Pug's 100 approach journal

[skinnydart]

Me: Hey hows it going?
Her: HI! good thank you
ME: do you mind if I asked you a question..
Her: sure go ahead...
Me: (mhhhhh look on your face.. 1, 2, 3 secs..)are you single?
Her: No sorry..(smile...)
Me: (Sarcastic look.. John Stuard-ish look...) 1,2,3 secs.. do you
have like.. a twin sister by any chance?
Her: laughs - no not really(who knows maybe she actually does..)

That's awesome, i'm going to try that!

 

[Helter Skelter]

What happened to Pugs 100 Approaches?

Lets change thread title to:

PUGS ROAD TO THE ALTER

 

[Rawone04]

Originally posted by Helter Skelter
What happened to Pugs 100 Approaches?

Lets change thread title to:

PUGS ROAD TO THE ALTER

Right i might be wrong but it seems like most people like Pugs don't want to be DJs or players they just wan't to find a girl that meets their expectations and can stomache them.... Am i wrong cause i came here to get more that what i already had. I used to get girls but i wanted to improve...

 

[Pugsley_f5]

Well fellas,

When I first started out with this approach journal.....I had two goals going in this order

1) To find a woman who was everything that I deserved in a woman and have every trait that i would want and deserve in a woman to have a LTR with.......

2) To kill off my fear of approaching women and breakthrough in that area of my life once and for all....

Those were my two main objectives, I knew when I started that it may be on approach 5 that I meet that person who is everything that I expect and demand of a woman or that it might be by approach 100 and beyond, all That I knew was that I wasn't going to stop till I found someone that I deserve in a woman and that I would not stop till I found that person (any Napolean Hill readers in here, It's called "Definiteness of Purpose")

I knew what I wanted, I knew what I had to do to get it and I knew that I wasn't going to stop till I accomplished my objectives...Period.

My list of things guys is pretty dang specific and it isn't broad by any sense of the term......

I also knew that when I did find a person that meet all those standards, I was gonna stop majoring in the minors and start focusing on the big picture which is starting to cultivate a relationship with that person..........

I knew that if I found that person on approach 5 or approach 200 either way I was gonna stop majoring in the minors (ie approaching) and start to cultivate the beginnings of a relationship, well it just soo happens that I found a person that meets my standards and that I deserve sooner than later.

I now feel like a warrior that has lost all taste for battle and war, it's kinda like a soldier who goes out with a platoon on a mission and he has two objectives to accomplish and he accomplishes the objectives, what is the point in staying after the objectives are accomplished and still fighting just for the sake of fighting, its not needed or worth the time or mental energy to do, if you objectives are accomplished, give yourself a pat on the back; you fought the good fight, and hop in the chopper and lets go home.

Thats how I feel right now, I have accomplished what I set out on this journey to do, whats the sense in fighting still?

Now I may be wrong guys........I may just be wrong, I may come back here 3 monthes from now and restart this thread and you all call laugh and snicker and say I told you so and I will admit that I screwed up and that now it's time to go out and accomplish what i set out the first time to accomplish and screwed up at.....

I may be wrong, but right now I have set out to do what I wanted to do...... and it is done and I am going to start cutivating the beginnings of a relationship...... I may come back, you can call me an AFC all you want...I'm still going to stay on the boards cause there is much much more on this board than just approaching and dating chicks theres much valuable info that i can use as I travel down this avenue of my life.........



You know guys for once in my life I have found someone who is the type of person that i cannot stop smiling around, she always has me laughing and always has me smiling and that makes me soo happy.......thats something very important to me and I really don't want to screw it up by just getting distracted by chasing other girls, I have no taste for war anymore.....when victory is yours you want to enjoy it not go out and fight some more.

The list of things that I made fellas isnt broad by any measure at all its 32 things that are everything from Curly dark hair to knowing how to bellydance (which she does btw).

Hell yeah Im gonna have a case of oneitis, if you found a woman who meets every single standard you have in a woman, let me give you a hint: YOU WOULD TO!!!!

Man it's a breath of fresh air to find someone who meshes with your personality very well......

If you all seriously want to see the list I post it for you to read and you can see how specific it is here it is

Heres the list of things the ones she marked off on the first date ill put a (1) by the ones she marked off on the 2nd date ill mark (2).

(1)She will have dirty blonde, brown or dark hair.....prolly curly (which she does)

(1) She will encourage me

(2) She will be a virgin

(1) She will have a shy or coy side

(1) She will be petite prolly between 4'11 and 5'5

(2) She will be fit

(1) She will have strong family ties

(1) She will lead a God-Centered life (even if she isn't saved before we meet)

(1) She will be an 8 or 9 on my scale of attractiveness

(1) She will not be Cohleric (a personality type) or stubborn

(2) Her heart will be in the business I am in just like mine is

(2) She would have soft skin all over

(2) She would not like to argue

(2) She would be sexy and have a sexy body

(1) She would be Smart

(1) She would be cute looking and acting

(1) She would be Gorgeous

(1) She can make me smile

(1) She will support me verbally and with her actions

(1) She would be Positive Minded

(1) She would have a beautiful smile

(1) She would be skinny but filled in a bit (then I gave girl examples of the type of frame I'm talking about)

(1)She would know or learn how to bellydance (which she does she was taught by her mother when she was a child and still does it)

She would be a woman of strength

She would like to do some of the activites that I do

She would be great in bed

She will love me unconditionally and be very affectionate

She will not be prideful

She will be the type of woman who makes me want to be a better man ******* (this one is very important......I have felt that need to impress and improve for her ......but this one can be checked off down the road)

She would play her role as a Godly Wife and let me play mine as a Godly Husband

She will be Patient


She has had no negative cross off's and all the things that are left are things that only time will tell.......

 

[chancer]

Pug's... It was nice reading your approaches. I hoped to see someone complete the boot camp, cause I have never seen it done. It's obviously done a lot for you.

The one thing that kinda puzzles me is how you know what you want. How many of you guys know what you want? Honestly? What I wanted from the time i first came to this site till now has totally changed. I feel that without opions, there's no choice.

Living in the household I'm living in now has forced me to be more open about everything in life. I can only have an idea of what I want. And if I do find that there is something I want, I tend to want more and start setting more goals; Most of which evolve around myself.

Be careful Pug's, and never let life get you down.

 

[Pugsley_f5]

CONTD

Shes an 8.5 on my scale of attractiveness, she has curly dark brown hair, shes 5'2 125-130lbs, petite but filled in, she has a stunning smile (Ive figured it out, she looks like a cross between the young Winona Rider (as seen in "The Crucible") and Kiera Knightly (as seen in the "Pirates of the Caribbean") Heres a link:

http://www.imdb.com/gallery/ss/0325980/Ss/0325980/02_c427-16.jpg?path=gallery&path_key=0325980

She looks like a cross between those two but only with dark curly hair, She has a smile like Kiera but the facial features of Winona rider. Heres a pic that she looks almost identical to but with dark curly hair instead of blonde curly hair...

http://www.imdb.com/gallery/granitz...1906.jpg?path=pgallery&path_key=Ryder, Winona


BTW we had another date last night and it went awesome we went to dinner and then over to a park on the lake and it was gorgeous 60degrees moon on the lake.....we talked and made out for like 3.5 hours.....Im still a bit of a mystery to her she asked me several times "So whats the deal with you, I don't know that much about you you're like a mystery" Thats a good sign, as I have said I have been spilling myself out over her.....just playing cool hand luke making her laugh a whole bunch and then giving her plenty of kisses to remember.....


BTW guys the orgasm thing is still there with her....I must have the magic touch or something we made out and I teased her about charging her for each kiss that enjoys soo much like she has been and I would kiss her then say "That'll be five bux please"

She would laugh and say I should be the one paying her because im getting soo much enjoyment out of kissing her, I would just "uh huh sure"....."Next time I kiss your neck your gonna have to give me a dang good kiss for it or else I won't do it anymore"

She Laughed and gave me a good kiss...lol Im still in control of things......Im still not opening up that much and very much a mystery to her....she also told me that she liked me alot and said something to the effect of "I don't know what it is about you, I have never warmed up to anyone like this before I feel completeley at ease and comfortable in your presence"

Im enjoying playing little games with her, I think were gonna spend new years together and start off the new year with a good kiss......

Also I also did some neck kissing and breathing on her neck guys, this drives her up a wall and she definatly went into that "oragsmic" state when I did this, man when I would breath on her neck and sniff her neck she would go nuts and start making ooooooo's and ahhhhhhh's.......then I did the icing on the cake.....when I kissed her and I was about to pull away I sucked her bottom lip a bit as I pulled away, guys she almost collapsed (we were standing up) she got soo weak in the knees.....after I did that a second time and she got all tensed up she said " Geez You doing that will be the end of me".........I then said "Good now that I know that , that will be 10 dollars please" LOL it was funny seeing her face when then kissed me again.......

I enjoy being with her and around her soo much, but i know that i need to restrain myself and my feelings and let her come to me, push and pull.........you know.

Im happy though and thats all that matters, if im wrong ill resume this thread and start approaching again, but having a "huge bird" in hand is easily worth 100 in the field, meaning having someone who meets my specs of a woman is easily worth 100 woman I *could go out there and meet, but to me thats a huge waste of time I know a good thing when i see and feel it......

Pugs

 

[Pugsley_f5]

Yes I am a born again Christian, also I know what I want because I know what I like and from past experiences I know exactly what i don't want.......sit down and think about it and write it down exactly what you want you will be suprised the things that come out of you once you get the gears turning and write down exactly the things you want and don't want, just having a definitness of purpose, you would be suprised if you put that paper in a drawer that 10 years later if you found it how many of those things you would have accomplished subconciously just from the defintieness of purpose you have in your subconscious towrds what you want, once you subC has a goal to work for it will without you being aware of it seek out that goal and direct your decisions towards it, read "Think and grow rich" it's all about that , Good Stuff




Pugs

 

[christz]

pugs i wanna just congragulate you on this accomplishment man, i mean you set out to do what you wanted to do and you got it done.

You managed to get passed what many can't.

However I hope for your sake that leaving your goal is worth it. I'm not calling you an AFC or anything but i'm just saying I hope this girl is worth risking your heart and your mind.

Because i've put myself on the line before like you are now and i got shot down hardcore. Remember pugs when something seems to good to be true most of the time it usally is.

I dropped everything for this girl that screwed me over, and i mean everything i had NO LIFE outside of her, and her me.. but then outta nowhere she left and i had nothing, I went 6 months of clinical depression. I became a pill popper to stop the manic depression I was getting.

I would goto work and come home and seriously no joke i would goto sleep at 3:00 in the afternoon! sometimes later but always right when i got home from work.

This girl said she was in love with me we talked dated for 5 years without one drop in the relationship, there was talks about moving in together.. starting a family, marrige i mean holy **** i was ready to take the dive at age 20!

but that's gone now, its been 2 years since then and i'm back at square one dateing different females trying to find one that hits me again, And i have found a few. I take the good with the bad. Because even if its bad.. i say at least i found a girl that can make me feel like that again. Its a bittersweet thing but it seems everytime i say i won't ever find a girl like my X I do.

So just take heed, my experience is a little different than yours and a little extream but it can all go down the same road so easily.

But Its cool that your happy at least you don't have to put up with the routine anymore hah

 

[Rawone04]

Pugs i wish you all the best for you.

 

[Fenderules]

good luck

 

[skinnydart]

Good thread dude, and the best of luck to ya.

I know most relationships end at some point but I hope for your sake this is the exception.

 

[Pugsley_f5]

Just wanted to give you all some more good *interest signs* news, she called me last night for the first time outside of planning dates together , just to talk , we talked for wayyy too long and I should have and will in the future get off the phone after about 15 mins max , I don't want to have a girl that knows every signle thing about me cause we talk on the phone all the time I want her to know and learn about me when we go out......but she did call me and we had casual convo for about 45 mins (as I said dont throw tomatoes I know that needs to be done in the future when this happens, but I didnt expect her to call me so it was an unpected exciting suprise. Next time it will be 15 mins or less and Ill say I g2g and ill see her tommorow......things are progressing along nicely, Shes coming over to my place after the ball drops tonight (we will be at a party before then) and we'll hang out and maybe ill give her a nice massage if shes *good* and has something equally as good in store for me......

Thanks for the advice

Pugs

 

[AverageFC]

Pugs,

how can she be great in bed if she's a virgin?


edit: I've read most of the pages in your thread, not all of them and just noticed something. Is she Muslim or Jewish?

 

[Pugsley_f5]

I didnt say anything about being great in bed......and shes a christian as well as me.

 

[AverageFC]

Originally posted by Pugsley_f5
I didnt say anything about being great in bed......and shes a christian as well as me.

this is from your list:

She would be great in bed

 

[Pugsley_f5]

and notice I didn't mark that one off yet with a number beside it......thats what i want in a wife dude, time will tell with that......the ones without numbers besides them havent been marked off, that one in particular I wont find out till marrige...



Pugs

 

[AverageFC]

Originally posted by Pugsley_f5
and notice I didn't mark that one off yet with a number beside it......thats what i want in a wife dude, time will tell with that......the ones without numbers besides them havent been marked off, that one in particular I wont find out till marrige...



Pugs

right. Thats understandable, I'm just saying if you want the girl to be a virgin, she's not going to automatically be great in bed.

 

[Pugsley_f5]

I think I'll have to disagree with you on that, I think that a women can have no experience in bed but at the same time she likes sex just the way you like it and her attitude while doing it and before makes it enjoyable, I meant really above and beyond just technique with that, a women that likes sex the way i do and whether or not she knows what shes doing she makes it enjoyable....like in just about every sense a women who is agressive is any way sexually or otherwise is a HUGE turnoff to me.....that type of thing I like being the one leading if you know what I mean, that type of thing will make it really enjoyable......



Pugs

 

[Pugsley_f5]

BTW I had another date last night.....guys this woman is absolutley amazing..... man we were up last night after new years till 7am , after new years we hung out and made out then when I took her home we got onto some pretty important convo topics and I was like "were going to steak and shake, I aint leaving this convo open like this and drop you off" so we went to steak and shake and eat and talked for another 3 hours or so till i took her home.....we weren't really talking about important stuff just neat stuff to talk about....I am still a bit of a mystery to her...... she told me that she has never met a guy like me, she said "Every guy that I have dated always wants sex and you give them an inch and they try to take a mile, but you, what's it with you I feel I am completley comfortable with you cause the boundries on how far to go weren't ever established but you have enough respect for me to know how far to go cause the line in the sand is drawn in your own mind not on my body.........and I find that to be an incredible turn-on"

I was like whoa DEEP.....I was just being my normal self, but compared to everyone else I definatly not the normal guy.....


Every time I see her it gets better and better truthfully, she has a shy side and look to her guys that ABSOLUTLEY captivates me and drives me wild and she also has a smile that is just stunning and it just draws me in every time she smiles.....

ALSO HERES A TIP: We talked about the first time I approached her and she said this......most guys treat me like a piece of meat and will just come up to me out of the blue and whisper some really fu*ked up Sh*t in my ear like saying "You know how much I wanna take you back to my house and F*ck your brains out right now" and I was like JEEZUS , it's no wonder why chicks have b!tch shields they almsot have to these days.............she said that when I approached her she said this "when you approached me it didn't come across as being too sudden or too forward at all, to me it came across and being an incredibly classy guy becuase you didn't just saying something to me without regard, you excused yourself and asked if I minded if you asked me a question....you asked my permission to disturb me and you weren't rude about it.....when you did it you came off as being an incredibly classy and genuine guy, oh and also when i saw how you dressed and that tan sports coat and your dark hair geled it drove me up a wall when you didn't call me and I wasn't gonna let something like that pass me by"


I was like "Yes score one for pugs and his single approach and all the beefcakes that say it's too this or too that or not this or not that...."!!!!! the proof is in the pudding guys....

She also said that she cannot stand it if a guy approaches her and she knows that he's trying to pick her up and he just beats around the bush like asking for opinions on stuff and crap....she said she knows whats he's doing and it comes across as being incredibly insecure that he cannot come out and make his intentions known and has to beat around the bush she said it looks "really weak" when a guy does this......

good tip there to guys


Pugs

 

[Fenderules]

lol so much of 100 approaches. you only did a 5th of that and scored gold!



i still suggest perhaps keep doing a few approaches here and there just so you keep things oiled in case this does not work out