Rejection

Andre2807

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Here's the thing...

I have no problem with rejections. My only problem is the time when I get rejected.

I've been cold approaching girls this past 2 weeks consistently and probably met 30 women in the process. Got many leads (ie girls I know I'll see again, but didn't ask her number), got a few phone numbers and going on a date this Saturday... and another date the weekend thereafter.

The times I do get rejected, is when I go for the phone number or instant date. The interaction will be fun. The vibe will be great. My eye contact and body language good. But when I verbalise my intention (ie asking for phone number, or instant date) that is the only time I've gotten rejected. 95% of those rejections is a sincere "Sorry, I have a boyfriend"

My question is this... is it a good thing that I get rejected when I go for a number/instant date... or should I get rejected earlier? Am I heading the right direction?
 

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I don't see anything wrong, especially when you cold approach. If you are in a bar/club, girls almost know if you talk to them you are looking for something, so they may reject you earlier. In public and cold approach, they are off guard and may be not sure of your true intent in the beginning. It all makes sense.
 

Andre2807

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I get what you're saying... but I still feel like I'm doing something wrong. It's like the girl don't know why I'm there... only until I ask for her number, tell her I want to see her again, or ask for a coffee immediately.

I want her to know why I'm there right from the start, and that's my problem.
 

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Andre2807 said:
I get what you're saying... but I still feel like I'm doing something wrong. It's like the girl don't know why I'm there... only until I ask for her number, tell her I want to see her again, or ask for a coffee immediately.

I want her to know why I'm there right from the start, and that's my problem.
what's your open line?
 

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I always open by noticing her surroundings and what she's doing and making a witty comment about it. Then I introduce myself, followed by something in the lines of "I was walking, I noticed you and just wanted to tell you that you look rather sexy in that (depending if it's leopard print or whatever)" "are you from around here?"
 

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Bruh listen up, if you want to be a true Don Juan you have to reach that point where you don't care about rejection. It took me personally like a year of cold approaching, dealing with women and getting rejected frequently. I had such a huge ego and that was one of the main reasons that I didnt have the succes I wanted with the girls. The point is you shouldn't care at all and forget about your ego when it comes to gaming women. When she isn't interested, or not in the mood, or she doesnt digg your style or anything, just shake it off, be polite towards her and forget about her completeley. Move on to the next until you have so many interested plates that you really don't and can't care about the girls that rejected you.

I reached that point, I really don't and can't care when a girl rejects me because I have so many plates going on. I approach so many girls and close so many numbers that I don't care when a girl in paric gives me mixed signals or ignores me or anything like that.

Keep approaching, if you wanna reach the true DJ goal you really can't let your mood get affected by rejections and the only way is pushing true, keep approaching, keep gaming and dropp the girls that give you headaches and approach another, it's that simple. !!! goodluck bruhh were all in this together
 
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