read my sister's text messages

[garruk]

so my sister is a senior in high school and pretty recently discovered partying and drinking.


i went through her text messages because honestly, i feel like shes too young for sex.


in any case, i found out that she hooked up with some guy and then sent him a text apologizing for it the next day.

can you guys help me figure out whats going on with this? why would she apologize for hooking up with him? does this mean, shes saying it wont happen again? i really think she's too young for sex, and im wodnering if i should be concerned about this.

my parents are divorced and so im pretty much the "dad" in her life.

 

[escaleraroyal]

bang her

 

[Warrior74]

http://www.rooshv.com/open-letter-to-the-parents-of-american-daughters

 

[Gray The Prince]

Lemme clap those cheeks of hers.

 

[Mr. Goods]

1.) How old are you? I'm going to guess your sister is 18 and that you aren't a whole lot older (20's?). I am in my early 20s, my sister is 18 as well. Trust me - I'd rather she start "getting to know" guys once in college, but I can't stop whatever happens. I trust her to make good decisions.

2.) Does it matter why she apologized? My guess is it's the whole "buyer's remorse" thing girls do, but who knows.

3.) Why do you care? As long as there are no pregnancies or even an STD, it means nothing for you.

I know I come off a little harsh, but it's not like this is a girl you'd think of getting with. :crackup: If the thread was, "OMG my sister has herpes" or, "I'm about to be an uncle," then we have things to worry about. But a texted note like this? Not so much.

 

[garruk]

shes only 17, im 25

 

[Mr. Goods]

shes only 17, im 25

I see. Close to my case...I'm 23, sis is 18...but like I said above, unless there is some long-term ramification, it's tough to say "No, you can't do that." Similar to you, I hope it does not happen, and we think this way because she is still your little sister.

If there is a long-term ramification, then yes definitely be concerned. If it's one hookup, I don't think you need to loose sleep over it.

 

[CantTouchMyStyle]

This is SOOOO creepy in my opinion.

You can talk to her about it, I guess.. But, to snoop through text messages?

I can't imagine what you do w/ your girlfriends.

 

[Tiguere]

Don't be a lil hitler. What your sister does today is none or your business. You have your own life to worry about.

 

[jafyk]

It's funny how guys on here talk about girls like b!tches and disposable trash and yet can be so caring towards their sister.
Well, to the OP you are at an advantage here considering you've come to this site. Now you sorta now both sides which means you can advice your sister on what she can expect from guys and how she should act towards them based on the good advice you've learned from here.
Technically you can't confront her about that text because then you'd be seen as snooping. However, you can let her know that you are there for her if she needs to talk. She's your sister and you two are never gonna be sexual so be her friend and I'm sure she will open up freely to you. You can bring up the topic randomly before anything else happens.
To answer your initial question. Since she's new to this sex stuff...yes she might be feeling guilty about it. Does it mean she won't do it again? That's not something anyone here can determine as there are so many factors to consider especially since girls act based on their feelings. So, if a guy comes along and pushes the right buttons as we are taught to then chances are she will probably do the same thing again. Hopefully, if you 2 are close and she's comfortable with sharing things with you, you can help her make the right decision. Hope this helps.

 

[Bible_Belt]

why would she apologize for hooking up with him?

Is he not single?

 

[Fred_Scuttle]

maybe he or she felt bad about what they did if it was a first time thing. you feel like you want to be protective of your sister. the thought of her doing that probably upsets you and shocks you. you still think she is innocent like most parents and siblings do. most of the times they are not. youngsters grow up fast today and most are hooking up at a younger age. don't let her know you went through her phone. she will be upset with you. she will feel like she can't trust you. that is why its a bad idea to snoop around because you find out things like that and you can't bring it up or there will be a fight and you lose the trust they had for you. sometimes its better to wonder and be in the dark about things than actually know. it would have served you better not knowing your sister is hooking up like you do now.

 

[penkitten]

i used to be a 17 yr old girl, so my hunch is ...

"i'm sorry yada yada blah blah blah " = please don't classify me as a slut for sleeping with you too fast / why aren't you ringing my phone off the hook

pick one of those.