Problems in the bedroom

sosilky

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This girl I'm dating is complaining that it hurts. I like to go for longer then the average guy lubrication helps with that. But thats not the only problem. She says that certain positions with hurt her, like shes a small girl and when i spread her legs and stuff like that she gets realy sore the next day. Like her body get s soar. I'm trying to work with her to find positions that won't hurt her I don't know maby i'm a little aggresive but I'm afraid to touch her now.

Things are improving, we reached a milestone the other day, but I never had these complaints and shes dated guys taller then me. anybody have any experience with this?
 

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be gentle and pace yourself until her body gets used to it, talk to her and ask her if you think you're hurting her or making her numb, genuinely care more about her enjoying the sex than busting your nut

my girl was the same back in september. she hated sex because all the guys she'd been with made it a miserable experience for her and pretty much any kind of deep penetration hurt her. now she's a nympho. a couple years ago I remember giving another girl her first orgasm and she was so damn relieved and happy. I made her orgasm a second time and all of a sudden she just started crying. I never had a girl impulsively cry on me during sex so I was like WTF?! she told me a minute later it's because no one ever treated her that good in the bedroom

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seconded....

I try to make the girl cvm at least 2 times before I cvm so at least she can have her share of fun before I pop....now what you can do and I do this sometimes is foreplay with her and maybe make her give you some head then IF you have 2 pop.....then foreplay some more MAKE her cvm then you should at least be ready for round 2 by this time then when your done do her again. I do this sometimes and the women love it.....it is true though not lots of women have orgasms hell not alot of women have sex for more then 15mins so when you go for an hour or 2 and you are actually trying to make her cvm then she will respond better.

But back on topic....I think you should take it slow and maybe ask her to stretch before you guys have sex....or maybe instead of asking her and i know this will sound cheesy but maybe you can play twister either naked or clothed and that will be foreplay AND you guys will be stretching so youd kill 2 birds with one stone.
 

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I know what your saying but she gets embarressed when i try to talk to her about it. but your right. I find myself going for the gold with is one right away. I should slow it down.
 

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Hurt while you can, cause when she gets used to it, you're going to be right back here asking us the opposite of what you're asking now. (TRUST ME)
 

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sosilky said:
I know what your saying but she gets embarressed when i try to talk to her about it. but your right. I find myself going for the gold with is one right away. I should slow it down.
It may not be how fast your getting to it, it could be how comfortable she may be. You could slow down a ton but if she's still tense and uncomfortable it won't make much of a difference.

You may need to get her a bit more comfortable and excited. This is why foreplay is important to most women. The question is what types of foreplay would work best with her.
 

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If she says she's sore, then she's probably sore. Lay off for a few days.

You seem to try to read way too much into things.
 

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Hurt while you can, cause when she gets used to it, you're going to be right back here asking us the opposite of what you're asking now. (TRUST ME)
what?
 

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AsianSensation said:
I am virgin, but sex shouldnt hurt because my sister does it alot
LOL. :crackup: This guy is gold! comedic gold!
 

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sosilky said:
First she complains that it's to big. Then it become just right and she's enjoying it. When you began to think her enjoyment is flying out of the window, so does your confidence and you'll be right back here asking for more advice to please her.
 
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