Rejection Section!

[Athos]

Alright, before people get the wrong idea, this isn't me being negative and posting useless ****... BUT

I thought since a lot of people are afraid to approach BECAUSE they are afraid to get rejected, it might help if people (especially the experienced guys) posted their rejections.

Maybe when they just started and their game wasn't so tight or even recently and what they learnt from it - and ESPECIALLY how they held their frame and didn't let it affect them.

This should be a thread of POSITIVE attitudes to maintain your frame.

A old cliche one that, if you can manage to believe works for me is "It's her loss".

Basically, sometimes it's a easier said than done to handle it, and though I can approach now... sometimes the rejections feel like **** so you end up increasing AA for next time cause of these negative feelings so, I think any ways to reframe and keep positive about blown out sets is good.

Err from yesterday, already posted this in another thread but seems but yeah... Just did it cause... I don't know, to try and prove to myself that I could do it.

Walked up to bartender "Can I have your number?" "No."

How did I reframe that and make sure I didn't feel bad? Truth is I didn't. Just trying not to think about it LOL. Well, I think subconsciously I just said she wasn't that hot and it's no big deal.

 

[Athos]

Yeah.

 

[f283000]

Err from yesterday, already posted this in another thread but seems but yeah... Just did it cause... I don't know, to try and prove to myself that I could do it.

Walked up to bartender "Can I have your number?" "No."

This reminds me of my early days. Most of my stuff was like this and were embarrassing at that time. Now I don't even remember most of them which is exactly the point.

You should try to approach as many women as you can because it will make you a better conversationalist with women, kill your fear of talking to women and approaching strangers and...

YOU WON'T REMEMBER MOST OF THE NO'S BUT WILL STILL KEEP THE BENEFITS OF THE EXPERIENCE!

Guys are worried about embarrassment and rejection but you have to realize that the girls you approach now won't even remember your face 2 years from now and neither will you. In fact you probably might not see them ever again. However, you will still keep the benefits of the experience of approaching and working on your game forever.

 

[Athos]

Yeah, really true man.

I think it just gets easier with time.

Both the AA and the feelings of rejection.

Every time i feel **** cause I get blown out, I try even hard to remind myself of the good **** about myself and how awesome I am. Just cause a set blows you out doesn't mean anything bad about yourself.

 

[Lucifero]

I, personally, don't mind getting rejected, flaked on, blown out, etc.

I know since I approach a lot of women this stuff is bound to happen eventually...so I just let the cards fall where they may...

 

[loveshogun]

I can say that I still get rejected all the time for things like numbers - around 50 percent. But now that you're asking me for a particular RECENT story, I plain don't remember them.

I remember lots from back in high school though, and that's when it hurt the most. But I guess I just never really lost heart, and as I became more successful, I was just like "f*ck it, I see a girl I wanna talk to, I'm just gonna go do it."

I stopped keeping track of my rejections after that.

 

[Athos]

Yeah bingo.

 

[john_trenor]

You are absolutely right about shaking the pain off. Don't get into the trend of getting rejected though.. If somethings not working. Think outside of the box and let the attraction take control.

Women’s expectations play a big role in our subconscious mind. For example, when we approach a smoking hot blond we subconsciously debate if we measure up to her physical standards. This is the biggest reason why men get intimidated by looks and expect rejection before it occurs. Fortunately, for men looks don’t play as big of a role in the attraction department as much as we think. It’s all about engaging in a natural conversation.

When a man approaches a woman, he needs to express positive energy almost like he’s unfamiliar with rejection. Now I know that we all have experienced rejection in some point and time, but we can’t cling on to the past like puppies. We have to think positive and act casually about approaching women. Rejection should be the last thing on a our minds when it comes to engaging in a conversation with a woman. :yes:

 

[Tovansky]

as long as you respect and love yourself, you are naturally confident, and rejection won't do anything to you, since at the back of your mind you know that you are the prize, not the other way around, therefore it's the girls' loss to reject you. But to love and respect yourself, you need psychological practice.

speaking about bartender, you know the girls going around club to offer jello shot and stuff? So I was with my friends and when this girl came over to make us buy the shots, I just smiled, kino her waist, and told her that I would buy if she gave me her phone number while smiling. She was giggling and every of my friends were laughing (they didn't think I would actually do it). I could tell that I might be the first guy that night or ever on her job that ever hit on her. My left hand still on her waist, I handed my phone to her and she gave me her number... and I didn't need to pay for the shots since my friends paying (this fact is unrelated though).

so, your positiveness and confidence must shine brightly. if you are rejected, I mean, I do get rejected too, just tell yourself that it's their loss, because it indeed is.