Problem : Nowhere to meet them

A7Xx

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Ive been tryin to get out of my slump with girls for a few weeks now, I won't go into details, but the options for cold approaching women are very limited. The reason being is that I am still 15 years old, no liscnece or car, and hardly any friends with either of those. I also want to do this approaching solo when I learn to approach, I dont want to depend on anyone or have anyone bring me down, unless they know my goals.

I can think of tons of places to go, but all of them I have to drive to get to, and I dont turn 16 till June, and that doesn't guartantee me a car, I most likely will be without one for at least tull July. There are many places around here, malls, bookstores, restaurants, I would love to just drive up there and approach women, I am not good at it at all, and really want to do alot, and learn the game, and approaching the women is the first step to learning and applying everything I know. Should I just wait it out till I get a car but still try to talk to as many girls now, or is there an solution I have overlooked to not having a place to go for approaching. Don't get me wrong, I go out to the mall every once in a while, but the girls are now all middle schoolers there usually, and I have to go with my AFC friends (for a ride from their parents and a bit of social proof). If I had parties and people to hang out with I would definitley be approaching girls there, but my only good friends are a group of guys who do neither of these, and only 1 has a car, and we aren't exceptionaly good friends nor does he have the goals I do.

I have many accquantinces at school, but no way to turn these aquaintances into people I can hang out with, because to be cool with them outside of school you gotta drink or smoke or party, and have drugs or a car, for there to be a reason for them to hang out with you. Cold approaching girls in my school sounded good but
1 - Girls already have enough friends to talk to at school, unlike other placces where they go out to meet new people.
2 - Still got 2 more years left, don't wanna be known as a loser (cause I am not really one) and ruin it for the rest of my time.
3 - Girls would respond to the approaches with maybe a hey, but nothing more.
4 - It is alot harder to get in approachin mood at school, which is why I wanna learn to ins and outs of it in a place I feel much more comfortable doin it.

Now I am talking about not approachin girls in the hall, if I am with friends in the cafeteria or commons, or in class I will talk to girls that are standing in our group, no problem, but I am looking for cold approaches, and High School ain't too good a place to do it. If I saw a good oppurtunity I could maybe take it, such as girl standing in hall, but that rarely happens, everyone has their friends and doesn't care about meeting total strangers if they have enough good friends (most hot girls do).

I would love to do a Boot Camp, however I feel that without a place to approach, I would not make it past Week 3, so I will most likely be waiting for a car to accomplish this. Now doing this is no problem, I have many things to keep me occupied, and I have become very independent when I need to be, I could probably live like this for the rest of High School, but I really wanna enjoy my time in HS and learn this stuff. By the way I am not new to this stuff, I have studied it for a year, but only now have I begun to try and implement it, and it is proving difficult. I joined a new club, and a sport, the club has yet to offer much oppurtunity, and I had to quit the sport (track), due to tendonitis, but I already signed up for track next year so that can add to my oppurtunities, but again that is in school.

I will be getting a job this summer for sure, which will definitley help. Working out and running will help occupy my time, I aint gonna sit at home doin nothin, but if anybody has a solution to having little oppurtunity for hitting on girls, I would like to know what it is. Also good jobs that abound with girls, or at least have more than most places, but Id rather have a good job than one with alot of girls because there are so many places to approach. Thanks for reading! When I get a car there will be no mercy!
 

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What you need to do is get a job NOW! start working now, start saving so that when you are 16 and can get your liscence you can buy the car and have some money saved and after that you can start working on your DJ skills. Don't wait till the summer to get a job.
 

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With school finishing up, parents busy with jobs, no older siblings to take me places, and few choices for places hiring at age 15, the chances are low, not to mention my parents almost 100% won't let me get one now, thats the bigest obstacle, but my parents will pay for most of the car so im basically covered there, I will be driving my one of dads cars (pretty nice Ford Explorer) until I do get a car, but yeah the freedom of your own car is nice. I like the idea of having a job now though, one way to earn money as sort of a job : My dad has his own business and offered to let me run and update his website, and he would pay me money for it, I will bring this up and see if he is ready for me to do that, but yeah gettin a job I pretty much have to wait till I turn 16 or at least summer for my parents to let me, I am sure they wouldn't now, but thanks for the idea, I would very much like a job to occupy me, but with school and transportation issues, and few places nearby that would hire, my dad may be my employer for a few months. Still I am gonna bring up the issue of car payment to my parents and ask if I could maybe find a way to earn money in advance so I can pay for a car once I get my liscense.
 

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I see you have some obstacles there. The money of the job is not to pay for the car since you're parents are gonna take care of that, I was suggesting you start getting money now so you have money when you get the car to start enjoying it the moment you get it! You can have a car but you need money to enjoy it. You will want to go to fun places, eat at restaurants, go to stores, the mall, movies etc etc. You will have the freedom to enjoy life but enjoying life costs money.
 

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Oh, hell yea I get what you are saying there, and you are absolutley right! I thought abot buying clothes and more cologne and **** but I didn't think about how much other random things in life are that are involved in becomeing a DJ. I will work on savin my money when I do get a job so I can have freedom. I also want to build up my parents trust so they let me do anything. I have never been caught doing really bad things, I always got away clean when I drank or smoked or anything, and I do neitehr of those I just did a few times when I used to hang out with the partiers a year ago.
 

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Originally posted by A7Xx
2 - Still got 2 more years left, don't wanna be known as a loser (cause I am not really one) and ruin it for the rest of my time.
I have a couple major problems with this sentence.

one, you say your not a loser, however you must clearly be insecure or you wouldn't have said (cause i am not really one)
two, since when does meeting people make you a loser?
three, are you going to never try and do anything new because you might be branded as uncool or a loser if you screw up? HAVE SOME BALLS! its not worth not living your life because of what someone might say.

just my $0.02
 
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