Problem: Cannot Cvm

[drixsa]

i am sitting here typing this post out having 4... yes you heard me right 4 SCOOPS OF ICE CREAM and i earned it tonite as well

but the problem is, or what i think it is, that i have trouble reaching a climax during sex.

tonite i went for just over 45 minutes.

thank goodness for the army training i have been doing to keep my endurance at the amazing level it is at

but thats besides the fact, it takes me an extremely long time to ***

last night was even worse, girl went down and we had sex and i couldnt *** either time. i stayed stiff at attenison both times, the whole way through

i dunno what to do. the girl tonite told me she wanted us to cvm together but i couldnt do it. she orgazismed like 4-5 times before i went

the girl last night was worse. we tried a total of 4 different positions and none worked.

i had her grab my balls, go fast, go hard and go slow. nothin could do it

i think i broke the back part of the bed as well

last night i told her i cv but when she saw the condom i think she knew

not sure if my boys belive me, they asked me if i jacked-off b4 either time and the answer was NO

anyone think they can help me out or atleast make me understand

hell i have been using the ribbed and sensitive condoms.

 

[ThugLove]

lose the condom bro

 

[Starman]

perhaps if you had taken some of that ice cream and jammed it into your xtra small latex Trojans..you could have made it seem like you came..

SirDouche..

You have to eat seafood to cuum better not ice cream you filthy baskin robins loiterer

 

[( . )( . )]

are you taking any SSRIs? zoloft, paxil etc.?
the ability to cvm is totally up to your brain, if your not on SSRIs try chopping up some new grass or give the warpigs a break.

i wouldnt normally say this but you might have better luck than i did so lose the condom if it really bothers you so much, (be prepared for consequences) like i heard someone else say somewhere using condoms is like trying to eat a juicy steak with rubber over your toungue or something..... either way you lose sensation with those fvckers on.

or maybe you just have a low sex drive? what are you 18, at your age i was cumming all day every day.

 

[Reto]

I've been there (and still am at times).

Like what was said above, it's all in your head. I have a couple of suggestions;

Quit materbating. You've gotten use to it. Plus, if you do it too frequently, your sex drive goes diminishes.

Get her to wear lingerie.

Me and my girl have had sex in public places a couple of times. The excitment of getting caught makes it real easy to cvm.

Are there things that run through your head when you're doing it?

My girl is an Attention Wh@re with serveral AFC/Guy friends. Sometimes when we're doing it, I start thinking "who else has been here recently?" It's not happening then... (She swears I'm the only one. But I will always have my doubts as long as she has her "friends"...)

 

[hb]

yo starman, its known that sea food makes you take longer to ***, try eating shrimp (dont take its tail off) and see if you can ***....

maybe the problem is too much sea food.

 

[ClosetMisogynist]

If you can't of so to speak, the problem may be Ejaculatory Incompetence. This disorder or some typpe of varient there of is the exact opposite of Pre-mature ejaculation.

 

[drixsa]

Originally posted by Starman
perhaps if you had taken some of that ice cream and jammed it into your xtra small latex Trojans..you could have made it seem like you came..

SirDouche..

You have to eat seafood to cuum better not ice cream you filthy baskin robins loiterer

are you trying to be funny or just add to the post count that you hold your ego on?

ice cream came after the workout, which was awsome b/c i havent had that stuff in 2 yrs or so

 

[drixsa]

thanx for the help

even though id say i do it 1 time every 2-3 days

as much better as sex could become i have to wear a condom

i take no meds what so ever

 

[isotope]

its all psychological.
have you ever had a dream where you saw a scary monster? was it truly scary just by the looks of it? NO. yet in dreams, it is possible to become unbelievably scared- more scared than is ever possible in real life. WHY?

because your dreams do not just see sensory reality. dreams directly control the parts of your brain that interpret and percieve reality. So when you dream a scary monster, your brain is not just seeing the visuals. The FEAR and SCARED pathways of your brain are all activated. So tha tmonster IS scary, your brain makes it undeniable.

likewise, have you ever seen a beautiful woman in your dreams? did you notice that she was unrealistically beautiful? too beautiful. How?
becaues your brain "cheats". it can directly attach a "beautiful" property to the dream woman. in so doing, your brain can MAKE her beautiful when you interpret her, rather than only rendering her beauty in her physical image. Her beauty lies both inside your brain as well as in the physical apperance of her body. (your brain is forced to see her as beautiful.)

this is different from reality (awakeness) because you percieve women as totally real, outside yourself. You see only the sensory inputs and watch them passively. But you do not let your imagination (emotions) construct part of this reality for you, the way it does in dreams. When you see poeple, dont just see what is in front of you. Let your brain make up part of the story.

What is the point of all this?

you need to condition yourself to trigger your ejacualtion. or at least create a mental state where you can ejac. when you want to ejaculate, you need to let your emotions take over. this is sort of like triggering an emotional state with NLP.

let yourself feel really intense passion. dont just think about what youre seeing with your senses. Dont just watch your penis go in and out. INTERPRET IT. think about how sexy she is. think about how good you feel, this beautiful chick beneath you, under your control.

focus on a small part of her: like a small patch of skin on her belly. think about how soft and white and sensual it is. look at the beautiful hair as if flows across her back. look into her eyes. Think about the smell of her. Make sure to focus on every beautiful, feminine thing about her. Maybe mix pleasure and pain. Have her scratch you a little. kiss, caress, let other parts of your body feel her hair. be overwhelmed by your other senses of touch, it will amplify the sense of feeling in your penis.

Then think about how intense and physical all this is, and let it overwhelm you.

And now think about it: even if she is only a HB6, once you have gotten used to this idea, you could still interpret her to be more beautiful. Your dreaming brain could theoretically make you ejac while looking at a rotting tree stump. because it can activate the sex/beauty pathways of your brain automatically.

this is why pedophiles/etc are so ****ed up. If you know about the psychological ideas of conditioning and skinner and pavlov, then you know physical responses can be conditioned. It is disturbing how subjective the concept of beauty is, and how it is truly all in the eye of the beholder. somehow, pedophiles are twisted and conditioned to only ejaculate while seeing children, or while being tortured, or whatever.

So in this case, youre already starting with a hot babe. You just have to create a consonance between what your 5 senses are seeing, and how your brain interprets them. Your brain has to believe this is an intense moment.

 

[dionysius_d]

do it yourself.

Hmm, its part mind yeah.. but also part physical response.. how do you think the human race and every other animal race evolved..

you don't see lions and gorillas out there in the wild trying to positive think themselves into ejaculating.

To Drix: When you feel like you want to ejaculate, take out your d!ck, and use your hand to stimulate the head or whatever makes you cvm normally.. and then stick it back in when you're read to go.

That's why you see in porn movies the guy usually takes his d!ck out and has to handle it (especially the head) before he can explode.

Its just a conditioned physical response.

The other thing.. I also notice.. once your go past a certain time period of fvcking.. you're d!ck will become over stimulated.. it will then take more effort (hence your own intervention) to cvm.

You are in a no-loose situation. If you don't cvm, you keep it for next time, what's the big deal?? You're trying to please her ideas about 'cumming together' ?!