Question about Charm

[evolvingnerd]

hi
whenever i'm chatting someone up, i often find that another friend comes in and says hi, and then dominates the situation, talking about something we have in common, leaving the initial friend somewhat nigelated

sometimes i do'nt even introduce them, (not really sure what to do)

what can i do to make the initial person feel comfortable, even though the main conversation would be between the intruder and myself?

EDIT: how do you handle someone ****blocking you?

and another question

i was thinking of inviting a gropu of friends to go into town, however their main connection is through me. as in, we're not really a "group"

what's some good things to talk about in the gropu situation?
esp at dinner - 45 mins of just talkin to cover

 

[evolvingnerd]

anyone??

 

[Vincent]

I'm sorry, but i have NO idea what your asking. Something about friend eating with you? Please clarify.

 

[evolvingnerd]

alrighty
i'm currently talking to A, a new acquataince / friend / chick / whatever

old friend B walks in, and we start convoing cause we got lots of ****e in common

what do i do, i do'nt even know how to really introduce A to B, and should I?

i often do nothing, but converse with B, and find A to be in the lurch and left out.

as for the second question, well my best friends and I are going out with my new friend and her friend, whom i've rarely talked to

what do we talk about?

 

[Vincent]

You know B...

You don't know A...

You'll be able to talk to B again...

You might not be able to talk to A again...

Guess who you should talk too.

 

[Interpol]

Sorry, but how the hell do you not know how to introduce somebody?

"Hey B, this is my friend, A"

Or vice versa. And then just continue your conversation with A, including B if you desire. Not hard at all.

 

[evolvingnerd]

heh
perhaps i'm over complicating things eh

but otherwise, how about some good topics to talk about, thatl'l bring everyone together sortta thing?

 

[Dim sum]

I think he mean " he just met A and want to talk to A only, his friend B come over ****blocked him from talking to A "

LOL, sorry my English is not perfect either.

 

[So pimp its scary]

I'm not sure exactly what it is that your asking here, but if this is what you meant...

To be a charmer, you would just have to pay attention to all (or most) of the members of the group about equally...

Bring people into the conversation, then exclude some and include others... bounce the conversation around so much that next thing you know you are the center of attention because you are giving everyone some attention at a time.

Then, gradually start putting more focus on the target girl and eventually seclude and close.

 

[evolvingnerd]

Dim sum
that's the word exactly
being ****blocked