Rejection? Big deal....

[JdelaSilviera]

So you were rejected by a bunch of females and you feel like crap.
First let me salute you cause at least you had the balls to make a move, wich many males don´t have.

There is nothing wrong with rejection, and by the way I see many of my friends that are considered very good looking being rejected. Being rejected is a part of being a male, in matters of dating, we have to approach because we are supposedly strong enough to handle rejection and women aren´t.

Your game/looks/assets might be to blame for sure, but bear in mind that 50% (at least) of females are already committed emotionally to another male, it could be their boyfriend, or that unattainable guy that for no good reason she thinks is a prince, she could have judged you wrongly and women are experts on that (only in their minds their intuition works), she might reject you because she doesn´t want you to find her flaws, she might want to prove to her friends that she is a lady and not a slut... And many more things could be added, the truth is that many times you don´t have any fault, and being rejected doesn´t mean you aren´t a high quality guy.

Why would you even care if a girl doesn´t like you.... Remember of a girl you rejected, what would you think of her if you knew you knocked down her self esteem... you would think even lower of her, why should she be affected by you?
More over, you should already know that women make terrible choices many times, you might see a hottie dating a guy just because he is older, he is foreigner, a skinny artist, a hippie etc... Women are weird by nature, and don´t even know how to think for themselves, that´s why you have pre-selection, because women can´t make decisions so they will want a male that other females want, or they think others want.
Don´t be jealous of other guy just because he got the girl, it doesn´t even mean he is better than you in anyway...

Other reason you may feel very bad about being rejected, is because you put women on a pedestal, and you need their validation. If you were to approach an old women without teeth for fun, for sure you wouldn´t have any problems.. because you don´t see any value on her. You might want to see women as lower than you, it will help you.

From a guy who used to have many girls chasing him, let me say there is nothing fantastic about that, specially if you are picky. In general very few women are : educated, smart, pretty and in shape, good moral values. Most women specially if over 23, are already completly out of shape, bitter towards men due to their pass with bad boys and so on....

So please, stop giving them the importance they don´t deserve, most women (as most men) are not dating material, and that´s why most relationships do not work..... I would say women are even worse because it seems very difficult for them to be even loyal with their friends.... I have many females in my family, and the stuff they told me about their friends is just unheard of.... and there is almost a general consensus that women can´t be good to each other. For me, a good person is good towards anyone, I don´t believe that a woman who is a backstabber to their friends can be a good wife, even if deeply in love....

so in summary don´t care about being rejected because:

1) the fault my not be yours

2) even if it is, you should be strong enough to handle it as a male.

3) a girl isn´t superior to you just tbecause she rejected you, nor she "won" the game

4) most women (and probably the ones you are chasing) are not that high quality and wouldn´t change your life for the better. Most women after 20 (and while single), become fat, bitter, not very smart etc...

So be picky! most women now, shouldn´t even be chased since they have nothing to offer.

To finish,if you were rejected by a high quality female: Good personality, looks, shape, smarts, moral values, you should be sad for sure but , I doubt many of you were rejected by this kind taking into account the stories you tell, just keep searching and trying, remember that no one will remember you for being rejected wich is the rule for most guys, but they might remember the good girls you scored... While that, give a big thank you to the girls that rejected you and were low quality, cause they might have saved your lives.

 

[st_99]

There is no such thing as a "must have" women. As long as we
understand that we shouldn't care about rejection. Get that ingrained
in your head.

 

[btownbuck2012]

This is bible worthy stuff right here. GREAT post.

 

[Mike32ct]

Like the OP said, and I think gaspipe said in another thread, women DON'T have the best judgement as far as men goes. So please don't fall into the trap thinking a rejection means you have low value.

Remember, women send marriage proposals to serial killers and dudes on death row. Ever hear of men doing sh*t like that? Never.

While that's an extreme example, how many intelligent, hard working, and decent looking guys do women routinely reject even though he's done nothing wrong? Many.

 

[perseverance]

This a golden post full of top advice. I used to take rejection badly when it came to women, but strangely enough I used the rejection from jobs and other things and channelled that rejection into something more positive and each rejection just made me more determined to succeed and that attitude has worked its way into my thinking when it comes to women. I've been rejected more times than I've had success but that's just way life goes. You win some and you lose some, but as long as I become the man I want to be and as long as those rejections make me stronger as a person then it's all good. Being rejected by a woman isn't that bad in all honesty, I just laugh it off and move on. There's no point sulking, getting angry, bitter and frustrated. You're only damaging yourself and doing yourself a major disservice.

 

[pdx1138]

The great thing about rejection is after it's happened a number of times you get used to it, to the point it doesn't phase you.

I just got rejected last week and haven't given it a second thought.

 

[floydb25]

Nice post. I think a lot of it has to do with ego. Everyone assumes that they get rejected because there's something they did wrong, or are flawed in some way. This takes a hit to their self-esteem, and they start to feel worthless, and in dire need of changing.

Not true. You simply aren't compatible with everyone. Everyone is different, and looking for different things. It really has nothing to do with you. Changing yourself to appease someone won't work, because then you're eliminating all the people who do want you. Who cares if someone doesn't? You're not going to get along with everybody, and that's ok. Find those that you do connect with. This includes friendships. Out of the billions of people out there - how many do you really like? Exactly. Women are no different. Just because they're "hot" - doesn't mean you have to change your entire being to get with them.

Of course, you're going to run into a few jerks and high maintenance *****es along the way - who ARE going to suggest that you're not good enough, are flawed, insult and criticize you, etc. So what? That's what they do. They're bad people. It doesn't make any of it true. They just need to bring other people down to feel better about themselves, and claim superiority over others. It still has nothing to do with you; you aren't worthless. Who cares what they think? Their opinion isn't important; nor do they speak for everyone - contrary to their delusional beliefs.

Too many people become desperate and seek the approval of those who dont want them. They don't seem to realize that 1) you're never going to get the approval of someone who's against you; they're just going to keep bringing you down, and making you feel worthless; 2) they're nothing special themselves; there's no grand prize waiting at the end; 3) you're wasting time pining for someone who doesn't want you - when you could be having great success with all those that do.

 

[PDubb75]

Excellent post...

 

[sstype]

I can't even get the average looking women to pay attention to me at a nightclub last week....while my hot exotic dancer ex-gf still comes over to f*ck me.

The moral of the story is women are unpredictable and deriving your self-worth from how they perceive or respond to you is a recipe for insanity.

Good post OP.