LadiesMan89
Don Juan
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- Oct 11, 2005
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Hi there everyone. This is my first post. Been getting the newsletter for about 6months now, and its been helpful. But I'm in a bit of a bind. Lemme explain the situation.
I work at a grocery store, where there are a lot of hot, cool girls. And there’s one girl in specific. She worked there last winter, and I never really got to know her. She's beautiful, and I'm kind of heavy so I figured she wouldn’t ever be interested in me. So over the summer, she worked somewhere else, and I continued to work at the same place. Over the summer, I opened up quite a bit and became much more of a confident person.
So when she came back to work there in September, I figured I'd try it out and see what happened. It worked out great, we became really good friend and every second we could we would talk to each other. As time went by, it became more and more flirty, a lot of eye contact, smiling, always looking at each other and laughing at the faces we make at each other. Until eventually, the touching was even more playful and even intimate, and then she said the magic words "I love you". The next day she came into work, she looked like a million bucks, wearing the best clothes she had, make up, nails done, jewelry, hair, everything. She was even flirtier, not in the goofy way, but in the romantic kind of way.
But here lies the problem. As the day went on, I became nervous about the whole thing. My entire life I never would expect a girl like that to see anything in a guy like me, so I was getting nervous and worried that I'd **** it up somehow, say something stupid. Then I started second guessing my words, and because I was nervous about it I said stupid **** anyways, acted weird, not myself. So that night on AOL, I told her I wanted to talk to her about something, but I wanted to do it in person. At that point she started mentioning another guy, yet I'm pretty sure she's single from what I can tell. And ever since that night she’s showed much less interest in me, usually acting kind of quiet when shes at work, whereas we use to talk all the time, and not wanting to talk to me as much. I think she still may like me since every once and a while I catch her staring at me, and acting like we use to together.
But still, no matter how many times I tell myself to stay cool and suave, I get nervous and still act like a jackass. So, what I'm asking for here is some advice. I was going to tell her flat out how I feel about her, and explain to her why I acted so different, hoping that once its off my chest, I would just be myself cause I got nothing to worry about cause she knows how I feel. I went to my best friend for advice and he said keep cool, don’t mention the love thing, and pretend it never happened, act like the way I use to, and treat it like a friendship, and if it ever does take off like it did before, just keep cool and don’t worry, don’t rehearse what your going to say to her like I've been doing lately, and so on. But before I make a decision I wanted to come here, cause I know how knowledgeable many of you are with these situations. Some help here would be greatly appreciated. Thanks a lot
I work at a grocery store, where there are a lot of hot, cool girls. And there’s one girl in specific. She worked there last winter, and I never really got to know her. She's beautiful, and I'm kind of heavy so I figured she wouldn’t ever be interested in me. So over the summer, she worked somewhere else, and I continued to work at the same place. Over the summer, I opened up quite a bit and became much more of a confident person.
So when she came back to work there in September, I figured I'd try it out and see what happened. It worked out great, we became really good friend and every second we could we would talk to each other. As time went by, it became more and more flirty, a lot of eye contact, smiling, always looking at each other and laughing at the faces we make at each other. Until eventually, the touching was even more playful and even intimate, and then she said the magic words "I love you". The next day she came into work, she looked like a million bucks, wearing the best clothes she had, make up, nails done, jewelry, hair, everything. She was even flirtier, not in the goofy way, but in the romantic kind of way.
But here lies the problem. As the day went on, I became nervous about the whole thing. My entire life I never would expect a girl like that to see anything in a guy like me, so I was getting nervous and worried that I'd **** it up somehow, say something stupid. Then I started second guessing my words, and because I was nervous about it I said stupid **** anyways, acted weird, not myself. So that night on AOL, I told her I wanted to talk to her about something, but I wanted to do it in person. At that point she started mentioning another guy, yet I'm pretty sure she's single from what I can tell. And ever since that night she’s showed much less interest in me, usually acting kind of quiet when shes at work, whereas we use to talk all the time, and not wanting to talk to me as much. I think she still may like me since every once and a while I catch her staring at me, and acting like we use to together.
But still, no matter how many times I tell myself to stay cool and suave, I get nervous and still act like a jackass. So, what I'm asking for here is some advice. I was going to tell her flat out how I feel about her, and explain to her why I acted so different, hoping that once its off my chest, I would just be myself cause I got nothing to worry about cause she knows how I feel. I went to my best friend for advice and he said keep cool, don’t mention the love thing, and pretend it never happened, act like the way I use to, and treat it like a friendship, and if it ever does take off like it did before, just keep cool and don’t worry, don’t rehearse what your going to say to her like I've been doing lately, and so on. But before I make a decision I wanted to come here, cause I know how knowledgeable many of you are with these situations. Some help here would be greatly appreciated. Thanks a lot
