Rejected 3 times because of my height!

[tryst type]

Guess being 5'4 isn't the best thing. Whoever says physical attributes doesn't matter when it comes to attracting women is 80% wrong.

Granted I've had my height not be an issue before and I've dated taller but this current streak is a reminder that you can have the most unique/fun/charismatic/etc personality but if the physical is more important to the woman, it doesn't matter.

Moral of the story? Who cares, move on! You don't like every single type of woman, don't expect them to like every single guy with the "right attitude" Some just need that sense of security only a taller even bigger guy can possess.

If you're short just improve your sex appeal without coming off as arrogant and with a Napoleon complex.

 

[MatureDJ]

At 5' 5-1/4", I've got 1-1/4" on you brother, and I understand. :cuss: :cuss:

And while I strike out while getting that "I can't believe a short little man like you is trying to pick up on me" look from attractive females :cuss:, it seems that all the short fatties figure that an otherwise attractive short man is so frustrated and desperate that he would actually want to have some disgusting glob of blubber like them, and so are always trying to hit on me. :cuss:

I suppose on the bright side, the *tall* fatties can't even get past their heightism for a short man to hit on me. :crackup:

 

[tripod23]

im 5 6",,,but i always feel short when im out in bars ,,,there are a lot of really tall and big people around , but who cares , im short yeah , but im in good shape with no bellie , better this way than being 6 ft with all your guts spilling over the top of your jeans ,

i once went out with a tall girl in my early twentys she was like 6ft it looked so stupid that people used to stare....she didnt give a monkeys because she was into me . and that is all that matters .

attraction isnt a choice btw.......if they like you its game on ...end of

 

[Scaramouche]

Dear Tryst,
Why not try Americanised Mainland Chinese Birds?....You are a tall Man to them,as long as you have a steady job.....they don't worry about height anyway!

Just so you don't feel too bad...I am just a tad under six feet tall...Few years ago...met this Bird on the Net,claimed she was five foot one...went down the Coast to see her,as usual looked much older than she
claimed...probably was a bit over her stated height in Heels LOL..
Took the dumb arsved bvitch out for Lunch...it orders Lobster (Of course)...very dull conversation,Miss peroxided Blonde midget chimes up"Ugh this Lobster is frozen,not fresh"makes a huffy display of pushing it aside...anyway she has a sickly Chocolate dessert that cheered her up...with a sigh she says"Look Scarra,I only like Tall Men"so much for being five foot four!
That happens to you,just go to the Gents,slip out and leave her to pay the Bill!

 

[tryst type]

I once asked a girl that said "you're crazy cute and have a great personality but you're just too short, sorry"

I said, so you'd rather be with a tall guy who isn't that cute and has a below to average personality? And she said, actually yeah I wouldn't mind it. I need to feel like the smaller one in the relationship

 

[MissingSomething]

I'm 5'6 and can't remember a time when I was outright rejected for my height because of the height itself.

Only three times did it ever come up:

1) When I lied about it to a 5'8 girl and she called me out on it (one may argue that this was due to the lying than the height, but could be either one or both).
2) A girl told my friend that I was cute, but too short (we ended up hooking up a few weeks later).
3) When I was roleplaying with a girl over the phone, I told her I wanted to *** inside her and she said that she didn't want to have short kids (when we actually had sex, she tried to take the condom off anyway lol).

Those were the only 3 times anyone ever said anything about my height, after thousands of approaches.

However, I can't seem to get a relationship for the life of me (only casual or FWB). I sometimes wonder if that is due to my height or something in my personality/presentation.

 

[tryst type]

If you find it hard to get a relationship, I'd say the height thing is probably part of the reason. I only say this from experience, had many FWB situations and girls I was casually dating that some spoke out about the height when things ended. Maybe it was their "nice" way of letting me down? Lol.

But yeah most girls want a guy that's taller/bigger. For some it's as shallow as it looks better and/or "normal" in pictures.

Ah well, plenty of girls shorter than us who don't care much about that.

 

[Crissco]

Im 5'6..So i def understand where you are coming from. In the same position man, but never stopped me, still do what i have to do. But u did hit the nail on the head with what u said

 

[Crissco]

If you find it hard to get a relationship, I'd say the height thing is probably part of the reason. I only say this from experience, had many FWB situations and girls I was casually dating that some spoke out about the height when things ended. Maybe it was their "nice" way of letting me down? Lol.

But yeah most girls want a guy that's taller/bigger. For some it's as shallow as it looks better and/or "normal" in pictures.

Ah well, plenty of girls shorter than us who don't care much about that.

Same here a lot of FWB situations, a lot of lays, but only 2 relationships. One girl was 5'4, one was 4'11..No one really even complained about my height though. Its probably because of the way i carry my self and my looks.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

if women can cheat with make up, why can't men?
just wear some shoes height insoles, wear dark colors with vertical stripes, etc.
you will LOOK taller. not much taller, but it can help.
women are shallow. in fact men are shallow also, we DO care about physique. mentally we are still in the stone age. we basically are monkeys with technology. denying this has no sense. we still judge by looks, have herd mentality, and have all the feelings of the caveman that should be obsolete by now.
heck even our body still lives in the stone age. gaining wight by storing the extra fat has NO biological value whatsoever nowadays when food is aplenty. physical fitness also has no meaning with the medical advances where every retard and cripple can live and prosper.
but what can we do but to try to fit in?
so cheat if you need to. i certainly won't judge you. i myself am hitting the gym, diet and dressing well. being a rebel in this case can mean only one thing: forever alone.

 

[SecondHalf]

if women can cheat with make up, why can't men?
just wear some shoes height insoles, wear dark colors with vertical stripes, etc.
you will LOOK taller. not much taller, but it can help.
women are shallow...

It seems many are rude and tactless. It's awful how some would say such things to men as I've heard mentioned here. It would be like a man telling a hungry woman ... "sorry, not into walrus's" or "nope, I couldn't do a woman who is on a first name basis with the receptionist at the geriatrics ward" or "sorry, I'm not looking for employment at your private daycare".

No class at all!

How do you react to that? I suppose the DJ way would be to answer around it or ignore it, but I would find it difficult to not come back with a barbed retort.

SH

 

[Driggs]

These days the big thing with women is "nuclear rejection" or publicly shaming the guy she turned down, on social media or elsewhere.

A whole lot of women have something wrong with them these days.

Regarding height, I think that's just a numbers thing, or you could look for women of your height or shorter. I am huge and a lot of women are visibly scared of me because of my intimidating appearance and size. I would most definitely rather be large, considering how ****ed this world is, but probably being shorter just means you have to approach more and maybe be selective about height. My friend is about 5'7 and he always has a girl. FWIW, he meets all his girls on POF. I would not date any of them but he is happy. I am extremely picky and alone much of the time as a result. Height isn't everything and for lots of women is actually an antifactor.

They may be using it as their excuse for saying no. You may also be using it as an excuse.

 

[CrimsonPanther]

It seems many are rude and tactless. It's awful how some would say such things to men as I've heard mentioned here. It would be like a man telling a hungry woman ... "sorry, not into walrus's" or "nope, I couldn't do a woman who is on a first name basis with the receptionist at the geriatrics ward" or "sorry, I'm not looking for employment at your private daycare".

No class at all!

How do you react to that? I suppose the DJ way would be to answer around it or ignore it, but I would find it difficult to not come back with a barbed retort.

SH

this is true. why do women do that? why are they rude and tactless? BECAUSE THEY CAN. because we as men don't set up boundaries and let women get away with everything just because they have the hole. if we would be so judgemental towards women as they are towards men (over-punishing everything - just imagine the opposite, all the girls would lose their heads and never speak to you anymore if you'd say something like that), they wouldn't afford to be so rude.

i have yet to meet a rude woman so i cannot say what my reaction would be (maybe they are afraid of me or respect, dunno but so far they have been decent). i guess i'd simply ignore her from then on.
for me the trick is to avoid these types of situation. i never tell a girl i like her until i already at least kissed her. i usually just kino like a madafaka, and keep things ambiguous. so that she can soft reject me, but if she would openly say she didn't like me, i would have all the right to say, "ummm... who said I LIKE YOU? i was being friendly i am like that with all the people. some girls are so desperate that they see things that do not exist. i am sorry but i don't see you like that. i like more... developed / blonde / taller girls, sorry." well something like that. this "speak friendly act sexually" is confusing for her and so she could never say rude things without her looking like a jerk. but with this tactic in NEVER happened yet. either i saw by kino she isn't attracted (without words and open confrontation), or shy, or i saw she is attracted, and gradually (not too slowly) escalated to kiss / sex.
of course practice makes perfect. do this with girls you don't like at first if you are afraid of the deep water

 

[tryst type]

Right on guys. Woman especially these days are way more worried about image. I mean social media makes them mini celebrities in the eyes of the people who are also on the same path/need instant validation.

My last serious relationship which was four years was with a girl who literally no joke was an inch taller! She had wide shoulders (which in retrospect was a turn off) but when we'd be side by side it'd make her seem way taller than me.

She didn't care at all at first until her friends even her parents mentioned it. Making jokes about how she's into mini guys now. Well eventually it got to her head and she blatantly would hint that she needed someone taller because is made her feel like a giant. A whole inch taller and she was saying this!

One of her friends who started the jokes and was relentless about it to her was 5'0, so go figure.

 

[idoloveromance]

Yeah, you're right. Whoever says physical attributes doesn't matter when it comes to attracting women is 80% wrong. however, some short women like men who's not too tall for them. So just choose the right woman.

 

[switch]

im a 5'8" half asian midget, dating a girl 1 inch taller than me.

good.now go out and get some pvssy.

 

[tryst type]

I also want to add that one way I've learned to get past the height thing and have women be intrigued (if only temporary depending on how much they can get past their preferences) is to be quite direct.

Not in a creepy I need to get laid way but to outwardly show your sexuality and interest in her. It shows confidence and dominance, and yes it is a way of compensating but it works more times than it hasn't in getting past the height thing.

Anyone else notice/try this before?

 

[Mr.Positive]

How do you react to that? I suppose the DJ way would be to answer around it or ignore it, but I would find it difficult to not come back with a barbed retort.

Don't react at all. Remain calm and consistent. Just tell her it's OK, you find her comment rude, and you don't like rude women. If she gets upset, and results to more insults. Just tell her you avoid crazy rude women even more, then leave.

 

[Boilermaker]

I am 5'11 and sometimes I feel short. Not all the time, and the issue of height almost never comes up, except when a couple of cases where I got that look MatureDJ is mentioning when I approach taller and attractive women.

Nothing to be done about it, I guess, so keep plowing.

 

[Ballie57]

I am 5'8"

Below average here in Suf Africa where there are tall Dutchmen, Germans, etc. Just look at the Springbok rugby team.

I also used to date girls shorter than me - but I now get hit on by girls taller than me 6" +. I also had that "What the fvck - how did I come right?"

But then I realised that height is not a factor at all, It's simply your Attitude that counts. Anyway, in bed you the same height - so who cares!

Anyway, the Lord does compensate for an extra inch in length where he took away in height