Question about telling her "you like her"

[solid215]

Hi Gentlemen,

I just started learning how to attract women and ran into something confusing..

I know you should not rush to tell a girl you like her according to this article:

http://www.sosuave.com/romance/david/art151.htm

BUT...isn't asking a girl for her phone number the same as saying "I like you"?

Thanks!

 

[Atom Smasher]

First, never ask for her number. Always command her to give it to you. "Here, put your number into my phone."

Secondly, yes, it's a given that a women knows that if you're engaging her conversationally then you are at least mildly interested. Our job is to get her number while projecting the attitude that you're giving her a shot, that you're willing to evaluate her to see if she is worthy of being in your life.

 

[Mr_Maximus]

Dont tell her that you like her, show her.

Women are more attracted to men who's feelings are ambiguous or unclear. It keeps her guessing and wondering about you. Which helps your cause.

If you tell her "I like you", its like laying all your cards on the table as opposed to keeping them close to your chest. You ruin the game of romance if you disclose how you feel about her.

You dont disclose your cards by asking her for her number.

 

[Poon King]

OP.. asking for her number means you find her attractive (visually). That doesn't mean you like her.

Your goal when you meet a woman you want to sleep with is to turn her from "stranger" to "Person I f*cked" in the shortest time possible. This is accomplished by putting her in situations where you can f*ck her.

In order to put her in a situation where you can f*ck her, you need to get her contact information, then you need to get some one-on-one time with her to flirt and build comfort/trust. Then you need to get her to a private location where you can enter her body.

After you do these things.. then you can tell her you "like her". But never before. Never tell a woman you haven't f*cked that you like her. Its stupid. Its like going to a restaurant and telling the server: "I like the food here". She will be like: "So are you going to ORDER something or not?"

 

[buzzin_frog]

No it is not the same!!

Telling a woman directly that you like her is different than getting her number...that is showing interest by getting the number.

You won't know that you like her until you actually go out with her to spend time with her!!

I got numbers from girls who appeared cool when I got their numbers....on the date was a different story....they were a drag....you can still fvck them though....that doesn't mean that you really like her.

Disagree with above....let women tell you they like you....don't directly tell them first...show women how much you like them with your actions....that would be making out and fvcking!!

 

[VladPatton]

As soon as you bring things into the light, you're done for. It shows you're a relationship retard. You have to show you know what's up without words. Wax and wane, ebb and flow and you're in. If anything, use words as your last resort.

 

[RangerMIke]

The vibe you should be turning out when you first meet a woman is that you WANT her.... not that you like her.

 

[ImTheDoubleGreatest!]

That's the thing, you aren't TELLING her that you like her, you are SHOWING her that you like her. Big difference.

 

[Octogonal]

Don't say anything about liking her, she will get the hint from your behavior that you like her.

OP.. asking for her number means you find her attractive (visually). That doesn't mean you like her.

Your goal when you meet a woman you want to sleep with is to turn her from "stranger" to "Person I f*cked" in the shortest time possible. This is accomplished by putting her in situations where you can f*ck her.

In order to put her in a situation where you can f*ck her, you need to get her contact information, then you need to get some one-on-one time with her to flirt and build comfort/trust. Then you need to get her to a private location where you can enter her body.

After you do these things.. then you can tell her you "like her". But never before. Never tell a woman you haven't f*cked that you like her. Its stupid. Its like going to a restaurant and telling the server: "I like the food here". She will be like: "So are you going to ORDER something or not?"

Nice KJ advice. No wonder you give up your power to a woman telling her you "like her". Only betas do that and you're telling this guy to do that.

 

[hockeyfreak79]

No it just means you are interested in getting to know her to see if you do.

You gotta bang a broad atleast 10x-15x then ask "yourself" if you like her, you don't really know the real her until you've done this. Even then if she asks you just say sure maybe alittle bit.

 

[bigneil]

Always let your romantic interest be known right away. (Louis Copeland)

Never make a direct approach, haunt the periphery of her existence. (Robert Greene)

If you are attracted to her, make her feel attractive. (bigneil)

 

[Harry Wilmington]

It's about "level" knowledge. As you progress through each part of the dating phase (getting the number, asking her out, taking her out, physical touching, going for the kiss, getting the next date, having sex, etc.) she's going to know that you have an interest in her. However, what she won't be aware of is how high of a level your like is for her.

This is the part a lot of new guys don't realize, and why they fail. On the one hand, they're afraid if they ask her out the girl will "know" that he has a like for her, reject him, and he won't get a chance with her. On the other hand, they end up trying to give girls these big ol' speeches about how much they like them, and end up failing that way as well. Why? Because VERBALLY TELLING A GIRL YOU LIKE HER LETS HER KNOW YOU LIKE HER 100% - thus, there is nothing for her to figure out about you in terms of your level of like.

Asking the girl out should never be a fear, though. If you ask her out, she will know you like her, but won't be aware of the level of like. She might think, "ooh, he asked me out, he must like me" - but then that thought is followed by, "but just how MUCH does he like me? Is it at 85% or 40%? Am I the only girl he's asked out this week? If he takes me on a date, how much will he try to impress me? Or, will I need to do things on this date to raise whatever interest level he currently has? I must find out!"

On your end of things, you can't put so much pressure on yourself about asking for that first date. At the end of the day, the first date is really more like a job interview. When you ask a girl out, you're basically saying: "Hey there - so, I find you attractive and think you and I could be something, but I'm not sure. However, I'd like to find out - what's say we do that through some conversation over coffee or lunch/early dinner?" If you view a first date as such, you will see that there is really nothing emotionally heavy to be worrying about. Aside from thinking she's cute, you don't really know much about her to gauge how high of an interest in her that you have, so all those "lovey dovey" feelings for her that you THINK you have shouldn't even be there in the first place - thus, taking the pressure off yourself and putting more focus on the "getting to know her better" aspect of the first date.