I am indeed 20 years old, incredibly new and inexperienced so the money thing is indeed helpful to me as I'm still finding ways to generate cash.
You are 22 years old according to your profile on here. You might want to fix that as a new member.
Please don't roast me for not cold approaching that much. I'm doin behind the scenes work on brushing up my social skills, randomly striking a conversation to anyone and having no end goal but instead to just... talk.
I won't roast you in the slightest bit. Everyone has to start somewhere.
If you're 20 (born in 2003), you've reached sexual maturity in an era where men haven't had to cold approach at all. For those entering the sexual marketplace in the last 10-15 years, approaching in-person has been optional.
From 1999-2005 (when I was 16-22), approaching in-person was far more mandatory. , I was in high school and college. If I wanted to have sex then, it wasn't likely to happen unless I did a face-to-face approach. It was only at the tail end of that era where I could have legitimate tech options, but tech options were not mainstream for younger people yet.
Online dating websites existed in the 1999-2005 era but were used mainly by older singles then (25-35) and less socially skilled then. Match.com launched back in 1995, eHarmony started in 2000, Plenty of Fish started in 2003, and OkCupid started in 2003/2004. 1999-2005 is the era when online dating websites were de-stigmatizing. In 2004, Facebook launched for university students (I was attending a university then) and MySpace also launched that year. In 2004-2005, there were people sending DMs on Facebook and MySpace trying to get dates and sex, but it had yet to hit the mainstream. Since 2005, the tech-based methods (social media DMing and dating websites/applications) have been replacing in-person approaching.
A 18-22 year old today has only known a world where approaching people in person hasn't been mandatory for starting romantic interactions.
If you're attending a university, you have one of the best options available to you for meeting women. Start using your university campus more if you're a current college student. There's a great college campus sex thread on this forum....
I thought I'd share this as someone who went to a party school and was in a fraternity there as well. Not wanting to give too much about myself but I went to UGA and graduated a few years ago. While Athens has its hot girls, I do feel like the quality got worse every year due to the admission...
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The three cold approaches were done because I had a goal of getting their number.
That's not a good goal. Many men make this mistake. Phone numbers and social media handles are useless to get on their own.
The goal with an approach needs to be either same night sex or agreement for a specific in person interaction next time. That specific in person interaction next time is commonly known as a first date. Don't collect a phone number without an agreement for a first date. Something like 7 PM on Monday night at X Bar.
I'm also asking this because I was able to strike a good opener to a girl. Then she was comfortable enough to share her dreams in life, problem is I got bored listening to it. She probably felt rejected so the mood turn sour, had to cut the conversation of. (I ended on a bad note)
This has happened to me before, I'd get bored and overwhelmed by them sharing their own story. This is so detrimental because I'd unconciously think "Fck I have to listen to this, we just met, I don't care". And it sucks because it'd show on my body language that I no longer appear interested.
my problem is I appear to get bored and overwhelmed on listening to a story of someone I just "met". What do you think is the genuine problem? Is it my introversion? Cause I'm getting frustrated to myself, idk what solution I could think of.
You are opening and getting initial buy in to the conversation. You are likely to need to work on your social skills and conversational skills.
I am an introvert. Introversion alone isn't a reason for getting bored and not listening in conversations. Have you tested for any personality disorders such as ADD, ADHD, Autism/Asperger's etc.?
If you don't have a personality disorder, you might have to do some foundational work with social skills and conversational skills before delving into the world of attraction and seduction.
