Would like to know people's experience in how to best re-raise interest level from a woman whom showed high interest (70-85%) in you previously but now seems to be displaying low interest (51-65% let's say).
Scenario is quite simple, she kept staring, initiating small talk, asking if I would be around, hovering around me, asking me to meet up for coffee (asking to exchange contact details), initiating texts, then asking me out for drinks.
During our first hangout (coffee) she seemed enthusiastic and shared a lot about herself, while initiating a lot of conversation, but said she had to go after an hour because she had promised to meet a friend but asked if we could exchange details.
During our first date (drinks) I noticed she was playing games and I called her out on it, and that seemed to pique her interest one of which she stated she can judge how a relationship will be based on the first kiss and that she kissed some other guy a few weeks ago and felt nothing so she didn't bother - know I should have really turned the tables on her there and said I bet she's a horrible kisser etc etc and made her validate herself and kissed on close but I didn't. She said she wants to know that I am in control of myself etc and that I have till the end of the Summer before she goes abroad for half a year to catch her.
Unfortunately I made the mistake of initiating contact after that a couple of times, but still managed to get a second date which she kept extending the duration of. During this time she was still **** testing all sorts of things, to see if she could get a reaction out of me and she admit she was doing it for exactly that reason when I called her out on it again - she's done other things as well like tell me about guys hitting on her, or flashing money in an attempt to evoke jealousy which I maintained cool about. I didn't kiss on close again.
While I was initiating KINO (heavily by end of second date) on both dates I wasn't getting as much back as I wanted but definitely got open body language and acceptance to follow my lead, with minimal resistance.
Now she's become more detached and unresponsive, but still hovers around (and will take notice of small things - why I am not wearing specific training gear that I had mentioned, if I was going wrong on a lift or if one side of me was compensating, things I was doing in my movements, she'll hover around cheering me on and watch the whole exercise) but is not nearly as close as she used to and won't readily accept dates or offer a specific counter-offer stating she is busy (which it seems she is since she's completely gone absent from our gym and her best friend has also told me that she got the same story from her, that she's busy etc.). Additionally, while her responses are still lengthy, she used to be much more capable of initiating contact which she doesn't do now, unless she sees me talking to other people (male or female).
Her responses have varied from being instant to days later (not a good sign) and I am assuming that she's either losing interest fast or she's pulling back to see how I react and if I become needy/clingy. After her last busy excuse (after having dealt with a similar scenario which another member helped me put phrasing together) I put the ball in her court and initiated no contact - I plan on being away for the next 2 or 3 weeks from where I would normally run into her (gym) and then seeing how she reacts.
DJs, is the best way to proceed? Is raising interest level again worth while or should I next? If raising interest level again is worthwhile/viable; then what is the best way to do it? I know I am pretty much going to have to full court press if I manage to get a third date - which she would have to initiate. Other advice would be appreciated.
It's also worth noting that she seems to be unable to initiate KINO farther then bumping elbows or minor gestures.
Scenario is quite simple, she kept staring, initiating small talk, asking if I would be around, hovering around me, asking me to meet up for coffee (asking to exchange contact details), initiating texts, then asking me out for drinks.
During our first hangout (coffee) she seemed enthusiastic and shared a lot about herself, while initiating a lot of conversation, but said she had to go after an hour because she had promised to meet a friend but asked if we could exchange details.
During our first date (drinks) I noticed she was playing games and I called her out on it, and that seemed to pique her interest one of which she stated she can judge how a relationship will be based on the first kiss and that she kissed some other guy a few weeks ago and felt nothing so she didn't bother - know I should have really turned the tables on her there and said I bet she's a horrible kisser etc etc and made her validate herself and kissed on close but I didn't. She said she wants to know that I am in control of myself etc and that I have till the end of the Summer before she goes abroad for half a year to catch her.
Unfortunately I made the mistake of initiating contact after that a couple of times, but still managed to get a second date which she kept extending the duration of. During this time she was still **** testing all sorts of things, to see if she could get a reaction out of me and she admit she was doing it for exactly that reason when I called her out on it again - she's done other things as well like tell me about guys hitting on her, or flashing money in an attempt to evoke jealousy which I maintained cool about. I didn't kiss on close again.
While I was initiating KINO (heavily by end of second date) on both dates I wasn't getting as much back as I wanted but definitely got open body language and acceptance to follow my lead, with minimal resistance.
Now she's become more detached and unresponsive, but still hovers around (and will take notice of small things - why I am not wearing specific training gear that I had mentioned, if I was going wrong on a lift or if one side of me was compensating, things I was doing in my movements, she'll hover around cheering me on and watch the whole exercise) but is not nearly as close as she used to and won't readily accept dates or offer a specific counter-offer stating she is busy (which it seems she is since she's completely gone absent from our gym and her best friend has also told me that she got the same story from her, that she's busy etc.). Additionally, while her responses are still lengthy, she used to be much more capable of initiating contact which she doesn't do now, unless she sees me talking to other people (male or female).
Her responses have varied from being instant to days later (not a good sign) and I am assuming that she's either losing interest fast or she's pulling back to see how I react and if I become needy/clingy. After her last busy excuse (after having dealt with a similar scenario which another member helped me put phrasing together) I put the ball in her court and initiated no contact - I plan on being away for the next 2 or 3 weeks from where I would normally run into her (gym) and then seeing how she reacts.
DJs, is the best way to proceed? Is raising interest level again worth while or should I next? If raising interest level again is worthwhile/viable; then what is the best way to do it? I know I am pretty much going to have to full court press if I manage to get a third date - which she would have to initiate. Other advice would be appreciated.
It's also worth noting that she seems to be unable to initiate KINO farther then bumping elbows or minor gestures.
