Psychology girl

[AlexDP]

Jesus man. I saw her online on fb earlier today, asked her how her day was and told her we should go get a cup of coffee together on Friday. And she accepted. It's not about playing games, it's about not being a moron. As rough as it may sound for you, no one finds neediness attractive.

Now she may or she may not flake, but I have another date lined up on Sunday. And if that doesn't work out, I'll meet other girls. What on Earth are you getting so worked up about? About how I handle a particular situation with some girl? Relax, man.

 

[AlexDP]

Also rocket, in the future I would appreciate it if you would try to read and comprehend my posts before responding to them.

 

[AlexDP]

Little update:

I had coffee with her today. Conversation was good, lots of teasing, lots of flirting and some kino. At one point she started talking about the names of her future kids and she said she had always liked Noah. To which I responded 'I could live with that'. Made her laugh anyway. When I had to leave she gave me a kiss on the cheek.

BUT: she said she was busy the next few weeks and that it would be difficult to arrange a date. I am busy too as we both have to study for the exams and I am sure that this girl is genuinely busy, but I still feel that if she was really really interested, she would find a time.

So.. next?

 

[GhostWriter]

If she's truly interested, she will never be too busy.

The last chick I dated worked 80-90 hours a week (hospital), trust me they'll find the time.

Interesting enough, I've had the same line used on me.

I just ignored it and started sending out texts like... "Hey, I'm going to the library, you can join me if you promise not to be too distracting. "

So yea... excuses are always bull crap.

 

[AlexDP]

If she's truly interested, she will never be too busy.

The last chick I dated worked 80-90 hours a week (hospital), trust me they'll find the time.

Interesting enough, I've had the same line used on me.

I just ignored it and started sending out texts like... "Hey, I'm going to the library, you can join me if you promise not to be too distracting. "

So yea... excuses are always bull crap.

Generally I agree, but she does actually study from 9 am to 9 pm, so yeah, she is busy. But still. In any case I don't have much time either, so either way it doesn't really matter now.

 

[Johnnyventana]

Alex. It's simple. Go NC for 3 weeks and hit her up after 3 weeks for something, anything, other than coffee. Be busy for 3 weeks yourself. See if she misses you. If not, like you said, doesn't really matter. It may also be a shyte test, which means, best not to play. Just wait it out. If she's still ghey after 3 weeks, boot her. Also, really be gone for those 3 weeks. Make a group on FB so that you do not appear online to her. Gone is gone.

 

[AlexDP]

Probably the best yes. I have to focus on university anyway. She really went out her way to meet me yesterday though, so that surprised me a bit.

 

[powpow]

Let me just say that Ive met a few psychology girls. If you are undergrad, chances are these girl doesnt really know **** except what she learned in a book. So she is trying to analyze new experiences based on knowledge she read, not knowledge she understands.

Its an insecurity thing. Just blaze through.

 

[Johnnyventana]

AlexDP, don't pedestal her! "She really went out her way to meet me yesterday though, so that surprised me a bit." She only met you for coffee! She also went out of her way to tell you that she is busy for "3 weeks and to not ask her out." This chick controls the frame. Never good.

 

[AlexDP]

AlexDP, don't pedestal her! "She really went out her way to meet me yesterday though, so that surprised me a bit." She only met you for coffee! She also went out of her way to tell you that she is busy for "3 weeks and to not ask her out." This chick controls the frame. Never good.

I'm not putting her on a pedestal. I mean, she met me for coffee, she obviously wanted to and that's why she did it. I'm not incredibly happy because she met me for coffee and I don't think it makes her a wonderful girl. But it sort of conflicts with what she says. Then again I always get the idea she doesn't know what she wants.

 

[rocket87]

Keep denying people's advice and telling them they're wrong :rock: It will help you succeed in teh futur3!1

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#lostcause

 

[AlexDP]

You've got some severe issues, mate.

 

[AlexDP]

So I didn't talk to her over the weekend. On Monday though she wanted to talk to me at our uni library. So we did and it started out well. Then I made some joke about her college (she doesn't go to the same college as I do, but does study at our library from time to time) which suddenly got her very angry and she stormed out. I didn't go after her and she came back within two minutes and apologised for reacting too strongly.

What is up with that? Why did she have such a strong emotional reaction to a simple joke? Not sure what I want now though, if this is the indicator of how future behaviour is going to be..

 

[Johnnyventana]

She sounds a bit coo coo. You know what they say about chicks who enter the psychology field.

 

[AlexDP]

Yeah, I even understood she got a bit mad (everyone makes fun of her college) but this was weird. She was really sweet afterwards and kept apologising, but I'm not sure what it was. Maybe it was a test or something or maybe she's just like that. Either way.. it was odd.

 

[AlexDP]

She texted me this morning wanting to hang out. I left my cellphone lying around though, so I only read the text a couple of hours later. I think I'll just respond I'm up for that. Not sure if she's friendzoning me or whatever, but it doesn't feel like that, I think she might be interested.

 

[Chickfight]

Yeaah, its on! Tell her to come to your place to watch a movie (sex). If she doesn't accept (she'll be thinking about it though), just go do something fun and ESCALATE. Keep us updated bro.

 

[AlexDP]

Yeaah, its on! Tell her to come to your place to watch a movie (sex). If she doesn't accept (she'll be thinking about it though), just go do something fun and ESCALATE. Keep us updated bro.

I think I now understand what I have to do around women. I'm not sure this will lead to anything, of course, but at the very least she does contact me. I guess that, all in all, I have to make a good first impression by being confident about the approach, then I have to give her attention the first week or so, tease her a bit as well. After that I make myself scarce and if she gets angry or anything, I just ignore it.

I have to admit that I'm going to have to work on my ability to walk away though. I haven't developed oneitis for this girl, but I already like her and I don't know her all that well, I should tone the feelings down (for now).

 

[Chickfight]

Hey it's your call, but she wants to go out with you right now, so for me it would be time to make my move. I don't see the point in more bs.

 

[AlexDP]

Hey it's your call, but she wants to go out with you right now, so for me it would be time to make my move. I don't see the point in more bs.

I'm going out with her definitely. Just that I have to remind myself not to get carried away emotionally.