Question: did she flake on me?

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A bit of background info guys, I work at a restaurant with the front end staff which is almost exclusivley attractive females. I usually dont dtae women from work but have been known to break that rule a few times...

Recently a hb8 has started working there. She is quite shy so I have been taking it slow, just building raport. I decided to ask her out tonight. The conversation went something like this..

Me: What are you up to tonight?

Her: Well me and a few friends were probly heading to a club

Me: Well Im getting off soon so you want to join me for a drink?

Her: Sure I'll be off in half an hour if you want to wait at the bar(our restaurant has its own bar)

Me: Sure Im still decideing what Im doing tonight so Ill stick around for a few minutes(there were other co-workers there so it didnt look like I was just waiting for her)

So I wait with other co workers for about 20 mins when another buddy comes up and said that she just left with 3 girls 10mins ago. She never came up to me or said anything about leaving. So basically Im treating it like a flake.

Im going to see her tomorrow at work and am not too sure how to deal with this. Should I act as if nothing bothered me? or should I confront her about it? Any advice would be greatly appreciated

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dropit said:
I usually dont dtae women from work but have been known to break that rule a few times...
How about not breaking that rule the next time especially if you can physically see the girl more than 5-10% of the time at work?
 

What happens, IN HER MIND, is that she comes to see you as WORTHLESS simply because she hasn't had to INVEST anything in you in order to get you or to keep you.

You were an interesting diversion while she had nothing else to do. But now that someone a little more valuable has come along, someone who expects her to treat him very well, she'll have no problem at all dropping you or demoting you to lowly "friendship" status.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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Next time you see her say " sorry I didn't hang around but I met a hot chick and... well, you know how those things go".

Act like you blew her off and not the reverse.
 

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You put her in a tough spot and you were treated acordingly. Never hit on coworkers.

IF she is that hot to break the rule than quit and than hit on her. Both are just as pathetic...

Ohhh... Got to go the new HB9 that started today showed up... I am going to go serge her!!!!

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Well obviously her interest wasn't there. Just ignore the situation and treat as if nothing happening.
 

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flexion_ said:
Well obviously her interest wasn't there. Just ignore the situation and treat as if nothing happening.
I agree, her Interest Level was very low. You could call her on it, but I think that would work aganist you.

Is she married, single, in a serious relationship? You need to find out these tidbits of information so you know what your dealing with.
 

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Kings_royalty said:
I agree, her Interest Level was very low. You could call her on it, but I think that would work aganist you.

Is she married, single, in a serious relationship? You need to find out these tidbits of information so you know what your dealing with.
This is basically the approach I will be taking; acting like nothing happened. I definatly wont be asking her out again. I know that she isnt in a serious relationship because in our previous conversations she dropped hints that she was single and looking. This is why I approched her at work.
 

Tell her a little about yourself, but not too much. Maintain some mystery. Give her something to think about and wonder about when she's at home.

Quote taken from The SoSuave Guide to Women and Dating, which you can read for FREE.

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I like turning it around as if YOU left HER hanging. Shows that you're spontaneous, you got other girls going, and you don't need her. Also kinda puts her in her place without her even knowing it.

Its like killing 4 birds with one stone! Heh, imagine that.
 
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