Just asking a question about online dating. Have put a profile up on a website. Getting some emails back from some girls its been a week and talked to 3 -6 different girls emailing back and forth. some 10 emails some 3 to 4. the all seem too loose interest? when should I be asking them out at 5 e mails or at 3. why are they loosing interest. some of them will email me 10 times in a day back and forth. thanks for the help glad im out ther trying now .
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Don't waste your time. Tell them to give you their number after a few (three max) email exchanges. Any hesitation or them not responding? Stop replying and move on. All the talking etc. can be done on a meet.Spp27 said:
You should be getting numbers at three email exchanges (six total) back and forth. Some even less. OLD is majority picture based profile and opener far behind. It doesn't even matter if you are in the top 5%. It's who's going for the number first after who looks the best to the chicks. Some if they find you good looking enough in email will just leave their number as they figure you look like a guy who gets numbers thrown at you.
Stop wasting time and within three max emails get their number as in: "It was cool chatting with you. Give me your number and I'll text you mine in a few. (Your real first name)." (then set up a meet) anything else you are wasting your time and not serious yourself about meeting anyone.
Yep, 1+ to what The411 said. If the girl says some stupid sh!t like "We'll see." when you ask for her number or to text you, or if she says something dumb like "We're texting now, aren't we?" Just delete and move on, they're only going to waste your time.
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I've been burned with online dating before and learned the hard way. Take The411's advice, and move in for the number and meet as quickly as possible. The longer you continue talking to these women via email, text, or whatever, the more you risk a) the woman losing all interest completely or b) spending a month as a girl's texting buddy and conversation/entertainment source when she's not banging other guys like I did before I learned. If there's any flakiness from her whatsoever or signs of game-playing, ERASE AND REPLACE
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I just released an entire online dating program (which you can hear excerpts from at the link in my signature). I go over this in that program, but I'll give the short version here: I don't even go for the number. After about the 3rd or 4th exchange (by then I usually have them LOLing and asking me a bunch of questions about myself), I ask them if they'd like to meet up for coffee, preferably that day but if not them sometime within the next two days. Girls are on there to DATE, so I always get a yes. That's correct, ALWAYS - I have yet to have a girl turn me down when asking for an on-the-spot or next day coffee date after 3 to 5 messages. From there, I set up the time and place for us to meet, then re-confirm to her ON THE SITE that those are the plans - "Great! So, tomorrow at 6 at the coffee shop on x-street."
Once I've gotten all that out the way... THEN, I ask for their name and number, lol. (Not even kidding - I get the date most of the time before they even know my name...)
Once I've gotten all that out the way... THEN, I ask for their name and number, lol. (Not even kidding - I get the date most of the time before they even know my name...)
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True. Plus I think a lot of them are just out of a relationship and looking for an ego boost or rebound. On match they have that stupid wink feature and the photo like feature. I can't tell you how many times I've gotten a wink or photo like, emailed the girl because she contacted me, and gotten no response. I think they just wink to a bunch of dudes and wait for the emails to roll in. I don't respond to those anymore either. If she can't write a simple one line email I'm not going to bother.
MOTU
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I recall Espi saying that he often asked chicks out on the very first email. Said he thought the boldness set him apart and screened out the time wasters immediately.
I think I will have to take my profile down for a week or 2 and retry with new pics. Emailed every decent to hot girl on there. Don't have a lot of friends to go out with where are some places you can meet girls without friends try all my options here trying my best for new year.
seasonedplayer
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All good comments
Going off the topic a little here, I would add some other filtering techniques and mitigates to wasting time are:
A) Add them on facebook to gain a better suite of pictures. Also allows you to read a little into their character eg filter out the girls that are posing with a different guy in every picture
B) once you have their number, as you confirm and set up the date, send some flirty messages to guage their response eg 'feel free to wear your Halloween outfit tonight' if they don't flirt back, it either means they are busy, boring or you won't get much on the date. Where they flirt back, they know they may be under pressure during the date for some action and a good sign if they don't cancel
I find with these techniques my dates are hardly ever a waste of time. I avoid the aw's, time wasters and photo shoppers
Going off the topic a little here, I would add some other filtering techniques and mitigates to wasting time are:
A) Add them on facebook to gain a better suite of pictures. Also allows you to read a little into their character eg filter out the girls that are posing with a different guy in every picture
B) once you have their number, as you confirm and set up the date, send some flirty messages to guage their response eg 'feel free to wear your Halloween outfit tonight' if they don't flirt back, it either means they are busy, boring or you won't get much on the date. Where they flirt back, they know they may be under pressure during the date for some action and a good sign if they don't cancel
I find with these techniques my dates are hardly ever a waste of time. I avoid the aw's, time wasters and photo shoppers