Ratisson's 100 approaches in 2007

[Ratisson]

The past couple of days i have been reading many approach journals written by the dj's in this forum. After reading them i must say that it has inspired me to make one myself. I'm starting to realise that in order to become something in life, you need to take action yourself and that the Hot Babe that you dream of will not come knocking on your front door. In order to become the dj that we all want to be we must take it into our own hands to become that man.
Heres some background: Im 22 years old now and i have never been laid. Ever since i was 15 i got some serious bad acne and it caused me to become anti-social. I still suffer from mild acne, and alot of redmarks have been left over and some scarring. I believe that my bad skin has held me back from finding a girl and having success with them. But now i realise that i have to do the best i can with what i've got.
My goals for this approach journal is to complete 100 approaches by the end of this year. My goals are to gain some experience in interacting with the opposite sex, gain some conversation skills, and have the confidence to approach any babe at any time Up until the end of the year my schedule will be busy, so i do not have much time to sarge. In fact i have no intention of going out just to sarge. I am committed to making my approaches whenever the opportunity arises when i am going about my daily activities.
After every 5 approaches i will state what i have learned from those 5 approaches and what has improved in my game.
I am doing this journal because i want to change my life with women. I think that writing down your goals is the first step to changing into the man you want to become. I am sick of not having a woman in my life and not having fvcked a woman in my life. I do not want to go through life without taking risks. I realise now that life is all about taking risks.
When I am 90 years old and on my death bed and about to die, do i want to look back on the opportunities in my life and say "ya, i'm glad i didnt approach that HB10". When i;m about to die i want to know that i had no regrets in life. Why are we so scared of approaching. It's not like she's packing or anything. What are we so scared of? Why am i so scared? Let the approaches begin.

 

[L777]

Good luck man. You do realise that there are cover-up products designed especially for men nowadays...you're probably thinking thats a bit gay, but if it helps you get laid...well that's not gay now is it?

 

[Ratisson]

Approach #1:
April 6, 2007.

Location: night club

Okay, I'm at the club with a couple of my friends, we get there a little bit early and decide to chill for a bit. I'm looking around checking for hot girls, but i see nothing yet. Couple hours later the club gets a little more jammed and i see a 2 set. Girl 1 was a nice blond (5'8), nice rack, nice face, a HB 8.5. She was my target. Girl 2 was her friend, was a red head (HBred), nice body, okay face, but i didnt want her. Anyway i'm walking through the dance floor and i see these two standing there. Me and my buddy stand a couple feet away and check them out. I could see that the HB8.5blonde was checking me out at the corner of her eye, then she turns her head and looks at me.
I smile and she smiles back and then i turn to my friend and say "She's a MILF". I was hoping that she could read my lips. Anyway i chickened out and they walked away. I felt dissappointed in myself for not approaching them, but i still knew i would get another shot at it. And i did, this time there was no hesitation. As me and my buddy were chilling and just checking out the dancefloor i notice the two HB's walking toward the D floor. I go up to HBred and ask her name and i give mine. Then i introduce myself to the HB8.5. But like i said in my intro, i;m a bit short on conversation and whenever i'm in a convo with a girl at a club and i run out of things to say i just ask them to dance.
So me and the two Hb's hit the D floor and i start grinding with HB8.5
Ratisson: "How old are you?"
Hb8.5: 'how old are you"
R: 86, but i look young for my age
hb: (laughs) how old do u think i am
R: Umm, 25 yeard old
hb: ya its somewhere around there
R: So what do you do?
hb: I am a waitress
R: You're a waitress. Tell me how do remember all of the orders, i can never remember anything"
hb: (laughs)(i forget her response)

we keep dancing and chatting for a couple of minutes and i remeber in one point of our conversation i asked what restauraunt she worked at and she wouldn't tell me (huge red flag!, she must of thought i would have stalked her or something).
Anyway eventually her friend was dancing with some hom0 that she didn;t like and she said that she had to go save her. I asked for her number, but she said that she doesnt give out her number, i said sure u dont and left.

Looking back on it though i was glad i approached even though it didnt lead anywhere. Like they say in baseball, u gotta swing to hit.

 

[Ratisson]

Thanks L777, right now i dont really have that much acne, but there are left over redmarks from it. My doctor says that there are some laser treatment i could do, so i will look up my options when i get the cash.
I might be going to the bar tonight, if its packed i will stay and do some approaches but if it isnt then im gonna go home to bed. So i might have some updates.

 

[Ratisson]

Approach #2:
So yesterday i went into one of the local Tim Hortons to get a cup of coffee (i usually drink coffee to help me study). When i walk in i see a HB 8.0 working the counter. I've seen her before a couple of times because this was a coffee shop that i go to everyday. Anyway i go to order my coffee and i could see that her and her coworker making a mess with the coffee. After i order my coffee the HB8.5 is just standing there minding her own business. I of course was also standing there minding my own business, but i could see from the corner of my eye that the HB8.5 was checking me out. 10 seconds go by and she hasnt looked away, so i decided to open her;

Ratisson: "you know i used to work at a Tim Hortons" (I didnt know what else to say, plus the whole situation before hand with her making a mess with the coffee reminded me of when i used to work at Tims).

Hb8.5: "Really" (she seemed very enthusiastic)
R: ya it sucked, i hated it
hb: why
R: well u would get all these customers order like 3 different things and i could never keep up with them
hb: well that's why u have the teller
R: Ya but i never knew how to work it.
Hb: how old are you?
R: 21
Hb: so how long did u work there?
R; oh, i lasted only two days
hb: (laughs) which one did u work at?
R: the one at 'Location X'

a couple other things were said but i cant remember it all. the whole encounter probably lasted around 1 and a half minutes. Again i start running out of things to say and thats why my convo's are so short. But anyway, i havent been to that specific Tim hortons in a couple days since that encounter, but when i go back and see her im definitely going to ask for her number. The whole time she seemed really into me. She was asking a lot of personal questions and she was smiling a lot, but i guess i'll have to ask for her number to see if she's truly interested.

And dammit i made the mistake of not asking for her age after she had asked for mine, she looked like she could have been in highschool.

 

[Brak86]

Approach #2:
So yesterday i went into one of the local Tim Hortons to get a cup of coffee (i usually drink coffee to help me study). When i walk in i see a HB 8.0 working the counter. I've seen her before a couple of times because this was a coffee shop that i go to everyday. Anyway i go to order my coffee and i could see that her and her coworker making a mess with the coffee. After i order my coffee the HB8.5 is just standing there minding her own business. I of course was also standing there minding my own business, but i could see from the corner of my eye that the HB8.5 was checking me out. 10 seconds go by and she hasnt looked away, so i decided to open her;

Ratisson: "you know i used to work at a Tim Hortons" (I didnt know what else to say, plus the whole situation before hand with her making a mess with the coffee reminded me of when i used to work at Tims).

Hb8.5: "Really" (she seemed very enthusiastic)
R: ya it sucked, i hated it
hb: why
R: well u would get all these customers order like 3 different things and i could never keep up with them
hb: well that's why u have the teller
R: Ya but i never knew how to work it.
Hb: how old are you?
R: 21
Hb: so how long did u work there?
R; oh, i lasted only two days
hb: (laughs) which one did u work at?
R: the one at 'Location X'

a couple other things were said but i cant remember it all. the whole encounter probably lasted around 1 and a half minutes. Again i start running out of things to say and thats why my convo's are so short. But anyway, i havent been to that specific Tim hortons in a couple days since that encounter, but when i go back and see her im definitely going to ask for her number. The whole time she seemed really into me. She was asking a lot of personal questions and she was smiling a lot, but i guess i'll have to ask for her number to see if she's truly interested.

And dammit i made the mistake of not asking for her age after she had asked for mine, she looked like she could have been in highschool.

The fact that out of the blue she asked for your age is a definite IOI. She was interested. Good job on the reports. Keep it up and you will get better in no time.

 

[So pimp its scary]

100 appraoches for a YEAR?!?!

That's less than 2 girls a week... that's not enough... to really flex that social muscle, you'd need at least 5-10 approaches per week.

To each his own tho...

 

[SamRi72]

Yea maybe 100 approaches for a month would be good.

I'm currently a senior in high school so I mainly do approaches in familiar territory. It gives me the upper hand because I can show social proof at the snap of my finger. I have yet to make the top tier of game at school, but I am getting there and I can't wait to get better at AMOGing those jocks.

Use Neil Strauss' 3 second rule. Approach and say anything within the first three seconds of being in your target's eye range. The wierder the stuff you say the more you know that the IOIs are authentic and she is not just smiling at your material. Just walk up and ask what kinda toothpaste she uses or point out what kind of smile she has (C or U). Juggler, the PUA favorite of many, got his claim to fame by saying he could pick up women by simply reading his grocery list.

 

[Ratisson]

Approach #3:
April 12, 2007.

Situation: So im at my school studying for final exams. I was studying on one of the couches in one of the acedemic buildings and in walks a HB 8, blonde, 5”9, nice face, nice body. I had seen her before the previous day, but didn’t approach. I wasn’t able to get her isolated, but the guy she was studying beside actually struck a convo with her. They talked for like a half an hour and all I could say is that I have deep admiration and respect for the guy. The whole time they were talking there was not a single pause in their conversation and he was making her laugh. This guy I have to say had game and I bet he is a member on this site too. Anyway the problem was this guy was that didn’t close the deal. All that talk and no close. What a waste.
So today, in walks the same HB8. Im sitting on the couches studying and she sits on a couch right around the corner from where I am. She is isolated, but I chicken out. I sit for a couple minutes pretending to study when I am actually thinking about ways to approach her. I walk past her to go to the washroom about 5 times (I drank a ton of water and was pissing like a dog). And in comes one of her male friends who sits down and talks to her. They talked for a good half hour. While they are talking I’m sitting there thinking “I cant blow this opportunity”, I thought about this site and my approach journal and decided that I need to make approaches.
I decide “fvck it, next time she’s isolated im approaching”
The guy friend leaves, I make my decision to approach. I used a cheesy excuse to approach her:
Ratisson: excuse me, do u have a pen I could borrow”
HB8: Ya but it’s a red one
R: That will do
(I start underlining some of my study notes. I see her studying something so I say)
R: what are you studying?
Hb: oh, it’s a psychology course on learning
R: Oh ya, what do u think of it?
Hb: it svcks, im sick of it.

We fluff for abit about school she tells me that she’s doing like 3 majors and I go “whats that going to take u , 20 years. We have a good laugh throughout the whole conversation. I tell her that she must be pretty loaded if she is in school for that long. So we talk about what her parents do and how they like to just blow money away like my parents. We had a good laugh.
I think the whole conversation lasted at least 5-6 minutes. Its not bad considering I’m an anti-social retard. I felt it could have gone on but I started getting bored talking with her, I was like looking away and **** (what the fvck is wrong with me?)

Anyway I wait for a pause in the conversation and then I I say:
Ratisson: whats your name?
HB: Lisa, whats your name?
R: Ratisson
R: So are you going to give me your phone number
Hb: sorry, I don’t give out my number, but you can have my MSN.
R: (at this point I realize she’s not interested) Oh, I don’t take MSN, I’m never on it anyway
Hb: Well I just don’t give out my number
R: Ya sure u don’t, I bet if I was Brad Pitt I bet u would give it to me ( I said this jokingly)
Hb: (laughs)
R: Okay well have fun studying

I leave to go back to study.
I must say though I felt pretty good about the whole approach. After I went back to my seat I realized how easy it really is. All u have to do is just go up to them without fear, and they’ll let u know if they want u or not. It dindt even feel bad when she rejected me.

I think this approach journal is one of the best things I’ve ever done with my time. I think that making a commitment to do something by writing a journal down and setting goals for yourself is what made me approach her. I know I wouldn’t have approached her if it wasn’t for the commitment I made.
Looking back now I am proud of myself for approaching, you have to swing to hit and when I;m 85 yrs old and on my death bed im gonna look back on this day and say “im glad I made the best of it”

I’m gonna come back to study tomorrow so hopefully some new Hot Babes comes along then too. Next time I don’t think I’ll be as afraid to make the approach.

 

[Phazuka]

Life is too short, why settle for snuffing it at 85 when you could get hit by a truck tomorrow?

 

[Vypros]

Ratisson: "How old are you?"
Hb8.5: 'how old are you"
R: 86, but i look young for my age
hb: (laughs) how old do u think i am
R: Umm, 25 yeard old
hb: ya its somewhere around there
R: So what do you do?
hb: I am a waitress
R: You're a waitress. Tell me how do remember all of the orders, i can never remember anything"
hb: (laughs)(i forget her response)

Couple of things about this:

1. Watch asking a girl how old she is. It hasn't been too long ago since it was considered incredibly rude to ask a girl her age. Don't ask me why but it was. So some girls might get offended by that.

2. The phrase "ya its somewhere around there" sounds like she is lying or purposely trying to hide her age. The whole coversation sounds like she was trying to hide her age until you told her your age. So, if I were you I'd be careful here. Girl might be UNDERAGE.

Just a couple of thoughts.

 

[Ratisson]

April 14, 2007.
Tonight me and a couple buddies decided to hit the club. It was packed and i decided to make some approaches. Man did i get fvcked tonight. I mean these b!tches just werent having any of it. The whole night i think i approached four girls and i dont even know if i can consider any of these approaches. They were too short (like 10-20 seconds long). I went up to one Hb9.5 and tried to start a convo and she just started walking away in cirlcle (lol). Another one just gave me the cold shoulder when i approached her. And then another one kept walking away as i tried to pick her up outside the club.
The fourth one was a little more successful in my mind. I saw a hb 9.5 on the dancefloor and i approach her. I ask her her name, but she doesnt ask for mine. So right away i could tell she wasnt interested. I ask her if she wants to dance and she points to her friend and says that she's dancing with her. So then I just say "What's your home phone number?". She rejects me, but what else was i to do. I could tell she wasnt intersted and she just wasnt giving me anything to work on, and thats when i decide to close the deals.
I dont know what happened tonight, they just didn't want it. Im starting to begin to hate picking up at clubs, the music is too loud, the girls have their b!tch sheilds up, and most of them are there to just get pleasure out of turning guys down. Does anyone else have trouble picking up in clubs? I dont know, i think in order to have some success with clubs, i'm gonna have to start dressing and acting like a badass with these women. And that would be tough for me to do because i got the baby face thing going.
I think the only way im going to have success with these pick-ups is to focus on daytime/street pickups. I think the women will be more responsive to my approaches in those types of settings.

Anyway i think for my approach count i'll just add the above for approaches together and just call it one approach. So tonight was approach 4, I;m hoping maybe i'll run into some babes tomorrow at the library. Peace.

 

[flows101]

Grate work Rastisson at least your getting your as out off the house and APPROACHING.

here are some tips.

1. Stop asking girls how old they are (unless they look really young)

2. Dont talk about negative stuff

3. Stop asking so many questions and make more statements that way you wont run out of things to say.

You: so you haveing a good night
HB: yeah
You: you know its rude to not ask me how my nights going after i asked you
HB: are you haveing a good night
You: Yeah, so far my nights been a 9 sometimes it can be as low as a 7 but tonight i aint been hit on by the fat chicks so it's looking good blah blah blah

4. Before going for the number SOI (statement of intent) by saying you find somehting about her "sexy" if she accepts the SOI then your good to go this saves you wasteing your time as well.

5. Go out and try not to get drunk it lowers your game ALOT

 

[Ratisson]

thanks for the tips flows101,

Approach 5
April 15, 2007.
Well i was at the library today studying for some final exams. I am studying in a well open space. I'm sitting at a table and theres many other tables around, so there are many people there studying too. At one point during the night a hb 9.3, sits at the table infront of me with her back was turned to me. This girl was fcking gorgeous. Dark hair, tall, nice body and i think she may have been Hispanic or something. I new i had to approach her at one point. There were a couple times where i would get up to go to the bathroom and i could see her eyeing me.

Well the night continues on and i havent made my approach. She was studying with a bunch of friends so it wasn't possible to get her alone. Well the time came when i had to get up and go home, so i decided fvck it!. I;m never gonna know if she likes me or not if i dont go talk to her. Plus i'll probably never see her again in my life. So i gotta make the best of it.

I get up to leave and grab ahold of my balls and walk up to her. I say "hi, whats your name?" (there was a little nervousness in my voice and i think she could tell) and i could already tell she was distant. She gives me her name, but doesnt ask for mine (bad sign). So i say "I just really had to meet you, i'd like you to give me your number so we could go out for coffee sometime." (again i was nervous saying this)
She hesitates and says she has a boyfriend (i could tell it was a lie). I responded "just one?". This made her laugh, but it didn't really matter at this point. Then i walked away.

I know the approach was short and weak, but i didn;t know what else to do. I had to leave, she was busy studying and we were in a quiet study area, so i dont know how i could have tried to run any game on her. Which was why i decided to just go up the her and close the deal. If she liked me, then she would have given me her number and gotten to know me over coffee.
Well the whole rejection just made me feel like a complete loser. But whatever, at least i dont have to live with the regret of not approaching. And in the past i would have just walked out of there without saying a word, so theres been maybe a little improvement in myself.

 

[Ratisson]

Approach 6:

im at the club with a few friends just having a couple beers. We arrive at like 10 and it doesnt start getting packed till like 12. Anyway all i have to say is im a fcvking puss1e. A couple hot girls walk by where im sitting and i dont even open them. One even smiled at me but i did nothing.
So around the time it gets packed theres these two girls grinding on each other right infront of me. They get so close that their like 1 ft away. So i open them and say to the one im not intersted " can i join in?" and she says no. I ask her for a name and she gives it to me, but it was kind of a weird name so i just make a comment on how it sounds like two names added together. And then her friend, the one i wanted just kinda shoved me away and they left and then some homo went and bought them some drinks.

Man i got rejected hard. I saw those girls a couple times before and i thought the one i liked was giving me IOI's but i guess you can never really tell for sure until u actually approach.

And again im such a pu$$y, i had a chance to approach some HB that was in a class of mine after i wrote my last exam and i fvcking chickend out. She was sitting on some steps and i could have easily opened her by asking her how her exam went. God im a pu$$y. I think whoever made that comment about 100 approaches in a year is way too little is right. I think i have to cram all my hundred into like a months so that i can go on a sarging spree and overcome my approach anxiety better. What do u guys think?

 

[Sadao]

sounds good bro.

 

[Ratisson]

Approach 7:
Fun night at the bar the other night. I'm beginning to realize that approaching chicks at the bar is all about the mood i'm in. When im in a bad mood or neutral mood, i just dont approach. But when im in a happy and carefree mood, i talk to all the babes.
Well last night i was kinda in a neutral mood. The first 1/2hour at the club i didnt make any approaches, but then something changed to get me in a good mood. As i was circling the club i see this hb8, brunette, nice tits, who thought she was the sh1t. She goes up to this thuggish kind of guy whose standing against the wall with his friends, and she takes her beer bottle and smacks the bottom of it, onto the top of his beer bottle, which made his beer pour out.

He had the look on his face like wtf are you doing, but he didnt do anything about it. I saw all this go down out of the corner of my eye, and i was like wtf. Stup1d b1tches think their the sh1t and that they'll get a way with everything. I knew i had to get her back, to take a stand to stand up for these guys. So i go up to her, tap her on the sholder, reach my beer out to her and say "do me too". She smack my beer too, but guess what, it's empty u stup1d b1cth. hgahahahaha. After she smacks it and sees nothing come out, i turn my bottle upside down to show her its empty and i laugh right in her face, the thugs loved it too, and she was pissed. She gives me the finger, but i just walk away laughing my ass off. Stup1d b1tch.

This got me in a good mood. I head over to the dance floor and go up to a hb8 and her hb6 friend. I ask if she wants to dance and she says something. I couldnt quiet hear what she said but i assumed that she says no. So i just pretend to her like i heard "yes" and i just grind up on her. I pull her friend in too, but she didnt want any of it. The grind lasted like 1 minute, and these girls liked how aggressive i was and that i didnt give a **** (remember im in a good mood). But eventually the hb6, starts to c0ck block and pulls her friend away, but before she does i go for hb 8's number, but get rejected. Oh well, but im still in a good mood.

Approach 8:
So a couple minutes later, im walking along the perimeter of the D floor and i see a hb 7. I dont even think, i just go up to her and say "hey u wanna dance" I caught her off gaurd and she was a little surprised. He looks around at her friend like, wtf, and she agrees. So we go dance for about 10-15 minutes and this girls had huge fvcking juggs too. She was a little drunk, so she was stumbling a little and i had to hold her in place. After we were done she wants to head back to her friends. I number close and got it. But i can tell she's not that interested, but i guess ill find out when i eventually call her.

I was sweating hard after my grind with her, the club was packed and it was so hot in there. It just got too hot, i really wanted to sarge more but it was just too hot and sweatty in there, so i just left.

overall it wasnt a bad night at the bar, and that whole thing with the beer bottle girl just made my week. peace.

 

[kidkoala]

ok let me get this straight. You lowering yourself to the level of a mean girl and ragging on her made your week. Dude that is weak sauce.

You keep on calling girls *****es. Mysogony is rampant in your posts. Why would a girl be attracted to someone who doesn't like women?

Admittedly, there are women who are *****es but not 4 out of 8 of people you approach. You most likely come off really need and wierd. All you want is *****, so you just quickly ask for numbers or dances. If a girl did that to me, even if she was gorgeous, it would cheapen me to some extent. You have to be NICE to girls. Present your sexuality without PRETENSION and if she doesn't want you walk away with RESPECT. RESPECt for YOURSELF and FOR HER. She may not have liked you, but she is still a cool person that you respect or at the very least aren't bitter towards. DON'T HAVE A POOR ME VICTIM MENTALITY!!! If you do 100 approaches with a mysogonistic mindset you will LEARN NOTHING. Approach with a warm, genuine, fun vibe and quit hating.

 

[Ratisson]

kidkoala, uh, i dont know where u got the idea that i dont approach chicks with a warm , genuine and fun attitude. Where does it say in my approaches that i approached like a d1ck.

The beer bottle girl was a b1tch and therefore i will refer to her as one. But i never called her one. And how did i lower myself to her standards. Lowering myself to her standards would have been by me smacking HER beer. So what the hell are u talking about? I can tell from ur reply that if a girl ever disrespected u that u would take the beating and do nothing about it. Grow some balls and stand up for urself. I played a joke on her and i got her back. U cant be letting someone like that get away with sh1t, so stop thinking like a pu$$y. I know everyone else on this forum stand by my actions except u.

And no i didnt lower myself, i didnt call her a b1tch and i didnt make any rude gestures toward her. I kept it funny and light, so what are u talking about? Next time u post onto my thread please think before u type. thank you.

 

[Agent Zero]

I find that if you focus on approaching at clubs too much, you get a distorted view of women and hate them and your game suffers. If you approach during the day, you're game will improve so try to limit your nightlift approaches cause they are very frustrating for most.