Problem with Guy... Need a guys perspective

[jwtile]

Hi guys,
Im having a problem with a guy who I am NOT interested in at all. I have not lead him on in any way, the only reason I talk to him is because hes my neighbor and to be nice. But hes always making comments when his roomates are around and we are all drinking such as "give me a kiss" and I'll be like no jokingly and walk somewhere else. He also trys to nst next to me, flirt, and such. Today, when I was talking to him one on one duirng the day he was totally respectful and serious, but he stopped by my apartment to ask me a stupid question and showed up in his boxer like shorts, which I thought was wierd, but since he was being totally respectful I didn't think much of it. But now that I think about it he might have been giving the impression to my neighbor guy friends that he came over to my apartment to make out or something because later on during the day my roomate passed him by on the street and him being in front of all of his guy friends, he tells my friend "hey tell your roomate (me) to come over here and make out with me". It's really off that one on one hes really serious but in front of his roomates he makes disrespectful comments. So basically I think hes trying to make it look like he has something going on with me when there is nothing going on at all. Thats the part that really bothers me, I don't want my guy friends that hang out with him to think wrong about me, especially if nothing is going on. What do I do in this situation?

 

[Igetit!]

Just talk to the guy face to face. I know that confrontation is a difficult thing for you women,but you just need to come out and DIRECTLY tell him that this makes you uncomfortable. No phone calls,no letters,no text messages. Just you and him face to face. You said that whenever it is just the two of you one on one,he stops playing games and he's serious,right? Well,when he is in "serious mode",have a serious talk with him. And make sure that you use the word "uncomfortable" when you have this talk with him.

 

[Crazy Asian]

so you say the same thing to a guy you like directly to his face, as you would with your girlfriends?

^ did that sentence make sense?

 

[KontrollerX]

Just tell him straight to the point that you are not interested in him and try to do this in a somewhat public place incase he would try to physically hurt you for doing so.

Also get yourself some pepper spray as an added precautionary measure.

 

[Aragon034]

The next time he says something like that in front of his friends, walk up to him all seductive like. He'll be mesmerised but confused. turn him towards you, then let loose the mighty foot to the crotch. Tell him never to talk to you again unless he's going to keep his BS in check.

I don't think it can get any clearer than that. Maybe after this he'll realise what a pathetic tool he is and examine his life.

 

[DJDamage]

DJDamage steps in the room, closes the door and is going to set this chick stright.

I have not lead him on in any way, the only reason I talk to him is because hes my neighbor and to be nice.

If someone you don't want to talk to walks up to you and talks to you, you don't stick around and be nice. This indicates to the guy that you are somewhat interested in him because:

A) You didn't walk away

B) You were nice to him.

DING DING DING guess what?? YOU ARE LEADING HIM ON. If he believes his behaviour hasn't repulsed you then he obviously thinks he is doing something right.

But hes always making comments when his roomates are around and we are all drinking such as "give me a kiss" and I'll be like no jokingly and walk somewhere else. He also trys to nst next to me, flirt, and such.

Now you are drinking with this guy? and then you are joking with him when he tries to put the moves on you?? and no in this situation you don't walk away "somewhere else", YOU WALK AWAY FROM THE PLACE ITSELF and then he won't be sitting and flirting next to you. Again YOU ARE LEADING HIM ON. Nothing that he is doing indicates to him that you are not interest in him and that he should stop.

Today, when I was talking to him one on one duirng the day he was totally respectful and serious, but he stopped by my apartment to ask me a stupid question and showed up in his boxer like shorts, which I thought was wierd, but since he was being totally respectful I didn't think much of it.

What are you that dense? yeah apperently so. Does his hardon needs to take shape in his boxers before you think he is up to no good??!!

But now that I think about it he might have been giving the impression to my neighbor guy friends that he came over to my apartment to make out or something because later on during the day my roomate passed him by on the street and him being in front of all of his guy friends, he tells my friend "hey tell your roomate (me) to come over here and make out with me". It's really off that one on one hes really serious but in front of his roomates he makes disrespectful comments. So basically I think hes trying to make it look like he has something going on with me when there is nothing going on at all. Thats the part that really bothers me, I don't want my guy friends that hang out with him to think wrong about me, especially if nothing is going on. What do I do in this situation?

Oh so whats really bothering you is not that he is GIVING YOU ATTENTION ALL THE TIME but MORE LIKE YOU DON'T WANT YOUR GUY FRIENDS (who by the way also want to get into your pants) THINK LESS OF YOU??

Here is my assessment:

You could have stopped this along time but didn't. You like the attention but then if your rep is in danger then its the end of the world. This is a typical chick drama that women get themsleves into and relish in it.

 

[EFFORT]

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