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Hey lads,
Over the past couple of weeks, I've experienced episodes of extreme loneliness, honestly approaching angst. I would feel completely empty/depressed, be extremely restless, stressy and feel really tense (for example when I found out I wasn't going to be able to go out on the town this weekend). Whenever I'm with friends/around people, I feel completely at easy again (minus the times when I feel kinda depressed) but being alone is absolutely dreadful.
I'm writing this lengthy post because I am curious whether anyone else is, or has been in my position. That, and it feels great to get this off my chest. Let the wall of text commence!
I'm someone that has historically never been a guy that has always had a strong need of being around people (although I have always made friends very easily and have always been a well liked person) and as a result have missed a lot of social experiences, especially when it comes to girls. The latter is something that has been nagging me for around a year and a half (which is when I started to get interested in friends/girls and realised I needed to change my whole self) as I feel like I missed a lot.
Since then, I have improved quite a bit and have quite a few buddies that I hang out with and one or two really close friends that I can really open up to. I also go out at least once or twice a week. As far as the other sex is concerned, I recently had my first date and a small kiss (On the mouth), and am confident enough to say that my attitude has changed enough that I no longer place girls on pedestals like I used to when I began and tend to have a good sense of how to properly talk to them the way I should (I.e. ****y & Funny, dominant, etc) and am getting great feedback in doing so (Loving it!). I still however, haven't gotten further than that kiss I mentioned earlier and have trouble cold approaching. So I do have a long way to go still=)
Ever since I decided to change, I experienced craving for affection/love that would increase as time went by. Lately, it seems to have gotten worse (as I explained earlier) to a point where it's getting unbearable. This is resulting in, among others; A decrease in overall drive/motivation, trouble sleeping and high stress levels.
My personal take on all of this is that my body is signaling me that I'm at a crossroads, that maybe it's doing all that it can to motivate me and is trying to give me a push this way (So in reality, I should be happy that I'm so miserable...lol).
All of this is very recent and even though I have had that craving for a significant other for a quite a while, I've honestly always been a very optimistic person full of life.
Has anyone ever been in this situation?
For what it matters, I'm 18.
Thanks.
TL;DR:
Feel extremely bad (think angst) when I'm alone recently, have a constant craving for having people around me. Anyone else feel/has felt like this?
--Hey lads,
Over the past couple of weeks, I've experienced episodes of extreme loneliness, honestly approaching angst. I would feel completely empty/depressed, be extremely restless, stressy and feel really tense (for example when I found out I wasn't going to be able to go out on the town this weekend). Whenever I'm with friends/around people, I feel completely at easy again (minus the times when I feel kinda depressed) but being alone is absolutely dreadful.
I'm writing this lengthy post because I am curious whether anyone else is, or has been in my position. That, and it feels great to get this off my chest. Let the wall of text commence!
I'm someone that has historically never been a guy that has always had a strong need of being around people (although I have always made friends very easily and have always been a well liked person) and as a result have missed a lot of social experiences, especially when it comes to girls. The latter is something that has been nagging me for around a year and a half (which is when I started to get interested in friends/girls and realised I needed to change my whole self) as I feel like I missed a lot.
Since then, I have improved quite a bit and have quite a few buddies that I hang out with and one or two really close friends that I can really open up to. I also go out at least once or twice a week. As far as the other sex is concerned, I recently had my first date and a small kiss (On the mouth), and am confident enough to say that my attitude has changed enough that I no longer place girls on pedestals like I used to when I began and tend to have a good sense of how to properly talk to them the way I should (I.e. ****y & Funny, dominant, etc) and am getting great feedback in doing so (Loving it!). I still however, haven't gotten further than that kiss I mentioned earlier and have trouble cold approaching. So I do have a long way to go still=)
Ever since I decided to change, I experienced craving for affection/love that would increase as time went by. Lately, it seems to have gotten worse (as I explained earlier) to a point where it's getting unbearable. This is resulting in, among others; A decrease in overall drive/motivation, trouble sleeping and high stress levels.
My personal take on all of this is that my body is signaling me that I'm at a crossroads, that maybe it's doing all that it can to motivate me and is trying to give me a push this way (So in reality, I should be happy that I'm so miserable...lol).
All of this is very recent and even though I have had that craving for a significant other for a quite a while, I've honestly always been a very optimistic person full of life.
Has anyone ever been in this situation?
For what it matters, I'm 18.
Thanks.
TL;DR:
Feel extremely bad (think angst) when I'm alone recently, have a constant craving for having people around me. Anyone else feel/has felt like this?
