Ajbobtom
Don Juan
So, for the past week or two, I have been peddling an idea around. I have mentioned this idea to a few people. This idea is not an original concept, but in its own respect interesting. I have talked to Psychology Majors, mentors and friends about this idea. This is what, I am calling, Project: Indomitable.
This Project is for those around me, and my self. I wish to subdue, what I think is the most primal fear. This fear, is known as rejection. We have all felt the sting, of rejection, maybe once or twice inside of our own lives. I want, as a friend, mentor, and student; to defeat this fear, or chase it down with confidence.
"I belive that in all men's lives at certain perdios, and in many men's lives at all periods between infancy and extreme old age, one of the most dominant elements is the desire to be inside the local ring and the terror of being left outside... of all the passions for the inner ring is most skillful in making a man who is not yet a very bad man but do very bad things" - C.S. Lewis The inner ring 1994
Project Indomitable:
What is Project: Indomitable based off of?
I cannot exactly quote where, or who this is from, but I am sure you will know where or what I got this from. The idea came from reading either, a post on here or, inside of a book. The concept is simple. A man who was scared of rejection wanted to over come this fear. He had given his friend a sum of money to encourage him self to complete his task. This mans task was to ask out every woman that caught his eye and get at least 10 rejections before returning to his friend. This man was rejected for the first part of his task. He started to stop feeling rejection and would become more confident. After a while, this man would get phone numbers. In order to get his money back though, he had to try to get rejections.
Now that we have established where I am coming from, you probably have a good idea of what Project: Indomitable is.
What exactly made me want to pursue this project?
From my very first post, on this site, and my first date. (http://tinyurl.com/62ckrae) You can start to understand where I would find encouragement to do this. One of the reasons why, that story happened the way it did, was because I still am that scared little boy inside. With this project I am to change that. I want to change, not only my self, but my friends as well. My friends in a few words, are like me. We all are scared to some extent, even though we wont admit it.
Detail of Project: Indomitable.
My friends and I plan to go to the closest mall inside of our area. There will be at least six of us. We will split into groups of say, 2 to 3 each. We will each carry 2 -3 memo pads. The purpose of these pads are to aid in the project. We will also, if possible, carry audio recording devices. We will, make this into a game. Who ever scores the most 'points' will be give a reward. The points are based on how many rejections and how many phone numbers you have gotten through out the game. In order to prevent one from cheating in this game, we will have a member of our group record our individual scores.
Memo Pads:
The purpose of these pocket sized note books, is to record points, observations, and paper.
Pocket book #1 would be used to record our rejections and phone numbers: points. This would be passed from partner to partner (assuming we go in groups of two). This would help create a more stable game system.
Pocket book #2 would be used to record observations. This would be done by each member of the group, who is not approaching a target at the time. If I were to approach a girl, my friend would record what seemed to be going on between me and her.
Pocket book #3?: We may add this extra memo pad for one or two reasons. One reason would be for paper to record numbers down on. The other reason, something I want to test. Is to use it as a point of interest. Say I have this pocket book filled with numbers of friends, mentors, or students of mine. I would hand it to her to write her number in. She may end up thinking "Hey, what the fvck, he knows this many people! Who are they??" (This may be considered a point of interest, and show social value. Or it may be a slap to the face.)
Audio Recorders:
We may add, if we can Audio Recording devices. These devices would be used on approach of a target. Say, friend #1 approach a female, he would press record on the device and initiate conversation. This would give a more in depth analysis of what happened in the field.
Data from observation and audio recordings:
The data from observation and audio recordings, would be used to break down what happened. The observations combined with audio, may provide a semi visual representation of what went down. Later during the Project, we would as a whole, go over this data. Later, I may end up reviewing the data on my own, and writing a lengthy paper about it.
What all this means:
What all this means to me, is an experiment and a way to change others and my self. I have found many things about my rag tag group of 'experimenters' is that we all are different in many ways. Some of us are tall, some of us are short. We each have our own intelligence levels. A few of us, are drama students, others are A.P. Psychology students (Me!). The rest of us just want to have fun!
What I want, is input from you as the DJ community. You may have things to add, or change to this Project, and you are welcome to. In fact I want you to. I will, post results and the scores/scoring system, when we are completed with Project: Indomitable. A preemptive thanks to any one who helps, or inputs to this project. A advanced thanks to any one who helps, or inputs to this project.
This Project is for those around me, and my self. I wish to subdue, what I think is the most primal fear. This fear, is known as rejection. We have all felt the sting, of rejection, maybe once or twice inside of our own lives. I want, as a friend, mentor, and student; to defeat this fear, or chase it down with confidence.
"I belive that in all men's lives at certain perdios, and in many men's lives at all periods between infancy and extreme old age, one of the most dominant elements is the desire to be inside the local ring and the terror of being left outside... of all the passions for the inner ring is most skillful in making a man who is not yet a very bad man but do very bad things" - C.S. Lewis The inner ring 1994
Project Indomitable:
What is Project: Indomitable based off of?
I cannot exactly quote where, or who this is from, but I am sure you will know where or what I got this from. The idea came from reading either, a post on here or, inside of a book. The concept is simple. A man who was scared of rejection wanted to over come this fear. He had given his friend a sum of money to encourage him self to complete his task. This mans task was to ask out every woman that caught his eye and get at least 10 rejections before returning to his friend. This man was rejected for the first part of his task. He started to stop feeling rejection and would become more confident. After a while, this man would get phone numbers. In order to get his money back though, he had to try to get rejections.
Now that we have established where I am coming from, you probably have a good idea of what Project: Indomitable is.
What exactly made me want to pursue this project?
From my very first post, on this site, and my first date. (http://tinyurl.com/62ckrae) You can start to understand where I would find encouragement to do this. One of the reasons why, that story happened the way it did, was because I still am that scared little boy inside. With this project I am to change that. I want to change, not only my self, but my friends as well. My friends in a few words, are like me. We all are scared to some extent, even though we wont admit it.
Detail of Project: Indomitable.
My friends and I plan to go to the closest mall inside of our area. There will be at least six of us. We will split into groups of say, 2 to 3 each. We will each carry 2 -3 memo pads. The purpose of these pads are to aid in the project. We will also, if possible, carry audio recording devices. We will, make this into a game. Who ever scores the most 'points' will be give a reward. The points are based on how many rejections and how many phone numbers you have gotten through out the game. In order to prevent one from cheating in this game, we will have a member of our group record our individual scores.
Memo Pads:
The purpose of these pocket sized note books, is to record points, observations, and paper.
Pocket book #1 would be used to record our rejections and phone numbers: points. This would be passed from partner to partner (assuming we go in groups of two). This would help create a more stable game system.
Pocket book #2 would be used to record observations. This would be done by each member of the group, who is not approaching a target at the time. If I were to approach a girl, my friend would record what seemed to be going on between me and her.
Pocket book #3?: We may add this extra memo pad for one or two reasons. One reason would be for paper to record numbers down on. The other reason, something I want to test. Is to use it as a point of interest. Say I have this pocket book filled with numbers of friends, mentors, or students of mine. I would hand it to her to write her number in. She may end up thinking "Hey, what the fvck, he knows this many people! Who are they??" (This may be considered a point of interest, and show social value. Or it may be a slap to the face.)
Audio Recorders:
We may add, if we can Audio Recording devices. These devices would be used on approach of a target. Say, friend #1 approach a female, he would press record on the device and initiate conversation. This would give a more in depth analysis of what happened in the field.
Data from observation and audio recordings:
The data from observation and audio recordings, would be used to break down what happened. The observations combined with audio, may provide a semi visual representation of what went down. Later during the Project, we would as a whole, go over this data. Later, I may end up reviewing the data on my own, and writing a lengthy paper about it.
What all this means:
What all this means to me, is an experiment and a way to change others and my self. I have found many things about my rag tag group of 'experimenters' is that we all are different in many ways. Some of us are tall, some of us are short. We each have our own intelligence levels. A few of us, are drama students, others are A.P. Psychology students (Me!). The rest of us just want to have fun!
What I want, is input from you as the DJ community. You may have things to add, or change to this Project, and you are welcome to. In fact I want you to. I will, post results and the scores/scoring system, when we are completed with Project: Indomitable. A preemptive thanks to any one who helps, or inputs to this project. A advanced thanks to any one who helps, or inputs to this project.
