sosuave213
Senior Don Juan
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Pedestalizing a woman is the same as rationalization after the fact. Both are feminine characteristics and are a detriment to masculinity.
When a man starts to like a woman, he begins to come up with reasons why she deserves his attention more than either his pursuits (career, interests, his own life), other women or both.
Pedestalizing is not liking a woman, nor is liking a woman pedestalizing. They are exclusive. A man likes a woman because she benefits his life in some way. This benefit is a real fact that is observable. Perhaps she cooks well, makes him feel good or supports his pursuit of self-improvement.
Pedestalizing is giving her the "benefit of the doubt". Instead of deducing, "If she benefits me, I like her", the converse becomes true: The man rationalizes, "If I like her, then she must benefit my life in some way." This is both fallacious and incorrect. The man begins to find reasons why she should be a part of his life, and tries to fill a hole, a perverse void if you will, within himself. He becomes incomplete. It is the woman that must be filled up and the man that does the filling, not just physically as has always been the case, but emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
As she begins to open up to him sexually, he must not commit to the line of thinking, "Sex is a benefit. Therefore, I should like her." This is incorrect. Sex should be assumed within the three-date mark. If you get the feeling you will not be having sex by the third date, then this is not a woman worth investing more of your time in. To rationalize, "She does so much for me, so I am going to wait for sex" is to pedestalize a woman because he likes the idea of her or who she could become rather than who she is. Being with someone who does not want you in return is subversive and detrimental to the masculine state of leadership. The exception to this particular rule is if the relationship is business-like in nature, the man is refraining from sex for religious reasons or he does not like sex.
When a man starts to like a woman, he begins to come up with reasons why she deserves his attention more than either his pursuits (career, interests, his own life), other women or both.
Pedestalizing is not liking a woman, nor is liking a woman pedestalizing. They are exclusive. A man likes a woman because she benefits his life in some way. This benefit is a real fact that is observable. Perhaps she cooks well, makes him feel good or supports his pursuit of self-improvement.
Pedestalizing is giving her the "benefit of the doubt". Instead of deducing, "If she benefits me, I like her", the converse becomes true: The man rationalizes, "If I like her, then she must benefit my life in some way." This is both fallacious and incorrect. The man begins to find reasons why she should be a part of his life, and tries to fill a hole, a perverse void if you will, within himself. He becomes incomplete. It is the woman that must be filled up and the man that does the filling, not just physically as has always been the case, but emotionally, mentally and spiritually.
As she begins to open up to him sexually, he must not commit to the line of thinking, "Sex is a benefit. Therefore, I should like her." This is incorrect. Sex should be assumed within the three-date mark. If you get the feeling you will not be having sex by the third date, then this is not a woman worth investing more of your time in. To rationalize, "She does so much for me, so I am going to wait for sex" is to pedestalize a woman because he likes the idea of her or who she could become rather than who she is. Being with someone who does not want you in return is subversive and detrimental to the masculine state of leadership. The exception to this particular rule is if the relationship is business-like in nature, the man is refraining from sex for religious reasons or he does not like sex.