Question for the Pro Cold Approach Crew

[CornbreadFed]

If Cold approaching is king, why do they never seem to lock down a hot girl in a LTR? Isn't the whole point of doing cold approaching to find a high-quality girl that supposedly you cannot get from a warm approach or OLD? I also do not believe this motto of pumping and dumping 9s and 10s left and right, so if that is your rebuttal then I am not going to listen to it. I think the only arguments are parties or a networking event, but these can be argued for warm approach environments though.

 

[Ricky]

When you meet someone via cold approach you have to normally gear up the conversation to create attraction.

If most of these cold approaches are in night clubs.. you kind of get more party girls. I know i did in the past.. I wasn't necessarily interested in long term relationships.. they were just other options.. You'd call them plates now.

Now that i think of it.. some of my long term relationships were from parties.. which still required approach.. others from bars and approaches and some from online or friend groups.

I think in general people have trouble locking down 9's and 10's because alot can be pretty entitled and they are constantly branch swinging.

 

[CornbreadFed]

When you meet someone via cold approach you have to normally gear up the conversation to create attraction.

If most of these cold approaches are in night clubs.. you kind of get more party girls. I know i did in the past.. I wasn't necessarily interested in long term relationships.. they were just other options.. You'd call them plates now.

Now that i think of it.. some of my long term relationships were from parties.. which still required approach.. others from bars and approaches and some from online or friend groups.

I think in general people have trouble locking down 9's and 10's because alot can be pretty entitled and they are constantly branch swinging.

but according to the statements I have gotten, you will find a hotter and higher quality girl cold approaching than on the apps.

 

[Dr.Suave]

but according to the statements I have gotten, you will find a hotter and higher quality girl cold approaching than on the apps.

Most guys do better on Cold approaching than on swipe apps. Some of those guys they think that their experience is Universal and applicable to all men.

The fact that a guy could do better on swipe apps than cold approaching is something they just cant wrap their heads around. That´s why you will see a lot of posts with generalizations like "All girls on swipe apps are trash" instead of for example: "My swipe apps have nothing"

 

[CornbreadFed]

Most guys do better on Cold approaching than on swipe apps. Some of those guys they think that their experience is Universal and applicable to all men.

The fact that a guy could do better on swipe apps than cold approaching is something they just cant wrap their heads around. That´s why you will see a lot of posts with generalizations like "All girls on swipe apps are trash" instead of for example: "My swipe apps have nothing"

If they do so well on Cold approaching, why don't they settle down with a high-quality woman? Instead, they seem to just remain floating around cold approaching or settle with a meh/10 girl in secret like some PUA gurus do.

 

[Dr.Suave]

If they do so well on Cold approaching, why don't they settle down with a high-quality woman?

Im just guessing here but they either dont want to settle down (they just want to spin plates until they drop), or the girls give them good sex but they are not LTR material. My guess is a few guys are genuinely the former, most are the latter but claim the former as a cope.

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

If Cold approaching is king, why do they never seem to lock down a hot girl in a LTR?

First off, ain't many guys out there cold approaching, in general.

Second, if you are like me, then the goal may not be to lock down a hot girl in a LTR.

Isn't the whole point of doing cold approaching to find a high-quality girl that supposedly you cannot get from a warm approach or OLD?

The point of cold approaching is to go after an attractive woman and to use her for whatever you want to use her for.

I also do not believe this motto of pumping and dumping 9s and 10s left and right, so if that is your rebuttal then I am not going to listen to it.

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I think the only arguments are parties or a networking event, but these can be argued for warm approach environments though.

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[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Dude for someone who acts like he is anti-cold approach, the subject seems to be weighing heavily on your mind for the past few days.

 

[SW15]

If Cold approaching is king, why do they never seem to lock down a hot girl in a LTR? Isn't the whole point of doing cold approaching to find a high-quality girl that supposedly you cannot get from a warm approach or OLD? I also do not believe this motto of pumping and dumping 9s and 10s left and right, so if that is your rebuttal then I am not going to listen to it. I think the only arguments are parties or a networking event, but these can be argued for warm approach environments though.

"Met in Bar or Restaurant" probably also covers most daygame options too. I think in the 2009 data set, it was listed as "bar, restaurant, or other public place". I don't think daygame has ever produced a lot of LTRs simply because few people do it.

 

[RazorRambo24]

The only things that aren't cold approach are OLD where you have to match first before you can talk, and someone introducing you to someone, or finding someone through a mutual acquaintance, in which case, you may still have to cold approach them... Some might say its warmer if you use "oh how do you know <friendname>" or something to gain leverage with.

I think people get too caught up on this PUA idea of cold approach.. Not realizing that cold approach is just a byproduct of confident men who like to meet and socialize with women.

 

[member162951]

The dudes, like myself, who enjoy cold approach.. We enjoy it just because we enjoy talking to and socializing with women. its just a byproduct of that.

Yup and I'm the same. Take advantage of opportunities to talk to women, talk to people, doesn't have to awkward if you're comfortable with yourself and have decent social skills.

 

[RazorRambo24]

Yup and I'm the same. Take advantage of opportunities to talk to women, talk to people, doesn't have to awkward if you're comfortable with yourself and have decent social skills.

100% I been trying to convince people of this forever. I mean just like with anything in life, the more you do it, the easier it becomes too. The ability to socialize is just quintessential to success in this life.

 

[CornbreadFed]

Dude for someone who acts like he is anti-cold approach, the subject seems to be weighing heavily on your mind for the past few days.

Just keeping up discussions lol

 

[We_ArE_VeNOM]

Just keeping up discussions lol

I feel it.