pretty waitress

[skybound]

Sup guys.. Theres a waitress at the local bar ive know for a few months. Anyways she had on some goofy looking house slippers tonight at work.. So i tell her those are some ugly slippers.
She laughs and says there comfortable and i say well you cant wear those if your gona be seen with me!! Her jaw drops and she slaps me on the shoulder saying im crazy. Hour later i tell her to write her number down for me so we can go out shopping tomorrow and i can help her find some better slippers. She says ill thank about it and that i cant hang with her shopping because ill be so tired from going store to store.
Around closing time i walk up to her and say hey whats your number so we can go shopping tomorrow,.. She says you know i cant give my number out at work.. So i say whatever look if you dont want to give me your number just say so because you dont have to give me that **** about being at work. I walk out the door and say bye,
So did i handle this well??? Anything else i can do or is it a lost cause?

 

[armadon]

Dude she is making fun of you to all of her coworkers right now.

 

[skybound]

Dude she is making fun of you to all of her coworkers right now.

Dude whats your problem!! Are you a troll or just a DJ hater because you dont have the couarge to step up and try!!! Im sorry if your friday night was that bad.. Next time get off the couch and put the call of duty 4 down for five minutes and get a life.

 

[Trader]

Sup guys.. Theres a waitress at the local bar ive know for a few months. Anyways she had on some goofy looking house slippers tonight at work.. So i tell her those are some ugly slippers.
She laughs and says there comfortable and i say well you cant wear those if your gona be seen with me!! Her jaw drops and she slaps me on the shoulder saying im crazy. Hour later i tell her to write her number down for me so we can go out shopping tomorrow and i can help her find some better slippers. She says ill thank about it and that i cant hang with her shopping because ill be so tired from going store to store.
Around closing time i walk up to her and say hey whats your number so we can go shopping tomorrow,.. She says you know i cant give my number out at work.. So i say whatever look if you dont want to give me your number just say so because you dont have to give me that **** about being at work. I walk out the door and say bye,
So did i handle this well??? Anything else i can do or is it a lost cause?

Hey you were doing great by calling out her BS about 'not being able to give out her number at work' but you should have STAYED!

Make her react to you - I bet if you would have stayed (and not walked out the door right away) - she would have given you her number.

 

[skybound]

Hey you were doing great by calling out her BS about 'not being able to give out her number at work' but you should have STAYED!

Make her react to you - I bet if you would have stayed (and not walked out the door right away) - she would have given you her number.

Hmm .. Well i was kinda on my way out the door so i asked her as i was leaving. But i see some truth in what you said. Ive never tryed that but i will next time. Thing is i see this girl often usally at her work on the weekends.
So tonight if i see her how do you say i should react. Myself i plan on treating her the way i always do as if nothing has happened. Probaly walk in with a big smile and tell her "hows it going beautiful" as i walk bye.
I usally never pay her any compliments so this should throw her off because most guys would be quiet and cold to her the next day

 

[DJDamage]

Hour later i tell her to write her number down for me so we can go out shopping tomorrow and i can help her find some better slippers.
She says ill thank about it and that i cant hang with her shopping because ill be so tired from going store to store.

Strike 1!

Around closing time i walk up to her and say hey whats your number so we can go shopping tomorrow,.. She says you know i cant give my number out at work...

Strike 2!

So i say whatever look if you dont want to give me your number just say so because you dont have to give me that **** about being at work. I walk out the door and say bye.

Strike 3! Yooooooooooooooourrrrrrr outttttttttt!

So did i handle this well??? Anything else i can do or is it a lost cause?

I say you handled it pretty good at the begining when you asked for her number then the second time around when you asked for it you became obnoxious and by the third time you made yourself look like an ass.

Here is a tip on waitresses: They are doing it for the tips. Hot waitresses know that flirting around with half drunken men means a bigger tip by the end of the day. What she did with you, she probably does to every guy that walks through that door. If she would have bought you a drink on the house or something to that effect it would have been more of a clear sign she was interested.

 

[Trader]

Here is a tip on waitresses: They are doing it for the tips. Hot waitresses know that flirting around with half drunken men means a bigger tip by the end of the day. What she did with you, she probably does to every guy that walks through that door. If she would have bought you a drink on the house or something to that effect it would have been more of a clear sign she was interested.

What you say is true - girls flirt for the tip. But the truth is, you can't keep on waiting for clear-cut signs that the girl is interested. I give the original poster credit - he saw a girl he liked, and he went after her.

I really could care less if that particular girl said 'yes' or 'no.' She is just one girl. What's important is the the OP grew from this experience and will be more equipped the next time he sees a super-cutie.

 

[skybound]

What you say is true - girls flirt for the tip. But the truth is, you can't keep on waiting for clear-cut signs that the girl is interested. I give the original poster credit - he saw a girl he liked, and he went after her.

I really could care less if that particular girl said 'yes' or 'no.' She is just one girl. What's important is the the OP grew from this experience and will be more equipped the next time he sees a super-cutie.

I applaud you sir for the kind words. You have a positive mindset and bring out the best in ohers. Thats what life is about , to shine and help others shine there own light instead of hiding in the shadows.

 

[DJDamage]

But the truth is, you can't keep on waiting for clear-cut signs that the girl is interested

The truth is that there is a fine line between seduction and grovelling and the OP has clearly passed that line with the way he asked the waitress for her number the second time.

What's important is the the OP grew from this experience and will be more equipped the next time he sees a super-cutie.

I can't tell if he grew from this experience. The OP seems to be bend on ignoring things that are relevent to his success because of his point of view.

Granted if he only wishes to be congradulated for approaching a girl then so be it, but he came here with a problem regarding his approach which ended up being a failure hance the negative assesement.

Negative assessments are a result of negative outcomes or problems.

 

[thedeparted]

I'm impressed with this approach. I'll tell you why: this guy has balls. You can take a guy with balls and bad technique and make him into a guy with balls and good technique. But you'll never be able to take a guy without balls and make him into a guy with anything.

As for the waitress laughing at you: so what? Women laugh at guys all the time. Then they turn around and fvck the very same guys, marry them, have their babies, etc etc. What women say means nothing. Period. End of story. I bet if you pursued the same waitress several times she'd give you her number. And if you kept at it she'd fvck just out of confusion. Women are ultimately weak, and yield to men who are strong.

 

[jophil28]

Around closing time i walk up to her and say hey whats your number so we can go shopping tomorrow,..

At this point the game was lost. By going back to ask her a SECOND time like that you are teetering on the edge of pleading and begging ...and she then strengened her resistance,
If she had any desire to see you off campus, she would have either slipped you her number after your first convo OR sent you strong 'buying signals' via eye contact during the evening to entice you..


When you told her that you did not believe her about not giving out her number to customers, you came off a little hissy and miffed.
That statement by her was her way of saying "I am not really interested."

If I were in you shoes I would scrub this encounter out of my consciousness, and start over with her as if she was all new . I have never been successful in trying to repair or fix these kinds of stumbles and fumbles. Too much damage control for too little result...

Good hunting.

 

[Warrior74]

Props on getting out there and trying.... everyone else covered everything but this..

offering to go shopping with her..it comes off as offering to TAKE HER SHOPPING. which comes off and major symping/supplication.

If she did take you up on the offer, you would have set a very bad frame with this girl from the beginning. WHen you didn't want to pay for that shopping trip or said you were just kidding about taking her shopping...it would have been all over at that point. Next time set the correct frame.

 

[skybound]

Sup guys thanks for the insight.. I was back at the same pool hall tonight and i acted as if nothing had happened.
I think her respect level went up for me because of the way i told her lst night that she shouldnt give me the **** about not giving her number out at work

Anyways she made playful kino with me a few times tonight. As she walked bye she would grab my arm or hit me in the chest. Anyways its not a big deal im not stressing about the chick im just trying to improve my skills.
Goodnight fellas and thanks for the feedback

 

[Latinoman]

The BIGGEST mistake was asking her digits (number) when she was still at work.

Your first and only attempt should have been AFTER she was leaving work. AFTER you were not longer a customer. AFTER she was not longer on-the-clock.

NEVER...NEVER...NEVER...ask for digits while the other person is working. (Personally, I never ask for digits at all...I let them volunteer the digits for me).

 

[Trader]

As for the waitress laughing at you: so what? Women laugh at guys all the time. Then they turn around and fvck the very same guys, marry them, have their babies, etc etc. What women say means nothing. Period. End of story. I bet if you pursued the same waitress several times she'd give you her number. And if you kept at it she'd fvck just out of confusion. Women are ultimately weak, and yield to men who are strong.

This is so true - who cares if you screw up and the girl laughs? Why give ONE girl so much power over your emotions?

You've grown from the experience and so the next time a better girl comes along - you do a bit better, and even better the next time.

Yes - there was this one girl who totally blew me off 4 years ago - and after undergoing this DJ 'improvement' - she is now totally into me. Yes - when girls see that you are improving in a BIG way - this totally gets their attention - they labeled you as 'loser' and now they are clearly mistaken