Rather annoying situation, I could use some good advice :)

GuyInNeed

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Ok, I've been dating this girl for a bit more than a year. Everything's good...


She's having problems at her job though. There are 2 guys, brothers, who are always giving her a hard time. She's complained about them to me a few times now, saying how they say such stupid stuff and she gets angry. Just today she told me that they're starting to talk about me, asking if i'm gay. She's told me the managers at her place don't seem to care about the situation, which is making her uncomfortable and she has stated that she is considering finding another job.


Now it seems to me that these two guys are after my chick, but they're immature idiots. Or maybe they just like causing trouble and getting attention. Either way, they're starting to make ME angry, since my gf is getting upset about all this, and now they're talking about me.

I've told her that it would be best to just ignore them completely, and they will stop, but based upon her personality, I don't think that's a viable option. She likes to have the last word and enjoys a good argument (no, we don't argue, we get along great. hehe)

The managers at work don't seem to care about the situation either. So I'm wondering if I should go in one day, and have her point out these 2 guys who are causing problems. I'm not going to do something stupid like punching both of them in a place of business :) But I sure wish it was legal for me to do so. It makes me so angry, these two little homo wimps are picking on a girl and talking about me when I'm not there. Having a little chat with them might be a good idea though...


Or maybe someone else has a good idea. I'd appreciate any help.
 

assasin

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I'd definately show your face at her place of work assuming it's a public place not an office environment. Not to have it out with them, but just as a sort of silent intimidation. Act cool confident and Alpha, let your body language intimidate them.

Your woman does want a strong man to stand in her corner, but she doesn't want a neanderthal who's going to make her look bad at work by going all David Banner at her work place.
 

Oscar Wilde

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This is workplace bullying, and it is very serious.

Depending on the environment, get her to approach HR, or her management and make a formal written complaint about it. In the complaint note that she will be consulting with a solicitor/lawyer/legal adviser (there are free ones available - call samaratins/womens rights office or similar).

She can sue for this kinda stuff if the management take no action. Don't hold back.

Osc.
 

spanky

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She can sue for this kinda stuff if the management take no action. Don't hold back.

Yes. I am surprised she hasn't recognized this as sexual harassment. The moment they said something about you being gay, they have definitely crossed the line.
You should encourage her to go to her HR manager, tell that person the situation, and demand it to stop or else.
I bet you they will stop then. It shows that you won't tolerate and crap and it better than a fist fight or an ugly scene at the work place since the law will be on your side.
 
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