Quick question, about relationship

[Jmasta23]

Ok guys, quick question here.
To put things as simple as possible.
GF of 3 years kisses a guy and I tell her that is over.

I have had no contact for 2 months. None.
However I feel that I am being unfair/having double standards here.
I have done my share of bad things during the relationship.
Strip clubs (Lots of grabbing and a few pecks), Dancing with girls when out and checking girls out (which could be considered normal to some not to others).

Maybe not as bad as a kiss but behavior wise I am not a saint.

Am I overreacting with the break up aka am I being a bastard with double standards? or Do I have a pretty legit point of ending things? I posted a similar post in a relationship forum and I got grilled pretty badly. Most people telling me to go to hell and that I deserve it.

Just seeking the point of view of some DJs.

Thanks

 

[Zion]

If you punch me in the face , will you be offended ask:"The fck did you do that for ?" when I punch you back ?


You can't possibly have expectations of receiving more than you give people. That's what spoiled little princesses do. They treat people like **** and expect nothing but kindness in return.

Ofcourse you don't have a legit reason for ending things. How can you possibly believe you do ? It's pretty much common sense.

 

[pdx1138]

I was on a trip abroad with my sister and her friend.

Her friend was in a LTR for 5 years (had known the guy since highschool)
She lived abroad with him while he was in school.

When we went out she would flirt with and make out with other guys. (her boyfriend was hundreds of miles a way mind you)
To her it was ok to do that. Not Fvck them, but making out was ok in her world. I know her boyfriend would not like that one bit.

Years later they are happily married. She doesn't make out with strangers now.

 

[Vidrio]

If you don't want your gf kissing other dudes then you had to dump her. She would have lost all respect for you if you would have kept her and she probably eventually would have cheated on you. If you want to be with other girls then you need to either A) stop getting into relationships or B) Get into casual/open relationships where you are both fvcking other people. Either that or stop kissing other girls.

 

[Trump]

I think if you met another hot girl within those 2 months, you wouldn't ask us if you were overreacting with your ex-gf. Its all about who you meet, who you know, spinning plates.

When you don't have options, you go back to whats safe, even though its not good for you.

 

[RedScorpion]

When you don't have options, you go back to whats safe, even though its not good for you.

This is very true. I allowed myself to be sucked up by a massively BPD girl for about maybe 6 months. Bouncing back and forth between bad terms and great terms. Either I did this because I failed to look for girls, or failed to actually try to work with a new girl. My mind kept shouting "This is terrible choice" and yet, she sucked me back in each time. Until I cut her off for good. And started looking around, getting into a 5 month relationship (which reset the last option to this girl, but the breakup is much better without a BPD )