Regaining IL with an ex...

[danro]

So I me and my ex broke up awhile ago. We have kind of drifted apart but still every now and then talk on AIM. She originally broke up with me because she wanted "space" and all that usual sh!t. I feel that now is the time to at least reestablish some of her interest in me. How should I go about doing this? I want to get her interest level up enough again so that she would feel comfortable dating me again. Any advice?

 

[-HPNOTIQ-]

Date other women. Simple eh? If you need more elaboration...I suggest reading the DJB.

 

[KontrollerX]

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?t=126471&highlight=breaks

Forget about her and move on.

 

[j0n024]

Guy joined in 05 and still doesnt use the principles taught here?

I also cant understand why ALMOST EVERYONE wants to get back with either X, I mean it's like there is always a post about someone crying about trying to get back with their X....it's sad.

People should read the Bible more ...or go do the boot camp or something since they are stuck on their X.

 

[Mavrick]

You want to reestablish interest from a girl who dumped you? Where is your dignity? You must have stripped yourself of it when you decided to rekindle a spark that she put out long ago.

I've been there, and it's definitely not the way to be.

She dumped you, so let her try. If she doesn't, c'est la vie. If she does come back, treat her with the same amount of respect she gave you when she walk away.

 

[AKA FLEX]

She dumped you for one of the most vague, dumbest reasons ever, and more than enough time has passed for you to move on.

How long are you going to let this chick mess with your head? All she's doing at this point is creating a mental block keeping you from succeeding with other women.

Forget about her, dude.

 

[dannyegg4575]

Just as everyone said. Going back is a nono for guys.

if she did it once, she'll do it again to you. It's just too easy.

secondly, i dare you to tell me that you will not think about where she was or who she's with when she's not around. If you're that big, then you will have no problem in saying, "adios".

you can, i'm not saying that you can't. but the effort of getting back with an ex is not worth the time. I had exes' from the past who'd come back trying to get back with me.

At times, I wanted to too cause i'm sentimental... but i can assure you, been there, done that, it's not worth it.

 

[DonGorgon]

In 99% of cases You can only get an Ex back if you dumped her... When a woman dumps you you tend to be placed below strangers on her "To F list" And the more you try to get her back the lower her respect level tend to go.

 

[sexy_kuta]

She dumped you for one of the most vague, dumbest reasons ever, and more than enough time has passed for you to move on.

How long are you going to let this chick mess with your head? All she's doing at this point is creating a mental block keeping you from succeeding with other women.

Forget about her, dude.

x2
she didnt want space, not at all
she prob wanted to fuk this other guy so she had to cut you on the loose, or could be something else but I FOR SURE you that it wasnt cuz of 'space'
end of game, she FUKED Up move on now.

 

[thedeparted]

THE BEST ADVICE: TRY TO GET HER BACK WITH ALL YOUR HEART

Spend lots of money, lots of time, and let yourself fall in love all over again. Really kill yourself on this effort, and put it all on the line. Maybe she'll meet you for coffee eventually to explain what a wonderful guy you are -- but she's moved on. Then as you crumple to the floor you will finally understand the advice on this forum.

There is no teacher like experience, but her lessons are cruel and costly indeed.

 

[MacAvoy]

THE BEST ADVICE: TRY TO GET HER BACK WITH ALL YOUR HEART

Spend lots of money, lots of time, and let yourself fall in love all over again. Really kill yourself on this effort, and put it all on the line. Maybe she'll meet you for coffee eventually to explain what a wonderful guy you are -- but she's moved on. Then as you crumple to the floor you will finally understand the advice on this forum.

There is no teacher like experience, but her lessons are cruel and costly indeed.

Truer words have never been spoken. This is the only advice guys on here will follow.

 

[SmoothTalker]

Hey DonGorgon, care to clarify? I know of several examples where the girl has dumped a guy and they end up being FBs afterwards, usually without too much effort on the guys part.

 

[justiceseeker]

While human psychology tends to follow certain protocols, every situation is different. As predictable as it may seem, there are always exceptions to the rule. I think you can predict human behavior more accurately when it comes to sane, well adjusted individuals. If you're dealing with a nut job, all bets are off.

I had a friend who was dating this chick for 7 years. I've honestly never seen a woman so disgusted by and have such low interest in her boyfriend. He was a world class AFC. But, this woman was also crazier than a hoot owl. After a strange course of events, and after he moved on, she BEGAN TO STALK HIM.

Like I said, usually once it's over, it's over. But human pyschology is still inexact enough for some anomalies to occur.

 

[DonGorgon]

THE BEST ADVICE: TRY TO GET HER BACK WITH ALL YOUR HEART

Spend lots of money, lots of time, and let yourself fall in love all over again. Really kill yourself on this effort, and put it all on the line. Maybe she'll meet you for coffee eventually to explain what a wonderful guy you are -- but she's moved on. Then as you crumple to the floor you will finally understand the advice on this forum.

There is no teacher like experience, but her lessons are cruel and costly indeed.

Cold hard truth... ouch!:nervous: :nervous: :nervous: