're going to see your friends, dont tell her who if she asks.
stay mysterious.
but you'll be smelling good, looking good and she'll start to wonder whats going on.
every one and then take her out to a romantic dinner, and take her home, take control of the spot and push her to the wall and take what you want.
dont give her a choice to say no.
she doesnt have a choice thats why she was born with 2 X chromosomes.

other days, go home with a sexy lingerie set and some roses, or sh!t i once took the best oysters in town to this girls house, and she asked me what that was about, and i said she should have some quick coz ive already had enough to have the s3x drive of a bull and she needs to keep up with me.

you have to mix and match and be spontaneous. one day you're a lion in bed other days you're the romantic guy, other days she doesnt deserve ur attention, and still others she gets it all.
switch it up and down, you;re the guy, you run the house and you should be doing it on YOUR terms when YOU are in the mood.

go get em tiger

 

[The Logical Player]

hey loser,

http://www.myprops.org/channels/Tom-Leykis-Radio-Show-Podcasts/

100's of episodes for you to enjoy where men in similar situations as you get told the TRUTH about "having a guuuuuuuurlfriend"

you're welcome

 

[slickaz]

wrong post wrong thread..

 

[Leporello]

If she's asleep when you get home, wake her up.

Or fvck in the morning.

Don't be too harsh with this guy. He's clearly been with this girl for a long time, and like all of us he's just trying to keep his dyck hard in a cold and unforgiving universe.

 

[TheBucketOfTruth]

She probably goes to bed early because she's tired from having so much sex with people that aren't you. Let her know that her last guy forgot to take the KY jelly with him when he left your place last.

This is what happens when you are with someone for so long. You can still be in love (whatever that means), but the romance and excitement is gone. You're too comfortable with each other. Remember when she used to make an effort to look good? Remember when she used to want to have sex with you? Where have all the good times gone?

 

[Captain]

So let me ask you then, is there no way at all to change the lack of sex. Does ending the relationship have to be my only course of action? Are u saying that there's nothing I can say to her to get more sex. Is there no behavioral change I can make? Does kicking herout have to be the only way?

Well, it would have been best to not let the sex frequency drop in the first place.

Get her in bed tonight, light some candles, and have sex with her. If she isn't in the mood, get her in the mood with foreplay. Do that for the next few nights. Flirt with her.

If she only has sex grudgingly, or doesn't enjoy it, or blows you off or tells you to stop, it's time to end the relationship.

 

[Guoy Darko]

Buy some nice oils and give her a massage tonight. Whohooo!

(And I have to agree with slickaz)