Rapport-
The ability to enter a girl's world, to make her feel that you understand her, that you have a magnetic invincible bond. The ability to go from your map of the world to hers. Its essential for succesful communication. Rapport is a great tool for producing results with girls.To be a great don juan, persuader, or good freind you really need rapport. You can use rapport to form a powerful common human bond and a relationship of responsiveness.
-"The Freind who understand you creates you"
-Romain Rolland
Opposites attract?
When people have enough in common, the elemnts of difference adds excitement. But overall, who is attractive to you? Are you looking for someone who disagrees with you on everything, has different interest, likes to sleep when you want play, and likes to play when you want to sleep? Of course not. You want to be with people who are like you and yet unique.
Why are the jews and arabs having problems now? Are the Jews and Arabs alike in there religous beliefs? Think!
Does this mean there's no way out of this viscious cycle of difference creating conflict, creating more conflict, creating more difference?
The first real step in communication is learning to translate from your map of the world to someone else's. Rapport skills is the key in allowing you to do this!
How do I create rapport?
You do it by creating or discovering things in common.
"If you would win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are his sincere freind"
-Abe Lincoln
Dont just try to create rapport merely by the contenet of conversation. You'll be missing out on the largest ways you could be communicating commonality to the brain of a girl's.
You can learn to mirror the breathing patterns, and gestures of a girl. If you can develop rapport with just words, think of the incredible power of rapport you can develop with words and physiology combined!
While the words are working on the girl's conscious mind, the physiology is working on the unconscious. Thats where you have her brain thinking, Hey, this person is like me! He must be okay, and once that happens their is a great attraction and bond. And because its unconscious, its even more effective. She's not aware of anything, but the bond that has been formed!
"To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we precieve the world and use this understanding as a guide to communication with others"
Auditory people-EX." It sounds good to me"
-Speech is more modulated, the tempo is balanced, and the voice tends to have a clear, resonant tonality, Breathing tends to be even and deep, coming from the diaphragm or the whole chest. There tends to be a balnace muscl;e tension. There's a tendency for shoulders to slouch somewhat and for the head to tilt slightly to one side.
Kinesthetic Pople-"It doesn't feel right"
-Spech is slower many times they take a long pause between words and have a low, deep tonality. A lot of body movement tends to indicate tactile or external kinesthetic accessing. Muscle relaxation indicates internal, visceral kinesthetic accesing. A position characterized by upturned palms with arms bent and relaxed is kinesthetic. Posture tends to be solid, with the head sitting squarely on the shoulders.
Some cues very somewhat from person to person.
Consider a girl in an auditory state. If you are trying to persaude her by asking her to picture how it will look, and you talk very rapidly, you probably wont get through to her. She needs to eher what you have to say, needs to listen to your proposal and notice if it clicks for herself! Another girl may be in a visual state, and you approach her kinesthetically, talking very slowly about how you feel about something, she will probably become very irritated at your slow pace and ask you to get to the point.
When you know her main representational system, you've taken a huge step toward learning how to enter her world!
By practicing enetering in her world or another gir'ls world it will become second nature. If you can establish rapport with her soon you ccan change her behavior to begain matching yours.
Think about todays' educational system....Whats a major problem?
Teachers Dont know there students
They dont know how students process info
They dont know their student's representational system
They dont know how their students mind work
You can know everything in the world about the Holy Roman Empire, but if you cant establish rapport, if you cant translate that information frrom your map to someone else's your knowledge is meaningless!
Final Though
You dont need to travel to study at the feet of a master, and you dont need to earn a master's degree. The only tools you need are your eyes, ears, and senses of touch and smell.
-Source Unlimited Power By Anthony Robbins
The ability to enter a girl's world, to make her feel that you understand her, that you have a magnetic invincible bond. The ability to go from your map of the world to hers. Its essential for succesful communication. Rapport is a great tool for producing results with girls.To be a great don juan, persuader, or good freind you really need rapport. You can use rapport to form a powerful common human bond and a relationship of responsiveness.
-"The Freind who understand you creates you"
-Romain Rolland
Opposites attract?
When people have enough in common, the elemnts of difference adds excitement. But overall, who is attractive to you? Are you looking for someone who disagrees with you on everything, has different interest, likes to sleep when you want play, and likes to play when you want to sleep? Of course not. You want to be with people who are like you and yet unique.
Why are the jews and arabs having problems now? Are the Jews and Arabs alike in there religous beliefs? Think!
Does this mean there's no way out of this viscious cycle of difference creating conflict, creating more conflict, creating more difference?
The first real step in communication is learning to translate from your map of the world to someone else's. Rapport skills is the key in allowing you to do this!
How do I create rapport?
You do it by creating or discovering things in common.
"If you would win a man to your cause, first convince him that you are his sincere freind"
-Abe Lincoln
Dont just try to create rapport merely by the contenet of conversation. You'll be missing out on the largest ways you could be communicating commonality to the brain of a girl's.
You can learn to mirror the breathing patterns, and gestures of a girl. If you can develop rapport with just words, think of the incredible power of rapport you can develop with words and physiology combined!
While the words are working on the girl's conscious mind, the physiology is working on the unconscious. Thats where you have her brain thinking, Hey, this person is like me! He must be okay, and once that happens their is a great attraction and bond. And because its unconscious, its even more effective. She's not aware of anything, but the bond that has been formed!
"To effectively communicate, we must realize that we are all different in the way we precieve the world and use this understanding as a guide to communication with others"
Auditory people-EX." It sounds good to me"
-Speech is more modulated, the tempo is balanced, and the voice tends to have a clear, resonant tonality, Breathing tends to be even and deep, coming from the diaphragm or the whole chest. There tends to be a balnace muscl;e tension. There's a tendency for shoulders to slouch somewhat and for the head to tilt slightly to one side.
Kinesthetic Pople-"It doesn't feel right"
-Spech is slower many times they take a long pause between words and have a low, deep tonality. A lot of body movement tends to indicate tactile or external kinesthetic accessing. Muscle relaxation indicates internal, visceral kinesthetic accesing. A position characterized by upturned palms with arms bent and relaxed is kinesthetic. Posture tends to be solid, with the head sitting squarely on the shoulders.
Some cues very somewhat from person to person.
Consider a girl in an auditory state. If you are trying to persaude her by asking her to picture how it will look, and you talk very rapidly, you probably wont get through to her. She needs to eher what you have to say, needs to listen to your proposal and notice if it clicks for herself! Another girl may be in a visual state, and you approach her kinesthetically, talking very slowly about how you feel about something, she will probably become very irritated at your slow pace and ask you to get to the point.
When you know her main representational system, you've taken a huge step toward learning how to enter her world!
By practicing enetering in her world or another gir'ls world it will become second nature. If you can establish rapport with her soon you ccan change her behavior to begain matching yours.
Think about todays' educational system....Whats a major problem?
Teachers Dont know there students
They dont know how students process info
They dont know their student's representational system
They dont know how their students mind work
You can know everything in the world about the Holy Roman Empire, but if you cant establish rapport, if you cant translate that information frrom your map to someone else's your knowledge is meaningless!
Final Though
You dont need to travel to study at the feet of a master, and you dont need to earn a master's degree. The only tools you need are your eyes, ears, and senses of touch and smell.
-Source Unlimited Power By Anthony Robbins
