Question about a girl coming out of a LTR

[Just Another Guy....]

I met a girl at freshman orientation in college this year, and started out with some light kino and stuff, and when I asked for her number, she said. "I have a boyfriend."

I next'd her after that, but we ran into each other on campus a few days after and I was talking on my phone, she came up to me, took my phone, hung it up and put her number in, and we began talking some more. She was still in the relationship. I was negging her a little bit, and I always keep her laughing....


Anyway, we pretty much got into the friend zone, because I'm not usually into a girl with a BF after a good friend of mine told me that if she's willing to leave her current BF, she's willing to leave me too. But, anywho, her relationship ended. Apparently it was 7 months.

Should I try to take this to the next level? She shut the door the first day we met so I really didn't try for her, but now she's single...... should I avoid her for a week or something and then start some kino, start kino today? Any ideas?

 

[Maxtro]

Seems like a good opportunity. I'm not sure how you can pull it off though. I asked a similar question a few weeks ago and I was called a vulture

If you don't make a move soon some other guy will.

 

[Bible_Belt]

if she's willing to leave her current BF, she's willing to leave me too.

Every woman is willing to leave her current bf when things stop being fun.

 

[Faded Image]

If anything don't over analyze the situation, let things flow natuarally.

Don't avoid her and don't go looking for her either.

If you just so happen to run into her, trust you gut, stay relaxed and avoid a script (e.g. when should I kino her, when should I neg her, etc..)

 

[tsmith2334]

Sometimes girls (and guys too) just need a "breather' when it comes to relationship recovery... people need their space and they want to enjoy being single for a little while... it sucks but i've come to accept it... or sometimes they want to rebound right away, you never know

i've read the amount of time it takes to fully get over a person is the half-life of the relationship... in other words, if a girl was in a LTR for a year, it will take sixth months for her to totally be over her ex

 

[Maxtro]

Sometimes girls (and guys too) just need a "breather' when it comes to relationship recovery... people need their space and they want to enjoy being single for a little while... it sucks but i've come to accept it... or sometimes they want to rebound right away, you never know

i've read the amount of time it takes to fully get over a person is the half-life of the relationship... in other words, if a girl was in a LTR for a year, it will take sixth months for her to totally be over her ex

Six months to recover does not mean she will be single for those six months. Odds are she might be single for a week.

Should you treat a girl that you know who recently broke up with her BF like she was always single or treat her differently because you know she just got of a LTR?

 

[tsmith2334]

Six months to recover does not mean she will be single for those six months. Odds are she might be single for a week.

Ah, good point. Or depending on the relationship, it could be the half-life and then some. I know a girl that broke up with a guy two years ago and still isn't over him. Needless to say, I stopped talking to her. From what I've seen personally, recovery can take a while, but it really depends on the girl and the relationship they just had.

 

[KontrollerX]

Start in on her right away.

If you don't someother guy will.

Though if she seems emotional for a long time over her breakup with her ex you run the risk of becoming the rebound guy.

That of course means even if it is implied you and she are BF/GF by getting makeout sessions with her or even sex she will gradually pull away from you over the months or weeks and either cut you off totally from her life or try and turn all that you two had together into just a really good friendship that got out of hand.

If she's not emotional about the guy or talks much about him to you at all or her "bad feelings" if she won't outright speak of him then you should be in the clear.

"if she's willing to leave her current BF, she's willing to leave me too.

Every woman is willing to leave her current bf when things stop being fun."

To go into Last Man Standing mode for a second...

Past behaviour is a good indicator of future behaviour.

If a chick has a history of dropping LTR boyfriends for new ones behind her boyfriends back she is a low quality cheating hor.

A high quality woman does not play with men's emotions like that and has integrity. Should she come to no longer be in love with her current boyfriend she will end the relationship first before going on the hunt for something new.

Going behind the boyfriend's back makes her a cheating hor and she will repeat her history with every future man because this is the creature that she is in the natural order of things.