Reading "The Rational Male" - EXPOSED!!

[ThinkerG]

Thanks fanatic - good perspective.
Does she "run my life"? No, I have my life and she has hers. We have a good balance to make sure we are not in each others' back pockets all the time (I wanted to travel to Egypt in 2017 and she let me do that). I have my independence and she has hers. HOWEVER... I do believe I let her emotions run me quite a bit. This is my biggest concern. I need to back off a bit, otherwise I feel I am far too easy to control and manipulate in this sense and I end up being a hindrance.

The big take away from this is you said “SHE LET ME DO THAT” that alone should answer a lot of your questions.

 

[MindPurify]

The big take away from this is you said “SHE LET ME DO THAT” that alone should answer a lot of your questions.

Ahhh, I knew this would come up. Well I'm not just going to up and leave for Egypt without a word am I? I TOLD her how much I wanted to go there and then said I'm thinking of doing it before my new job whilst I have time off, to which she said, "Follow your dreams. I know it's something you've always wanted to do." Simple as that.
I wasn't so much ALLOWED... I was more encouraged, even though she knew she couldn't come and would miss me.

The beauty with her is she doesn't hold me back.

 

[Roober]

Appreciate your response. I probably didn't choose my wording well in my sentence there. It's the intimate stuff I want to bring out in us a bit more, and I feel I need to 'up my game' in this area to instill genuine desire. Life is busy. But then... everyone is busy! It's no excuse.

Regardless of the message or words you use, there is an underlying message which you are completely missing and that is...

What you want intimacy is not what you are getting.

As an outsider, it looks like your looking for answers to salvage your engagement. Do you think this will get magically better post nuptials? Rollo's book will only make you seem defiant to her frame, as it seems that you are already firmly in the grasp of it.

I would suggest you try everything possible to attain the intimacy you seek prior to your wedding day. You may realize there are difference of values, possibly an insurmountable one. This would be far better to discover before a marriage...

 

[evan12]

Hi all. First time post here after hearing about the forum during my reading of "The Rational Male".
I was recommended the book by a friend some time ago and I stupidly mentioned the book to my fiancee, as I was gobsmacked my friend would read such a thing. And of course the beta in me was all, "I would never be like that with you".
Now here I am reading it... and my fiancee knows!! I went down the path of explaining that it is a behavioral science book about men and women differences and understanding mindsets blah blah blah.

Basically... am I now screwed now that she knows I am reading it?
I guess I am just wanting to read and learn how to be a bit more desirable to my SO. I acknowledge I am VERY beta with how I think and what I do with my SO.

It is not a pickup book , so a woman should not be offended by this book , I can tell you it is more useful to you when you are in relationship than when you are single, if she ask just tell her it is about men and how to manage the relationship ,

 

[Mazer]

I share some Redpill stuff with my long term plate. She agrees with half of the shyt I say because she sees it happening right in front of her with her female friends. She recognizes it now that I have informed her. All of it, the Feminism, anti-slut defense, hypergamy, alpha facks beta bucks, actions over words. I could care less if she is aware of the redpill. If she gives me a hard time I will just move on to the next woman.

 

[marmel75]

Haha...the fact you ar so concerned about this is the entire problem in a nutshell.

That is if you are not a Trollilolioliloliolioliolio...which I suspect you are.

 

[MindPurify]

That is if you are not a Trollilolioliloliolioliolio...which I suspect you are.

I don't get it.

 

[backseatjuan]

Eh, later down the road a major disappointment awaits you. But things are not lost, there is hope, she is not your wife, she is your fiance. She is banging another man, or other men, depending on her particular circumstance. With you she is because you're a good type of guy to settle with. Doesn't mean she is not cheating on you now, and doesn't mean she won't be cheating on you later down the road. Women need a man to settle with, and need a man to fvck with without relationship crap.

In your particular circumstance it might be wise installing a spy app onto her phone, just to listen in, and read her messages and whatever else she types there. Or perhaps dial in and listen to surroundings during a particular day and time. Firstly it's good to know how she speaks about you with different people, secondly you will find out the truth, is she banging other dudes or not. I mean, you are about to make a serious life changing decision while you are not a qualified woman expert, it's like driving impaired on alcohol and drugs.

Is it true that in Australia water inside toilet spins the other away?

 

[MindPurify]

Is it true that in Australia water inside toilet spins the other away?

No. Toilet water in America spins the other way.

 

[backseatjuan]

Props to your friend. Ask him a direct question - Does he thinks you are making a right choice with this woman.

 

[MindPurify]

Sorry which friend??

 

[MindPurify]

Eh, later down the road a major disappointment awaits you. But things are not lost, there is hope, she is not your wife, she is your fiance. She is banging another man, or other men, depending on her particular circumstance. With you she is because you're a good type of guy to settle with. Doesn't mean she is not cheating on you now, and doesn't mean she won't be cheating on you later down the road. Women need a man to settle with, and need a man to fvck with without relationship crap.

She's actually out tonight for her hens but hates the idea of doing anything with strippers or involving p3nis's. She told her bridesmaid that. I'm pretty comfortable that how you are talking about her in your post is NOT what she is like.
I really want to be saying the whole "but she's not like that".... I'm trying hard not to haha.

 

[backseatjuan]

Why would she be sleeping with a stripper, she wouldn't. Women don't do that kind crap. They are not men, they need some sort emotional attachment before sex. Obviously she wouldn't have a strong emotional attachment to you. Logical question begs itself, if she is not getting what she needs from you, who is she getting it from.

'She's not that type of girl' is one of the woman lies.