quick question on relationships

[skaterguy97]

hi guys how are you all tonight? what are some good ways to project to a girl you have been with forever that she doesnt have you, so she will work harder to keep you?

 

[Zooey]

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[Zooey]

So you want to start acting like your girl doesn't have you so she goes "oh man, something's going wrong in the relationship, I better work hard or else I'm getting dumped?" IMHO, that sounds like emotional manipulation and the complete wrong way to keep a girl. Keep her happy that is.

Don't get me wrong, I get what you're wanting. A guy who can just walk away from a situation he isn't happy with is infinitely more attracted than someone who can't. But that doesn't mean you can't be happy with a situation and show it. I'm more than willing to tell a girl that I'm hers. But she knows at the same time that I'm not going to take any **** and if I get more than what I think is appropriate - I'm out of there.

Have you been acting like she does have you? If you suddenly flip-flop and get all "I'm no-one's girl" then she is going to freak. Do you want her to be your girl? I think there comes a point where, if you want the girl to be your girl, you've got to go, "your my girl, and I'm your man...now go down on me!"

 

[skaterguy97]

yes to be honest i have gotten too complacent in the relationship and she knows im hers therefore she tries to pull **** she wouldnt before which i still dont put up with but i would like to get the power back a bit so to speak if that makes any sense