Probably the worst thing females do

[Stagger Lee]

OK say you meet up with some girl for the first time and go to the bar and drink. Of course your goal as a man is to see if you have attraction and get her home and have sex as soon as possible without jumping the gun. It doesn't really matter where you meet up or hang out the key thing is you are drinking and biding your time until it seems right to close the deal.

Eventually you get to the bedroom and then like a switch went on she in sex mode and her clothes are coming off and she's grabbing for your manhood. But you are maybe a little tired and been drinking and the erection isn't coming along. You just need to relax a little while and maybe play around with her naked body.

But no, some women can't be patient and stay in the mood for a little while. It's like oh he didn't get a rock hard erection within the first minute or two, then I'm not open to sex anymore. Then she's putting on her clothes and starts acting all indignant when you tell her you just need to relax a little while, and if you try to go for some foreplay to hold her over till the hard on comes she acts like you just sprang out of the bushes naked on her. So here you are putting your clothes back on, and what do you know? Now you have a rock hard erection. But she doesn't care, not interested and kicks you out the door or bolts out the door if it's not her place.

She doesn't care that you have been drinking for a few hours and it might be 4 am now and it is all her fault because she required to be gamed for several hours before she'll fvck. And even though you did get hard albeit a few minutes too "late", it's nothing to her to throw out the sex and waste all that time.

I don't care what reasoning a female could have such as the guy not being hard made her feel insecure or whatever, true, women who do this are probably jacked in the head but that is no justification. This has got to be the worse thing a female does. Think about how just how sh!tty and inconsiderate that is. A guy endures enough frustration when his erection isn't working. The last thing he needs is a girl shutting him down because of it. Then refusing him the chance to redeem himself when his erection comes a few moments later.

Other girls will stay naked in bed all night. You can even semi-wake them up with a hard on and they are good to go. That's what any normal, decent female would do. The problem is you never know which kind of girl you have on your hands until you got her naked and you never can predict when an erection might be slow in coming.

 

[Sue Madre]

Did this just happen to you?

 

[Stagger Lee]

No it happened the other night. I know every other guy on here never has a problem getting a rock hard erection at the end of a meet up no matter if they drank or how late it is, right? It's really just an extreme example of flaky behavior at the worst possible time. You spend several hours with a chick and you both know it's all a pretext to have sex, and some chicks are bound to flake out up to the point that you literally have your c0ck in them.

 

[DonJuan_DeRosco]

I know every other guy on here never has a problem getting a rock hard erection at the end of a meet up no matter if they drank or how late it is, right?

I think if they were all honest, they would say that's happened to them at least once in their lives.

Its happened to me before, no big deal. I can remember a time where some bint did something that just turned me right off, and I left.

 

[Stagger Lee]

I know what you mean. One time a girl was all naked and wanted to do it and i didn't because for one thing her vagina smelled, and it totally crushed her that I turned down her pvssy. That's the thing, if men did the same things women commonly do to us they sure wouldn't like it. And supposedly us men are even more sensitive of about performance and the whole blue ball thing.

The whiskey d!ck wasn't really the main point. A few times I've had a girl go to bed and get naked or at least partially naked and then suddenly and irreversibly decide they don't want to do anything. It's just an example of common flakey and piss poor female behavior. I mean don't get all naked and then not follow through on it.

 

[Zarky]

The OP reminds me of a hilarious Kafka short-story told in the second-person. I forget the name but it's funny as hell.

 

[Stagger Lee]

The OP reminds me of a hilarious Kafka short-story told in the second-person. I forget the name but it's funny as hell.

Oh I see I did write in 2nd person. I wasn't trying to hide the fact in anyway that it happened to me. I just figured a lot of other guys have experienced this type of annoying female behavior and could relate.

 

[Colossus]

I cant say that's ever happened to me during a hook-up, but I'll give you an anecdote.

My gf generally perfers to have sex at night, while I generally prefer to have sex in the morning or daytime hours. So we try to compromise.
However, there have been some nights when we come home at like 2 am from a night out. I've been drinking since 9 or 10, usually had a late-nite drunk meal, and just feel exhausted and bloated. So the LAST thing I wanna do is have sex. Of course she is amped up and ready to go. Sometimes I'll humor her, but sometimes I just have to turn her down, and believe you me it will come up the next time we have sex.

It's just the sexual double-standard. Women believe they have carte blanch to turn a man down at any time, for any reason, with or without notice. But when THEY get denied or have to wait a little bit, it's like you just insulted their mother or something. Nevermind you patiently going through the fvcking production of getting her in the mood each time....God forbid you might not be in the mood or need a little time to get up to full mast.

 

[Stagger Lee]

It's just the sexual double-standard. Women believe they have carte blanch to turn a man down at any time, for any reason, with or without notice. But when THEY get denied or have to wait a little bit, it's like you just insulted their mother or something. Nevermind you patiently going through the fvcking production of getting her in the mood each time....God forbid you might not be in the mood or need a little time to get up to full mast.

Exactly, it's really selfish, inconsiderate behavior than anything else. And women are the ones complaining about men just wanting instant sex with a girl they meet, men not wanting to engage in foreplay and blah blah blah. But the reality is they want sex the instant they want it after how many hours of tiring social formalities that they require. But the thing is it's one thing for a girl to not be in the mood and another for her to be in the mood and began engaging in sex and suddenly stop all activity because she didn't get fvcked within a few moments. There is something really wrong with a female like that.

 

[scrouds]

ßitches will be ßitches man.

"when you tell her you just need to relax a little while, and if you try to go for some foreplay to hold her over till the hard on comes she acts like you just sprang out of the bushes naked on her."

Its her problem, not yours. Don't lose the frame this late in the game.


Its funny you post this now, last night I had my first time where it wasn't going to get hard, no matter what. Turns out I'm just not one for public sex

 

[PokerStar]

man. i have a story to add to this. i thought it only happened to me.

Last December I was seeing this hot little persian chick (single mom).

anyway, while her kid was being looked after by her mom that night. we go back to her apartment and start getting into it and heavily.

So about to take off her panties and I thought "oh crap, i dont have a condom" so i asked her if she had one available. she said no. I then said "we cant have sex"

She gave me the most weirdest look right after. She then asks me " are you gay? are you a virgin?"

I thought " these b*tches hate it when they get turned down for sex"

I told her "listen, i respect myself to be careful about stds, unwanted pregnancy and whatnot"

Let me tell you she didnt care if i had a condom or not, she wanted to have sex. Sorry girl I dont roll like that.

I didnt get another opportunity to have sex with her after that, even when I did bring one.

 

[Three]

I've had whiskey **** a couple of times where I just could not get a nut. Funny how it seemed to always happen the very first time with a hot new girl and usually after she pounced on me. I guess maybe I just didn't know how to handle that after being married for 10 years...

 

[st_99]

Girls are the inferior species by design hence you'll always have weird, insecure behavior from them. Unfortunetly a lot of guys mistake it for something THEY did wrong when really chicks are just compensating for their inferiority complex with their crazy antics, sh*t tests, mood swings, etc.

my .02

 

[Jitterbug]

Had this exact same scenario once. Oh well, it comes with the territory of ONS and hookups. When you're into fvcking randoms, you can't expect everyone to be considerate.

 

[DJDamage]

You blew it buddy.

Women will never understand you when you say you are too tired, its either you are bringing or not when they are ready.

You should always be bringing it.

As Seinfeld once said " a man will always trade sleep for sex".

If you knew you are bringing some chick home from the bar be prepared:

1) Don't stay too late - 4am is way too late. Close the deal by 1am or go home alone.

2) Don't drink too much - Alcohol will affect your libido and make you more tired, its her you are trying to get drunk not you. Drink some water in between to sober up or even drink some energy drinks to keep going.

3) Pop a pill - Always carry with you an emergency pill like a Cialis/Viagra when you are feeling low and you know you are going to need to bring it.

 

[Stagger Lee]

I didn't blow anything, she blew it as far as I'm concerned. Sure I didn't get an erection "fast" enough but not every girl is impatient and won't want to wait a bit for sex. Sometimes the logistic don't work in your favor. I had to go to her place and it was her that kept hanging out late at her place with her roommate male cousin. I didn't know beforehand she would do that. Of course in hindsight a person could do xyz differently and that might have made a different outcome, but any female that would pull this stunt after getting naked is a chick I don't want to fuk anyway. That's the point, regardless of why you didn't get hard right away, it's how the chick responds that matters.

I don't think taking viagra is any solution. I don't think it works instantly. What are you going to do pop one before it's even known for certain you're going to be having sex? That's the whole point here. Some women are so flakey you never really know for sure you are going to be fukking them even if they've gotten naked until you have your c0ck in them.

To tell you the truth you are just arguing want women want. They want guys to be all hard and ready to go, basically sexually frustrated and at their beck and call. Of course you can't show any of it and you have to play along with their slow pace game. They want to have it both ways. When a girl shows me she's that kind of an unreasonable nut, I can't say I like it but I'm not too concerned about not having sex with her.

 

[Jitterbug]

DJDamage's #1 and #2 advices are good, but I'm not sure about #3. I haven't taken any of those pills, but don't they take a couple of hours to be effective?

Stagger Lee, I think you're more offended by this than you should. You win some, you lose some. Sh1t like this may happen when you engage in casual sex, it's no big deal. How many times have you had casual sex with a woman who didn't have an orgasm? Did you give a toss at all? If you want a considerate sex partner, get in a LTR with a good woman.

 

[Zarky]

Finally found the story I was thinking of, "Passers-by" by Franz Kafka.

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Passers-by

When you go walking at night up a street and a man, visible a long way off--for the street goes uphill and there is a full moon--comes running toward you, well, you don't catch hold of him, not even if he is a feeble and ragged creature, not even if someone chases yelling at his heels, but you let him run on.

For it is night, and you can't help it if the street goes uphill before you in the moonlight, and besides, these two have maybe started that chase to amuse themselves, or perhaps they are both chasing a third, perhaps the first is an innocent man and the second wants to murder him and you would become an accessory, perhaps they don't know anything about each other and are merely running separately home to bed, perhaps they are night birds, perhaps the first man is armed.

And anyhow, haven't you a right to be tired, haven't you been drinking a lot of wine? You're thankful that the second man is now long out of sight.
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[Three]

Zarky, I just love it that someone on this forum is quoting Kafka. It underscores that we're real people, a real cross-section of life.

Being successful with women isn't a goal for just a bunch of ignorant, low class losers. It's something that many interesting, intelligent, and decent guys are after. I appreciate the reference!

 

[ThunderMaverick]

I didn't blow anything, she blew it as far as I'm concerned.

If she blew it then why are you complaining? Shouldn't the title of the thread be "I couldn't get hard, b!tch wasn't patient enough to get a good f*cking." Instead you phrased it as though she injured you or something.

Very conflicting viewpoints on your end :/ Did she blow it or did YOU?



If a girl tells you "you're not even hard yet". Tell her "keep sucking it then, shut up".