Reflecting over this year

[Zapp Brannigan]

I've been doing a lot of reflecting, thinking about goals for 2015, and how I've changed this year. In January when registering I was fairly lacking in knowledge and only knew some of the more obvious things to look out for. Around late June I read the DJ Bible and feel like I've been going through something of a transition since then. My confidence, and self-worth increased, I began trying to apply DJ principles, and use things like KINO on a regular basis. Also started carrying myself in a more confident laid back way, and began doing things I never would have been able to do before.

Over the past few months there have been a few snapping points where I feel parts of my old AFC self die off. First one was a fear of running into ex's. This one doesn't sound too bad, but I used to have a lot of anxiety/dread about it. Ended up running into the one I feared seeing the most and realized there was nothing to worry about, and that I can't live my life in fear.

I used to have a terrible tendency to pine over girls. In the spring I pined over one from last year. She seemed into me, and I started to like her too, but before we knew it the semester was over. We were never able to talk much, but she seemed like a sweet down to earth girl. Even talking among her friends she seemed innocent. Long story short I found out she had a completely different side, and wasn't that person at all. Really into booze, excessive partying, among other blaring red flags. I ended up seeing her around the 4th of July she had a pregnant belly, and was with a dude who was presumably the father. That point I realized how dumb it is to pine over someone, when chances are they're just as/if not wilder than the others. That also made me really believe what the DJ Bible says about how you should never see a female as different until they prove it to you.

The most recent moment was early this month with a plate. I was fairly certain she was an attention seeker but at the same time she did things to express interest that would go against the typical attention wh0res ego, so I spun her but made sure never to go out of the way or give her validation. I end up seeing several signs of proof that she's an attention wh0re. Right then I snapped and realized "I deserve better" that no one deserves to waste time and energy with females like that.

Without this site I would have never learned most of what I know now, and it would have taken years to get to the point I'm currently at. Excited to focus on various goals for the new year, to continue taking a break from women/plate spinning for the time being, and hoping to see more of a transition.

Thank you SoSuave community for everything.

Cheers to 2015.

Anybody have stories of their transition this past year?

 

[YAboi]

My transition this year was learning from a pregnancy scare from 2013 that I should stick to the righteous path that the Lord our God has set out for me. I learnt that my ego and immature friends want me to believe that I am worth something only if I have had sex with a woman. That is obviously not true and the downsides/consequences of having sex with someone you do not love far outweigh the ups. So I have been (painfully at times) celibate since, waiting on God through my intuition and have stopped diving into relationships based on impulse and attraction. I have been able to channel that energy towards my business and increasing my earthly and spiritual knowledge excercise so help me God.

 

[YAboi]

My friend OP one more thing.. Do not judge any of these women. Let love reign do not judge lest ye be judged. Everyone has personal struggles that cause them to do what they do. www.tasteheavennow.net/understanding_yourself/sexual_addictions_and_lust.htm

 

[YAboi]

The issue I had is that there is no explicit promise of a wife to a Godly man in the Bible...you probably should be proactive about it. Its a lot easier to cope with the carnal lusts when you are in the game pursuing quality, Christian women. Promise or not, I do hope that God sends a Godly woman so that it will be easier for me to be less worldly...easier said than done though. Was finally spritual enough to be willing to settle for a "virgin" Christian HB5(last GF was a HB8) until I saw her on Tinder...LOL



I agree, but I caution you from ever making the false logical leap that many of my Christian friends do that just because you have your own faults and you should not judge that you should therefore EVER consider wifing up significantly damaged goods...that's not taught in the Bible. So should I look past the fact that the HB5 was on Tinder?

Truth of the matter is that a man's faith is what will open doors for him. The craziest thing happened to me when i woke up on new years day 2015 at around 2am. Well I was half awake half asleep but...I saw a vision of a woman's face who I believe is my future wife. So God does answer prayers as I have been longing to meet a soulmate (since hearing of pastors who had their wives revealed to them after prayer) and wondered if you have to wait on God or just wing it. I got my answer which is it's better to seek His face so you don't end up with the wrong choice. We humans can only be so perfect in our decisions. You either go with the way of the world and keep struggling to maintain your relationship or you let God choose for you and give you heaven on earth. Can't wait till I meet her. Will keep the forum updated. I hope that answers ur tinder question. When in doubt pray.

 

[YAboi]

As for the judgement part, what i mean is he should not label them as evil. Everyone has their faults. I'm not saying he should daye or pursue them but that he should not judge because they became damaged goods due to some reason or the other whatever it may be. Anybody male or female can become damaged goods doesn't mean they are worthless. Every human has value in God's eyes and should not be completely condemned like trash. it's all Circumstance

 

[mugatts]

Seems like you're on the right track. Women are good at hiding excess baggage until you're too involved. That's why you must space out how much time you're seeing her in the beginning and let the red flags come up. For the first 2-4 months no more than 1-2 dates per week. Signs such as bringing up an ex a lot in conversations or staying in touch with an ex too much are not good and you need to stay away from such and save your precious time from the drama.