PUNK'd at a CLUB, how do you deal?

[STR8UP]

Last Saturday I hit my usual hangout, a club a few blocks from where I live.

This time I brought some friends that don't often go out, a guy and his girl. He's like 5'6" 275lbs with a HOT temper. She's basically a "10". More on these two later.

So anyways, I ran into a group of girls I've been talking to lately. Some dude comes up behind the one that likes me (the asian girl) and starts freakin on her. She eventually tells him she's with me (not really) so I go in to pull her toward me to get her out of the situation, and this dude is pulling her back to him. He makes a joking comment like 'you're gonna have to fight me for this one'. We sandwiched her for a minute and then I just went to dance with some other girls.

Didn't think much of it at the time, but looking back on it I shouldn't have let this dude get away with it. Made me look bad.

The thing is, at the time I didn't see it that way. I wasn't with her. I knew she likes me, and I was gonna help her out, but I could have given two sh!ts whether or not she danced with someone else.

She finally shakes the dude, and he makes a beeline for my friends girl! She blew him off, but he just kept staring her down and he made some kind of comment to my buddy. He got PISSED. He was ready to smash this guy's head into the floor.

So, there has to be a happy medium. I don't wanna get a trespassing warrant in the club I frequent, but letting someone diss you like that ain't cool.

Where do you draw the line?

The asian girl still ended up partying with ME till the wee hours of the morning at my place, but thats beside the point. You can't let someone get away with sh!t like that.

Whats your take?

 

[DJ Logic]

You did the right thing bro.

When he said you were gonna have to fight him for this one, you should have totally played the role and been like

"Actually, she is already spoken for"

and then put your arm around her and played off the fake boyfriend angle. You might have even gotten to kiss her right then and there. Something tells me she would have played along and you would have saved face. But who cares anyway, you were obviously money enough to party with her later so dont sweat it dude!

 

[FlyGuy]

Yeah that's tough. Fighting should be your last option for obvious reasons. Personally I would have said "Lets let the lady decide." and then ask her "Wanna dance?"

There are too many verbal comebacks to outline them all, besides they won't do you any good for the next round because the next jerk will say something different. Verbal banter is something you just have to be good at if you're going to rely on that.

Edit: Didn't read the post carefully enough. If she already said she was with you then you should have gone with that IMO.

 

[STR8UP]

You know, I got this girls # the other night, but honestly I wasn't really sure about my attraction for her at the time all this went down.

What I SHOULD have done was like you said. Play along, even go for a kiss. I would have been the hero. She would have eaten it up, and all would have been well. After all, SHE was the one saying I was with her, what's she gonna do? At that point I could have had my way with her, and what could she say? NOTHING!

I probably looked like a chump more to HIM than to her cause he was thinking we were together, she was just WISHING we were (LOL), but still.

Very good point.

 

[icepick]

I think you did the right thing man.

Stay out of fights. You don't want to get your face busted up just to try to impress some girl that you would have anyway.

I hate when people try to start sh*t just to start sh*t.

You got out of that situation without going to jail, getting banned/kicked out/whatever, and not getting busted up.

Good enough, I say!

 

[ultrashogun]

Stay out of fights. You don't want to get your face busted up just to try to impress some girl that you would have anyway.

Not only that, many guys who pick fights like that arent by themselves and have their friends with them. cowards.

 

[Jay26]

Hehe, that's a kewl opportunity to kiss her, if she says your a couple, play the couple;p

 

[STR8UP]

I would never fight unless it were necessary. But someone disrespecting you like that in front of others causes your stock to drop, and that ain't cool.

Playing the role is the ticket in this case....wish I would have realized what was going on as it was happening. Could have easily escalated things physically, since I will probably be taking her out soon anyways.

The faster you can make that happen, the better.

 

[Crotch Sniffer]

You definitely did the right thang STR8UP,

but i know how you feel. After an encounter like that you are just steamed as hell and fantasize about what you SHOULDA done, like smashing the guys face with your fist. I have noticed when this happens to me I get all tensed up and whatnot and have to take a deep breath and just let it go, otherwise it will eat me up inside for days! At least now you know how to handle it when this comes up again. Just relax

and BREEEAAAATHE!