Question about Making friends in College

[WrEcKLeSS2000]

I'm in college right now, the problem is that I have alot of trouble making new friends....Heres the story...I'm all around a nice guy for sure...I'm not nerdy or anything..I'm just a regular guy...The problem is I have a tough time making friends...I am kind of shy and sometimes I think that if I get to know someone they will turn out to be an idiot...I know thats bad thinking.

I've tried talking to a few people and sort of made friends with them...But for some reason we never got to hang out...And this one girl who i was friends with completely became unloyal to me, she never calls anymore and I did try to call her...

The friends I sort of have now, I don't even get to see very much...I know people are busy working and stuff but obviously people have some free time to go out during the weekends..


I just want to be able to make some loyal friends that I can hang out with thats all..I don't need 20...Just maybe 2 or 3 good ones that I can regular hang out with.

So please can someone give me some advice on this??? Thanks

 

[sifer]

Originally posted by WrEcKLeSS2000
I am kind of shy and sometimes I think that if I get to know someone they will turn out to be an idiot...I know thats bad thinking.

There you said your problem.

Admitting it that you have a problem is part of the solution.

Now how do you change the problem? Just go out and do it, noone else can do it for you except you.

I've tried talking to a few people and sort of made friends with them...But for some reason we never got to hang out...

Maybe because you never asked.

And this one girl who i was friends with completely became unloyal to me, she never calls anymore and I did try to call her...

Move on. Next.

The friends I sort of have now, I don't even get to see very much...I know people are busy working and stuff but obviously people have some free time to go out during the weekends..

Yes, friends drift away. True friend stay and/or try to move with you. But no matter what, true friend stays.

I just want to be able to make some loyal friends that I can hang out with thats all..I don't need 20...Just maybe 2 or 3 good ones that I can regular hang out with.

Where do you live?

I would love to hang out with some Don Juans. I still have a few things I need to fix myself, just like Pook, and everyone else, so don't worry about screwing up.

 

[Interpol]

Join a fraternity.

 

[Daral]

You don't need a fraternity, although it would probably be a quick and expensive solution. I remember a thread like this came up a few months ago, you should try looking for it. I'll post a link if I find one, but I won't be looking too hard.

Edit:

http://www.sosuave.net/forum/showthread.php?s=&threadid=72345

 

[Heyjose25points]

I was in the same boat for my first year:

I had aquaintances, didn't chat with females much eventho i grinded with them at frat parties, and had no friends. But i did sometimes hang out with my dormmates(I was the very friendly type of guy who said hi to quite a bit of people).

My sophmore year is coming up, and I will try to turn it around.

 

[tristan22]

I didn't have money to join a fraternity. But if you want friends and you want to get l_id every night of the week, by all means join one.

I know some ugly frat guys who banged a lot of hot girls--it's actually pretty freaking unbelievable!

 

[MindOverMatter]

1.) nothing builds good friendships faster then getting drunk and doing stupid **** together. booze with your dorm mates, and you'll make friends fast.

2.) join a frat. it's been said already. you'll get to go to some of the best parties on campus, you'll always have sh!t to do, older members help you out with courses you're taking (that they've already taken), and you enter a world where HBs are plentyful and they all wants to get laid. also, after you go through initiation together, you will make some really loyal friends. my 2 best wingmen are guys i pledged with.

make sure you join a good one tho. to find out what the best frat is, talk to sorority girls (or even better sleep with them), and they'll tell u which frats throw the best parties. i dated a couple of sorority girls, and they all kept telling me to join a frat, and through them and the gym i met like all the guys in that frat, so it was only natural to join.

 

[h2o]

there's tons of ways to meet people and find friends at school:

1) activities, clubs, organizations, etc. find something you like, and join in. this is great because you already have something in common.

2) campus-wide volunteering events

3) in class or lab; find or make study groups. you'll get to know your classmates, and after you finish your work you can grab a bite to eat or go for drinks with them.

i know you don't want to make 50 new friends, but you have to go out and meet hundreds of people. make an effort to meet a new person everyday. when you meet a lot of people, you'll get a feel for who you like to hang out with more, and you'll develop closer ties with a few of them. the more people you meet, the more people you meet through them.

i can't wait until school starts up again. :woo: