Question about flaking

[Juanto]

So I met this girl on a meetup event,and sent her a message after through the app saying that we should go out the week after since she was staying in a hostel very close to my place. She replied the day after agreeing to this, so next I setup a concrete date, time and place for a couple of days later. She says she cant that day, but made a counteroffer for the next one, wednesday. I said OK, no problem. The same happened on the wednesday, she said something came up and asked to meet up on thursday. Again, I agreed.

Obviously since I know a bit about the nature of girls in general, I suggested a place really close to me just in case she flaked. And guess what, not only did she flake but she didnt even send a message saying she couldnt or anything of the sort.

Now, I know this isnt exactly nothing new, but how usually does this happen to you as well? Is this disrespectul behaviour a normal ocurrence?

 

[AlphaNate]

This is only normal if the girl has low interest.

 

[MrOctober]

Within these past 3 weeks I had two girls.

Girl one - texted one night. Suggested a meet up I couldn't and she ghosted on my attempted reschedule (deleted text thread).

Later that week I get a hey and banged her.

Girl two - literally same deal but actually flaked on an arranged meet up I said "you ready?" Nothing.

later that week SAME thing and smashed it.

I'm noticing a pattern.
So no it's not possible and this back to back scenario has me thinking these were screens, I confirmed I wasn't a weirdo.

 

[EyeBRollin]

You never accept a counter offer for 24 hours later. You should have countered her counter offer with a different day, to exercise backbone.

Sorry, pal. She nexted you for being weak.

 

[EyeBRollin]

Within these past 3 weeks I had two girls.

Girl one - texted one night. Suggested a meet up I couldn't and she ghosted on my attempted reschedule (deleted text thread).

Later that week I get a hey and banged her.

Girl two - literally same deal but actually flaked on an arranged meet up I said "you ready?" Nothing.

later that week SAME thing and smashed it.

I'm noticing a pattern.
So no it's not possible and this back to back scenario has me thinking these were screens, I confirmed I wasn't a weirdo.

Just because you banged, doesn't mean she respects you. Her #1 option could have flaked, or she could be screwing to spite another guy.

If a woman flakes, she's out. Low interest and disrespect. No exceptions.

 

[MrOctober]

Just because you banged, doesn't mean she respects you. Her #1 option could have flaked, or she could be screwing to spite another guy.

If a woman flakes, she's out. Low interest and disrespect. No exceptions.

I agree and this idea should be promoted here.

Neither one I've communicated with since. Sure I'll hear from one. I sit back. I field.

But respect is the foundation of any true dating / rs / fb dynamic couldn't agree more.

 

[Juanto]

You never accept a counter offer for 24 hours later. You should have countered her counter offer with a different day, to exercise backbone.

Sorry, pal. She nexted you for being weak.

Lesson learned.

 

[Juanto]

Within these past 3 weeks I had two girls.

Girl one - texted one night. Suggested a meet up I couldn't and she ghosted on my attempted reschedule (deleted text thread).

Later that week I get a hey and banged her.

How often does this really happen?

 

[dude99]

So I met this girl on a meetup event,and sent her a message after through the app saying that we should go out the week after since she was staying in a hostel very close to my place. She replied the day after agreeing to this, so next I setup a concrete date, time and place for a couple of days later. She says she cant that day, but made a counteroffer for the next one, wednesday. I said OK, no problem. The same happened on the wednesday, she said something came up and asked to meet up on thursday. Again, I agreed.

Obviously since I know a bit about the nature of girls in general, I suggested a place really close to me just in case she flaked. And guess what, not only did she flake but she didnt even send a message saying she couldnt or anything of the sort.

Now, I know this isnt exactly nothing new, but how usually does this happen to you as well? Is this disrespectul behaviour a normal ocurrence?

When a girl counter offers sometimes it is good to let them know you are busy and you have options.

Saying yes to both of her counter offers told her you had no other plans that week and you were sitting by waiting for her.

Next time if a chick counter offers then cancels again and counteroffers a 2nd time you should be busy and tell her that doesn't work for me and i will talk to you later.

 

[Juanto]

Next time if a chick counter offers then cancels again and counteroffers a 2nd time you should be busy and tell her that doesn't work for me and i will talk to you later.

Yes, I think I dropped the ball on this detail

 

[MrOctober]

How often does this really happen?

Not often lol. Take they're advice. It was just ironic.

You can give her two strikes but really only if you know she's attracted and you'll get at the least the results I got. That's my opinion.

But a girl on the fence take they're advice.