casperian1980
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Okay this is the first time I've ever asked for dating advice online, but really need some feedback on how I screwed this one up. I met this girl online and, for a first date, I took her to a bar to hear live music. I wouldn't normally take a girl to a bar for a first date but she mentioned that she really likes live music and I could tell that she wanted to go out and have fun. From the start, she was pretty affectionate...she was the first online date I've had who greeted me with a hug - the conversation was okay although I did most of the talking - she was kind of monosyllabic - giving short answers to my questions - but we had some good laughs. After a few drinks she got real flirty and comfortable around me. It was hard to talk over the music, so a couple times I had to lean over and talk into her ear - when doing this, I stroked her hair back and then kind of ran my hand down the side of her neck. Also, when talking I leaned in close and she did the same. We finally left the table and started dancing. I'm not much of a dancer but we got very physical and I went in for a kiss. It started off as a small kiss but we both opened our mouths and she seemed to enjoy it. We danced for a while longer. I went to take a piss and order another beer and when I came back she had her jacket on and wanted to leave. It was sort of unexpected. I walked her to her car and we kissed goodnight very passionately for about 30 seconds.
Of course, I left the date feeling pretty good...and the next day I texted her saying that I had fun and looked forward to the next time. She gave me a vague response just saying "I'll text you." After five days of not hearing from her, I texted her saying we should grab a cup of coffee and she replied saying that she's busy and is going out on a date with "a friend" tonight, which happens to be Valentines day. She offered no counter.
I'm pretty disappointed because I had high hopes and rarely get so physical with a girl on the first date.
Where did I go wrong? Did I destroy sexual tension? Did I make her think I'm just after sex?
Thanks!
Of course, I left the date feeling pretty good...and the next day I texted her saying that I had fun and looked forward to the next time. She gave me a vague response just saying "I'll text you." After five days of not hearing from her, I texted her saying we should grab a cup of coffee and she replied saying that she's busy and is going out on a date with "a friend" tonight, which happens to be Valentines day. She offered no counter.
I'm pretty disappointed because I had high hopes and rarely get so physical with a girl on the first date.
Where did I go wrong? Did I destroy sexual tension? Did I make her think I'm just after sex?
Thanks!
