Just keen to hear some thoughts on my situation.
I’ve been spinning plates and have recently connected with a Vietnamese girl 9 years my junior (I’m 56, she’s 47).
She was divorced in 2017 after a 22 year marriage (she met her husband while only 18) and has only had one other relationship since lasting a few months. A notch count of only 2 is pretty rare these days. She has a 10 year old son whom she is devoted to.
She is very good looking, slim (only 55 kilograms), takes good care of herself and is stylish in terms of fashion. Heads turn when she walks into any room. She was wearing jeans the other day and they looked painted on. Her legs are so slim, I’m used to dating girls with legs like tree trunks. Chest in perfect proportion to her body (we both agree on that).
She was raised in a very traditional and conservative family and has strong personal values. She has told me that if she was just after money she would not be dating me as she has had many dating offers from guys earning much more than me, owning expensive houses and cars etc. She actually deleted her dating profile after our first date (I can tell from the app).
She is very romantic and talks about wanting love, lots of physical affection and looking good for her partner. This includes rubbing body oil and skin lotion on herself every night so she smells good in bed. She also mentioned she likes to look good in lingerie and underwear and her favourite colour for these (black). And that wearing a tshirt to bed is not very feminine.
I know this only on the third date just through talking to her when we haven’t even connected physically yet. The bedroom activities aspect is still to be understood as it’s important for me to have someone who is enthusiastic, willing to please and be open to trying different things to keep things interesting.
I know she is looking for a long term serious relationship and someone to love her and her son (our second date was like a job interview) so I know what I’m potentially getting myself into.
Should I proceed with caution? She seems very genuine and quite unlike the other broken, carousel ridden and delusional Western women I have encountered to date. While spinning plates is fun it is expensive and time and energy consuming plus a high failure rate and I’m not averse to seeing how things go with just one woman.
I’m not sure I’ll be able to do much better than her in the looks department. She is head and shoulders above any of the other plates in terms of looks and slimness. The 9 year age gap is very noticeable compared to all the older women I’ve dated. It’s like comparing a fresh Halloween pumpkin to one that’s been sitting in the hot sun for a few days.
Looks aren’t everything but they certainly help and her attitude towards what she wants in a partner and how she would treat them is also quite refreshing.
Thoughts welcome.
I’ve been spinning plates and have recently connected with a Vietnamese girl 9 years my junior (I’m 56, she’s 47).
She was divorced in 2017 after a 22 year marriage (she met her husband while only 18) and has only had one other relationship since lasting a few months. A notch count of only 2 is pretty rare these days. She has a 10 year old son whom she is devoted to.
She is very good looking, slim (only 55 kilograms), takes good care of herself and is stylish in terms of fashion. Heads turn when she walks into any room. She was wearing jeans the other day and they looked painted on. Her legs are so slim, I’m used to dating girls with legs like tree trunks. Chest in perfect proportion to her body (we both agree on that).
She was raised in a very traditional and conservative family and has strong personal values. She has told me that if she was just after money she would not be dating me as she has had many dating offers from guys earning much more than me, owning expensive houses and cars etc. She actually deleted her dating profile after our first date (I can tell from the app).
She is very romantic and talks about wanting love, lots of physical affection and looking good for her partner. This includes rubbing body oil and skin lotion on herself every night so she smells good in bed. She also mentioned she likes to look good in lingerie and underwear and her favourite colour for these (black). And that wearing a tshirt to bed is not very feminine.
I know this only on the third date just through talking to her when we haven’t even connected physically yet. The bedroom activities aspect is still to be understood as it’s important for me to have someone who is enthusiastic, willing to please and be open to trying different things to keep things interesting.
I know she is looking for a long term serious relationship and someone to love her and her son (our second date was like a job interview) so I know what I’m potentially getting myself into.
Should I proceed with caution? She seems very genuine and quite unlike the other broken, carousel ridden and delusional Western women I have encountered to date. While spinning plates is fun it is expensive and time and energy consuming plus a high failure rate and I’m not averse to seeing how things go with just one woman.
I’m not sure I’ll be able to do much better than her in the looks department. She is head and shoulders above any of the other plates in terms of looks and slimness. The 9 year age gap is very noticeable compared to all the older women I’ve dated. It’s like comparing a fresh Halloween pumpkin to one that’s been sitting in the hot sun for a few days.
Looks aren’t everything but they certainly help and her attitude towards what she wants in a partner and how she would treat them is also quite refreshing.
Thoughts welcome.
