I have a terrible time trying to do some public speaking. For example: I get training courses at my work alot and i have to go to them and often my "team" have to stand up and speak infront of the class. We all usualy get a shot at some point. Today i had one n i more or less volunteered myself for the last one cos i thought it should be a piece of cake.(Im in a band ive done 3 gigs each time i got on stage sometimes in front of a couple of hundred and done vocals and that went pretty well) But for some reason when i speak in a class room type situation I get the flight or fight reponse any idea why?
public speaking help?
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You need to give yourself a good reson for doing it. Make sure the reason is a SC one. SC is what i call Super confidence-meaning give yourself the most arrogent reason why you are about to speak and keep doing it. I teach at my temple and before I would go up at first I would always tell myself Im giving glory to God and thats the best thing anyone could do. So nothing else really mattered after that. So give yourself a SC reason to do it and not a half azz reason. Keep telling yourself it and after doing it for a while it will be a cake walk.
Maybe all you need is some outside help to gain confidence when you speak in front of people. Try toastmasters.
http://www.toastmasters.org/
http://www.toastmasters.org/
Most people are more afraid of public speaking then dead. The problem is that most use their logic mind too much. There are three key factors for public speaking: Know the room, know your audience and know your material. The trick is to go on auto-pilot. Most people concentrate on giving a good performance, not making any mistakes. These are the ones that totally suck at it. The one thing that should always be avoided is a monologue with your innervoice.
For my study I had to debate in front of a full college room and I had to defend "the bad" opinion. I couldn't afford to give a sh*t what all these other students think about me, nor did I have the time to deeply over think my arguments. Because I knew my material, the room and my audience. There wasn't any need for doubt, because it's doubt in yourself that causes the trouble. The only thing I did was focus on my opponent. Good practice is to watch great speakers in the public political debates. And for a found knowledge on debating read The Oratore by Cicero.
If you can debate, all other forms of public speaking are a peace of cake.
For my study I had to debate in front of a full college room and I had to defend "the bad" opinion. I couldn't afford to give a sh*t what all these other students think about me, nor did I have the time to deeply over think my arguments. Because I knew my material, the room and my audience. There wasn't any need for doubt, because it's doubt in yourself that causes the trouble. The only thing I did was focus on my opponent. Good practice is to watch great speakers in the public political debates. And for a found knowledge on debating read The Oratore by Cicero.
If you can debate, all other forms of public speaking are a peace of cake.
diablo
Master Don Juan
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Alpine
Master Don Juan
Toastmasters mate, that's what you need.
I've considered it myself, but to my shame I haven't pucked up the courage yet.
Apparently it changes you bigstyle, you become fearless in all areas of your life and really learn how to utilise your voice and work up a room.
When you are famous, you'll be glad you did, comes in handy for all those after dinner speaking engagements
I've considered it myself, but to my shame I haven't pucked up the courage yet.
Apparently it changes you bigstyle, you become fearless in all areas of your life and really learn how to utilise your voice and work up a room.
When you are famous, you'll be glad you did, comes in handy for all those after dinner speaking engagements
Alpine
Master Don Juan
You're thinking too much. Performance anxiety creates a very viscous circle.
CableLight
Master Don Juan
I've never understood the whole "speaking in public" fear some people have. I don't get it...I mean, it's just talking. So what if there's a bunch of people who sit and watch you? When you're up there, you're like the man in charge and whatnot - Take the opportunity you have to speak your mind to a bunch of people and make it worth while.
Also, make it fun. I've always thought one of the best things in the world was being up infront of a class and cracking a joke or something and getting 20+ people laughing. If nothing else, it's distinguishing.
Also, make it fun. I've always thought one of the best things in the world was being up infront of a class and cracking a joke or something and getting 20+ people laughing. If nothing else, it's distinguishing.
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Alpine
Master Don Juan
Cablelight,
It may not be public speaking, but I bet you have some irrational fear/phobia. It's like people fear little spiders or even balloons!
A learned association that has anchored a fear response out of all proportion to the actual stimuli.
It may not be public speaking, but I bet you have some irrational fear/phobia. It's like people fear little spiders or even balloons!
A learned association that has anchored a fear response out of all proportion to the actual stimuli.