raised interest...now what?

[slickjesse]

i work with a very hot girl. when she first started working there all the guys were all over her. she knows shes hot and she milks it for what its worth. i noticed how guys acted and decided to ignore her...and if i did talk to her make it a neg-hit. after about a month and a half of this one night right in front of her another guy asked me if I thought she was hot. i said "ehh not really" and smiled at her. i found out later he asked because she just told him that she thought i was hot. the past couple times ive worked with her we've talked more...im flirty but still throw in neg hits ( i feel like she needs it cause you can just tell shes used to getting her way). my question is: i can only do this for so long without losing the interest im building. she friends with a lot of guys at work and they all hang out in groups. in fact tomorrow im going to a work party and she'll be there. it seems like every guy that tries with her falls into this buddy hang out thing. How should I hook it up with her and keep her interest the way i have it going right now? the other day she said something to her friend and her friend said "does he want to go" referring to me. i had plans. so i know she has interest but how can i prevent this from turning the way it is for everyone else when i make moves?

 

[becker]

I hate situations like this. You're damned if you do and damned if you don't. I tend to not go for girls like this, even if they're hot, unless the whole hanging out with a group of guys known as "buddies" stops. Otherwise, you're looking for trouble. She's looking to pull you into that group, and once she has conquered you, she'll move on. Looks like a bit of an attention ***** to me.

 

[Pimp-sicle]

Slick: Bro your doing fine!!! If she's that hot with an ego to match, just crack her ***** shield and she'll be like butter in your hands. One thing that I learned from reading David Deangelo's material was to say something like this to an extremely HB9-10:

Guy:"You know, you don't have me fooled for one second."

Girl: "What do you mean?"

Guy: "You know EXACTLY what I mean!"

Girl: "No I really don't"

Guy: "Well I'm sure your whole life you've gotten by, by playing the I'm beautiful card" but I see right through this. I know that deep inside you, there's a side of you that not many people get to see. This side is an emotional, caring person who hides underneath this exterior layer.

From here the girl she feel like you've just psychically told her, her future. If said in the correct tone of voice and atmosphere, you should have her on the palm of your hand.

However Becker does bring up a good point, she might be a bit of an attention *****, so you might want to abort the mission all together though.


PIMP

 

[Francisco d'Anconia]

What do you actually want from her? All I could pick up from your post is that you wanted to keep her IL high while not getting bored yourself. If she has not done anything that makes you definitely want her, why bother?

If you want a ONS or even a LTR, you need to get regain home town advantage. Since she started at your company she has had the advantage of having so many AFC to retreat to after your neg-hits. You need to get her away from that to be able to dig in deep to raise her IL even more. Once you do that, you will definitely have the upper hand.

 

[xblitz44x]

This is an example of how the challenge shyt can get out of hand. I understand that you want to seperate yourself from the other guys, yada yada and you can DO that. But if she doesn't like you in the first place, ignoring her will only be doing her a favor. So obviously she liked you BEFORE you "challenged" her, but just now you're giving her a reason to make a move on YOU, because she thinks you're not interested, too blind, too shy, or too insecure to try to get with her.

So see, there was no "raised IL". All you did was remain NOT a pvssy. The interest never increased - what you're seeing is a girl who either likes you for the "challenge" of you not liking her (why would you want a girl like that ANYWAY), or a girl that likes you and is running out of ways to show you.

Next time, just be real. Try to make your approach unique, and seperate yourself from the other guys in another way, besides ignoring her all together. I understand that it makes your ego feel good to be able to ignore a girl that hot - but lets be honest, you want to fvck her, you like her, you imagine being with her pretty damn often. You're not fooling anybody BUT her. As for now, go in strong. Fvck what you look like to the other guys. Just approach, maintain a steady conversation and say "Hey I have nothing going on tomorrow night, do you want to meet for lunch or something?"

If she says "no." then you know she liked you just because she couldn't have you...in which case it's a good thing you found that out sooner so you won't be wasting anymore of your (and MY) time. Plus, if she says no, you're no worse off than you are right now keeping your "Mr. Cool Challenge Suave Doc Love" persona.

-Blitz