Okay I can't help feeling like a lot of people's problems with getting the girl stem from the fact that they are confused when they head out the door into the world of DJing. Yes this is a site for men getting women. However when you take a look at all the advice in the forums and the bible its no wonder there is some confusion.
The themes of many posts preach the idea of pursuing, approaching, closing, how to's, club tactics, SS, etc.
Then others preach about self improvement, challenge, mystery, being a man, focus on things other than chicks, etc. These types are more about attraction.
So it could get pretty confusing for some especially if they aren't having a lot of success. What adds to the problem is guys come here and study like crazy and then head out to clubs or the streets with a bunch of expectations. For the guys who are trying to F-close or ONS chicks it must get pretty frustrating.
My point is this...
When you head out the door ask yourself what mindset are you in? Pursue mode or Attraction mode?
When you enter a place are you immediately checking out all the chicks? When you approach are you thinking about number closing? When conversing with women are you thinking about kiss closing or f-closing her? Are you thinking about DJing and what you've learned here as you walk out the door for a night of fun?
If you are answering yes to these questions then there's a good chance that you are in Pursue mode. We all know that pursuant type behaviour can be unattractive. Chicks can tell right away that you are trying to pick them up or thinking about the lay. How many times have you pressed the issue trying for a f-close or a ONS and you end up with nothing. We want the world and we want it now. So now you're probably saying "But Slick we can't expect to just stand there and have chicks attract to us like lightening bugs." And in many cases you're right. Hesitation=Masturbation. Especially with guys lacking confidence and afraid to approach. You just have to learn the confidence and have the balls to make these moves. I think at times though a little patience would do wonders. You might not get the digits or the closes you want right away. But you will be making contact and building interest. And over time the dates and your attempts will be more successful (less flaking) because you didn't over pursue and come on too strong.
I'm not saying this pursuant behaviour is wrong either. I just want you guys to head out with clear heads and no expectations except for having fun. All your DJ thoughts are already in your head and the more you study and learn the more automatic the whole thing becomes. For guys who are struggling I think many of your problems stem from the fact that you're over analyzing and pursuing too much.
By keeping your head clear of expectations and focusing on having a good time you instantly enter Attraction mode.
The themes of many posts preach the idea of pursuing, approaching, closing, how to's, club tactics, SS, etc.
Then others preach about self improvement, challenge, mystery, being a man, focus on things other than chicks, etc. These types are more about attraction.
So it could get pretty confusing for some especially if they aren't having a lot of success. What adds to the problem is guys come here and study like crazy and then head out to clubs or the streets with a bunch of expectations. For the guys who are trying to F-close or ONS chicks it must get pretty frustrating.
My point is this...
When you head out the door ask yourself what mindset are you in? Pursue mode or Attraction mode?
When you enter a place are you immediately checking out all the chicks? When you approach are you thinking about number closing? When conversing with women are you thinking about kiss closing or f-closing her? Are you thinking about DJing and what you've learned here as you walk out the door for a night of fun?
If you are answering yes to these questions then there's a good chance that you are in Pursue mode. We all know that pursuant type behaviour can be unattractive. Chicks can tell right away that you are trying to pick them up or thinking about the lay. How many times have you pressed the issue trying for a f-close or a ONS and you end up with nothing. We want the world and we want it now. So now you're probably saying "But Slick we can't expect to just stand there and have chicks attract to us like lightening bugs." And in many cases you're right. Hesitation=Masturbation. Especially with guys lacking confidence and afraid to approach. You just have to learn the confidence and have the balls to make these moves. I think at times though a little patience would do wonders. You might not get the digits or the closes you want right away. But you will be making contact and building interest. And over time the dates and your attempts will be more successful (less flaking) because you didn't over pursue and come on too strong.
I'm not saying this pursuant behaviour is wrong either. I just want you guys to head out with clear heads and no expectations except for having fun. All your DJ thoughts are already in your head and the more you study and learn the more automatic the whole thing becomes. For guys who are struggling I think many of your problems stem from the fact that you're over analyzing and pursuing too much.
By keeping your head clear of expectations and focusing on having a good time you instantly enter Attraction mode.
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