Now my girlfriend has got lots of guy friends that she keeps calling all day.She likes to talk usually at times from 12 am-3am.I have known that she calls 1 or 3 of her guy friends on the days which i dont talk to her at that time and also sometimes after we finish the call she talks to one of them...but on the other side if we stay alot and they try to call her she just ignores them while she never does that with me.Is this a real matter to worry about?how should i react?how should i stop her?BTW she doesnt hide calling them at these times from me and these guys are somehow friends of mine too.PLZ dont suggest dumping her.
REALLY need help.Girlfriend with lots of guy friends
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Rockadeimis
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She likes to talk usually at times from 12 am-3am.I have known that she calls 1 or 3 of her guy friends on the days which i dont talk to her at that time and also sometimes after we finish the call she talks to one of them...
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You should be worried, tell her under no circumstances is this behavior ok.
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PLZ dont suggest dumping her.
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You've gone mad...dump her, problem solved.
She likes to talk usually at times from 12 am-3am.I have known that she calls 1 or 3 of her guy friends on the days which i dont talk to her at that time and also sometimes after we finish the call she talks to one of them...
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You should be worried, tell her under no circumstances is this behavior ok.
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PLZ dont suggest dumping her.
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You've gone mad...dump her, problem solved.
belividere
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How old are you and how long have you been dating?
Jus_LikeCandy
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Tell her you don't like her on the phone at all times of night with other guys. But, you guys are still in high school and that's normal behavior to have guy friends...
Do not be too easy. If you are too easy to get, she will not want you. If you are too easy to keep, she will lose interest in you. If you are too easy to control, she will not respect you.
Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.
Its not like u gona MARRY her!!
Just enjoy her company and body, and dont give a **** about the rest. But DO demand respect or dump her!!
I u practice DJ'ing when you are young, you will be gre8 latter
Just enjoy her company and body, and dont give a **** about the rest. But DO demand respect or dump her!!
I u practice DJ'ing when you are young, you will be gre8 latter
belividere
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Whats good for her is good for you. Do not pass up chances to meet other girls.
spider_007
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an act of an insecure man
Rockadeimis
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Insecure perhaps...but ok her behavior is not.
Jack McCrack
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Who cares. You'd do the same thing if you were in her position. It's not like she's banging them anyway. They're probably talking about some dumb crap anyway.
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Are her late night calls a prequel to a booty call?? I would be honest witht he girl. " Hey you know how you call other guys all the time, it worries me."
Talk it out--- come to a solution.
Talk it out--- come to a solution.
belividere
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I say talk is cheap. Especially with a 16yr. old. Follow her actions and meet other girls. Since you asked for everyone not to tell you to dump her at least this way maybe you will meet someone who is worth leaving her for.
b's nuts
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although the age difference isn't huge, 16 is pretty young, i would say date other women. i said women, not girls.
Umm. At his age thats the range.
Most girls above 17 wont date guys under 19+. If you dont have experience here, dont give your opinion.
Im 18 bro dont worry. I have been in those dudes position.. they are cuddle*****es and nothing more. Maybe one MIGHT get close, but it's doubtful, as long as you are satisfieing her sexually.(asuming you are sustaining a sex life.).
Just get what YOU want out of her and enjoy it... Unless you really like the girl, and asuming she has the intellect to understand, talk to her about the problem and work it out.
keep it real bro. And try not to worry to much, you are a DJ and you have NO PROBLEMS getting 10s.
you are KING.
Triple X
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My advice would be to give her a taste of her own medicine. Spend as much time as possible talking to other women on the phone or in person (preferably in front of her) but without looking like you are deliberately trying to 'get revenge' on her.
This will force her to realise how she is making you feel, by you doing exactly the same to her (two can play this game!!). If she has a problem with that - tough!! It's her own fault for doing this stuff to you in the first place.
Either way you win. If it doesn't bother her, you get to stay in a relationship with her plus develop friendships with other women (maybe potential hook-ups for the future), and if it does bother her and she dumps you - you still win as you've got loads of other women to choose from! Plus you were probably better off without her in this case anyhow.
My other advice is try not to develop feelings for this girl (as much as you can). I can see you getting hurt in the future if that happened. Try and be as 'detached' as possible.
This will force her to realise how she is making you feel, by you doing exactly the same to her (two can play this game!!). If she has a problem with that - tough!! It's her own fault for doing this stuff to you in the first place.
Either way you win. If it doesn't bother her, you get to stay in a relationship with her plus develop friendships with other women (maybe potential hook-ups for the future), and if it does bother her and she dumps you - you still win as you've got loads of other women to choose from! Plus you were probably better off without her in this case anyhow.
My other advice is try not to develop feelings for this girl (as much as you can). I can see you getting hurt in the future if that happened. Try and be as 'detached' as possible.
Hehe... the girl I know who has lots of guy friends has TROUBLE written all over her.
When someone does something you don't want, you don't have much of a possibility. Talking DOESN'T solve, usually. If one person is doing something unpleasant to the other, is because it fulfills a need. And no amount of talking is going to do it.
And if she had this habit before you two got together, it's even worse. As Anti-Dump (hehe, look at the new Pook around here! ) says: you buy a relationship, not build one. Wise words. No amount of talking is going to "change" your girl to the girl of your dreams. She should be the girl of your dreams "as is".
But you said do not suggest to dump her, so I'm going to say NOTHING!
When someone does something you don't want, you don't have much of a possibility. Talking DOESN'T solve, usually. If one person is doing something unpleasant to the other, is because it fulfills a need. And no amount of talking is going to do it.
And if she had this habit before you two got together, it's even worse. As Anti-Dump (hehe, look at the new Pook around here!
) says: you buy a relationship, not build one. Wise words. No amount of talking is going to "change" your girl to the girl of your dreams. She should be the girl of your dreams "as is".But you said do not suggest to dump her, so I'm going to say NOTHING!
ATTENTION WH0RE!!!
Tell her how you feel and that you do not think of her behavior (especially calling other guys at night) is acceptable if you 2 wish to continue your relationship. Don't try to get her to cut contact with her friends completely, just that she shouldn't do the things you are finding inappropriate. If she continues calling them late, especially behind your back, then its time to do what you don't want to do. Dump her. If you don't stop this behavior, she will think that it is okay and not only will it be bad for you, but every other guy out there.
Tell her how you feel and that you do not think of her behavior (especially calling other guys at night) is acceptable if you 2 wish to continue your relationship. Don't try to get her to cut contact with her friends completely, just that she shouldn't do the things you are finding inappropriate. If she continues calling them late, especially behind your back, then its time to do what you don't want to do. Dump her. If you don't stop this behavior, she will think that it is okay and not only will it be bad for you, but every other guy out there.
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Look at what she's doing, she's expressing her right to talk to guys on the phone. She does it when you're not around right? So what, that's better than doing it when you ARE around. She mentions is so you don't be a loser and get all jealous and insecure about it. If you do then you're asking for it.
She has her right to talk to guys, what just cuz you two are dating that mean she can't talk to them or hang out with them? think about what that shows to her that you tell her that you have "problems" with her talking to these guys or seeing them. She gonna think you have some insecurity that something will HAPPEN between them and because of that she just might try something to.
Others have a good point in that she SHOULD respect you, but where is her fault? For having guys talk to her? ANd like her? Be happy you have a girl that guys like, don't be a p*ss and lose what you have then.
Then this is what you need to do, see how much this is gonna bug you. If you can take it further and find girls to talk with on the phone and such and she expresses a problem with it. Then u need to say something like "I thought we were ok with this? I have no problem with you talkin to guys, I mean SHOULD I be concerned?" most likely she'll say no. If it continues to bug her and she wants you to not talk to them, ask why. Then with that tell her that then I guess she should give it up too. If she don't budge, then that's up to you what you want to do next.
She has her right to talk to guys, what just cuz you two are dating that mean she can't talk to them or hang out with them? think about what that shows to her that you tell her that you have "problems" with her talking to these guys or seeing them. She gonna think you have some insecurity that something will HAPPEN between them and because of that she just might try something to.
Others have a good point in that she SHOULD respect you, but where is her fault? For having guys talk to her? ANd like her? Be happy you have a girl that guys like, don't be a p*ss and lose what you have then.
Then this is what you need to do, see how much this is gonna bug you. If you can take it further and find girls to talk with on the phone and such and she expresses a problem with it. Then u need to say something like "I thought we were ok with this? I have no problem with you talkin to guys, I mean SHOULD I be concerned?" most likely she'll say no. If it continues to bug her and she wants you to not talk to them, ask why. Then with that tell her that then I guess she should give it up too. If she don't budge, then that's up to you what you want to do next.