Question about maintaining eye contact

[Phoenix09]

Okay so i've been trying to be more alpha lately by maintaining eye contact for longer periods of time and trying not to look away first. I've heard from some sources you should always wait for the other person to break eye contact first but I was wondering if its ever okay to look away first. Doesn't strong eye contact freak people out? Im in highschool and its especially wierd to maintain eye contact with teachers. What should I do to be the best DJ possible?

 

[Randallpink83]

after becoming confident and comfortable with really hot girls I don't even think of eye contact anymore... its just so natural... Wether I look away first or she looks away first doesn't even matter or register to me anymore.
I think I have good eye contact because my attitude is more correct these days (it could still always get better though).

 

[Randallpink83]

...But for probably 95% of the people its something you have to build up. And it could take awhile, I remember working on eye contact for many years. Even before the community, because I would read business Guru books and they always emphasized on being alpha etc...

Once you start concentrating on Eye Contact you will notice that others hardly look you in the eye. Its cause the mass of humanity is low self-esteem and maybe people have issues connecting with others.
However try pulling a hot 9 or 10 at a club and you will be getting the most intimidating eye contact of your life! Thats what all this Eye Contact talk is about, is being comfortable under the smoking hot look of a 9 or 10. Its tough, they can be intimidating females but you can become comfortable and in level with their value.

I think one of the biggest "Ahahs!" in my life was when I started noticing really beautiful girls that couldn't keep eye contact and I could tell it was a self-esteem issue...

Just go out and work on it and fail... fail alot... then finally it wont matter anymore and you will have naturally nice eye contact (and BL for that matter)

 

[penkitten]

when in doubt, look at a nose.
can't handle the eye contact? look at a nose instead.
feeling weird that the eye contact is too strong, look at a nose.

see it is simple and no one knows the difference if you are looking at a nose or if you are looking at the eyes.

 

[tsmith2334]

i only have problems maintaing eye contact when i have feelings for the girl beyond physical attraction.

for example, they could be an hb9+ and i can look them in the eyes just fine
as opposed to an hb7 with a personality i like... that's where i'll struggle (due to overthinking and nervousness)

i like the advice about trying and failing and continuing to try, or looking at noses... the nose trick i might need to try

 

[Rhoto]

Okay so i've been trying to be more alpha lately by maintaining eye contact for longer periods of time and trying not to look away first. I've heard from some sources you should always wait for the other person to break eye contact first but I was wondering if its ever okay to look away first. Doesn't strong eye contact freak people out? Im in highschool and its especially wierd to maintain eye contact with teachers. What should I do to be the best DJ possible?

Think of it like this, when she is speaking its ok to break eye contact, it conveys that you are in control. (Like a parent telling a child "Look at me when I'm talking to you!")

When you're speaking, avoid breaking eye contact unless you're checking her out.

 

[mcs]

i don't maintain long eye contact at all. otherwise im really self confident and busting on them. girls always come to talk to me. today i was said that it makes me mysterious and it looks like im less interested in them. which concludes that they come up to me again. so it might be good thing but only when the rest of the game is solid.

 

[Young Anikan]

Just make it a practice to allways look into a persons eyes when your talking to them.Doesnt matter male or female,thats a good way to practice maintaining eye contact.Try to do the same with your teachers.At the end of the day,the more confident you are about yourself the easier it is to maintain eye contact,so if you find it difficult to do right now,get your confidence up.

 

[decades]

this is one of the those weird things that doesn't really improve your life much. the only thing you get by maintaining eye contact longer is, well, you maintained eye contact longer. :crazy:

 

[Groovy]

That's what you think...

 

[n00bPimp]

this is one of the those weird things that doesn't really improve your life much. the only thing you get by maintaining eye contact longer is, well, you maintained eye contact longer. :crazy:

WRONG! lol
Eye contact shows alphaness. If you're shy you're scared to look at strangers in the eye.


In response to the first post. Look man, if the other person maintains eye contact longer than you does it freak you out? If it does then you must be very insecure.
The only way people might freak out is if you give them a mean look, and to top it off if you look at their whole body, not just their eyes. If you give them that look that says "Let me see if this mofo has something valuable" Then yes people will be a little put out. (I would be too).
But if you do it in a friendly, confident way then people will actually feel good that you have acknowledged their presence.

 

[n00bPimp]

Think of it like this, when she is speaking its ok to break eye contact, it conveys that you are in control. (Like a parent telling a child "Look at me when I'm talking to you!")

When you're speaking, avoid breaking eye contact unless you're checking her out.

This is actually the reverse of what I do. Not just with girls but in general. I look at people in the eyes when they talk to me, it shows im listening. When I talk, I break EC but look in their eyes from time to time.

 

[SayWord?]

when in doubt, look at a nose.
can't handle the eye contact? look at a nose instead.
feeling weird that the eye contact is too strong, look at a nose.

see it is simple and no one knows the difference if you are looking at a nose or if you are looking at the eyes.

it took me awhile to grow, but i am more confident and outgoing than before

and i can tell when someone doesnt look at me in the eyes
if someone looks me at the nose i can tell

my fault for the mini rant

 

[Groovy]

even better, it can make her interrested!

it shows a lot of good stuff about you.

A important point is that it shows you're not afraid to look other people in the eye (Why should you? you're the man). You're winning points already! And it prevents you from being disrespected.

Next time if someone disrespects you, insults you or w\h, you only have to look them straight in the eye until they break it... and you control the situation!

Plus, it's been more then proven that EC creates attraction... I looked for the specific thread, but I couldn't find it.

Plus no body in society does it. (AFC masses).

I don't even have to explain it - try it yourself, the results are more then obvious...

 

[darkme_legendary]

Okay so i've been trying to be more alpha lately by maintaining eye contact for longer periods of time and trying not to look away first. I've heard from some sources you should always wait for the other person to break eye contact first but I was wondering if its ever okay to look away first. Doesn't strong eye contact freak people out? Im in highschool and its especially wierd to maintain eye contact with teachers. What should I do to be the best DJ possible?

It depends on how you feel at the exact moment when you interrupt the eye contact. After trial, error, reading and paying attention to more stuff..it will do it right unconsciously.