Pretty excellent break down of what women want

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This is a fantastic breakdown of the book "What do women want? Adventures in the science of female desire" by Daniel Berger.

Definitely will force a lot of people to open their mind in terms of the closed minded beliefs they assume are true in regards to male/female sexuality and roles within it.

 

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This article contradicts the theory that women dislike casual sex and only enjoy sex within the context of a relationship and her feelings/emotions towards that guy.
Just because a few posters are loud about this, doesn't mean it's widely accepted on here. I believe women do like casual sex, just are repressed with it due to social stigma. That's why they get hammered, and bang a guy.. "Oops, I'm not a slut, I just got drunk last night...." They use the drinking as an excuse to get casual sex.
 

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This article contradicts the theory that women dislike casual sex and only enjoy sex within the context of a relationship and her feelings/emotions towards that guy. Granted, there are still women who feel that way (I do) but that's changing as evidenced by the below comment.

>> Well, what kind of guy are you looking for?’ My one friend hemmed and hawed for a minute, and then said, ‘Oh, who am I kidding? I just need to get ****ed.’

LOL, more common than some of you might believe.
Just because a few posters are loud about this, doesn't mean it's widely accepted on here. I believe women do like casual sex, just are repressed with it due to social stigma. That's why they get hammered, and bang a guy.. "Oops, I'm not a slut, I just got drunk last night...." They use the drinking as an excuse to get casual sex.
If the average woman liked casual sex it would probably be pretty easy to get. (And the average body count would be in the dozens)

I think it's more likely that a certain percentage of women like casual sex or sex in general and it's probably easier to pickup those women.

There's two variables basically, how much she likes you and how much of a sexual person she is in general.
 

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This article contradicts the theory that women dislike casual sex and only enjoy sex within the context of a relationship and her feelings/emotions towards that guy. Granted, there are still women who feel that way (I do) but that's changing as evidenced by the below comment.

>> Well, what kind of guy are you looking for?’ My one friend hemmed and hawed for a minute, and then said, ‘Oh, who am I kidding? I just need to get ****ed.’

LOL, more common than some of you might believe.
I keep saying this but guys want to argue with their archaic notions of how things are/were even though it's based on a false hypothesis they hold to be true.

When you are not open to your inputs being wrong you can't ever get to the right answer in the end.
 

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Just because a few posters are loud about this, doesn't mean it's widely accepted on here. I believe women do like casual sex, just are repressed with it due to social stigma. That's why they get hammered, and bang a guy.. "Oops, I'm not a slut, I just got drunk last night...." They use the drinking as an excuse to get casual sex.
They do...they just don't like others to know about it so they can't be slut shamed and are discreet. So discreet many people are unaware it happens
 

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I think there are periods in women's lives that they are all about the casual sex. I've gotten the vibe from a few i have been with. Also got a burning sensation when I peed from one of those. :) these were definitely easy to get into bed.

The girls with the most mental problems will have the most sexual partners guaranteed. Always the biggest sluts. They can't keep guys, and use casual sex for constant validation.

Less than 20% of the female population only has sex inside long term relationships and has relatively low notch counts. ( < 8 by age 40.)
 

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That's why they get hammered, and bang a guy.. "Oops, I'm not a slut, I just got drunk last night...." They use the
drinking as an excuse to get casual sex.
Yeah, post bang shame like this has landed a whole lot of guys in court and jail too. Let's not forget that
fairly important point. The woman's 'reputation' must be defended at all costs, including your own liberty
if necessary.

As for the disability shaming 'moderator'... Quite a lot of disease connected with sex actually, especially the sort
of 'bang and bye' sex often discussed on here. Frankly, it would be cleaner and slightly less risky putting your own
d1ck into a dustbin. I got 99 problems but getting a dose ain't one.
 

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No doubt women love and desire sex, the caveat is that it's only with select men. They are generally more discriminatory, unlike men. If it didn't matter to women gigolos and Chippendales wouldn't be a thing.

Just by how they dress you can tell women are very sexual in nature. Why else you think they wear very tight leggings, for example?

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It's important not to appear judgemental on these matters. If they get the sense you are they will dry up like the Sahara and keep them closed. I have a poor opinion of sluts but I never voice it while getting to know them. As such a lot of women open up around me which has resulted in many lays.
 
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Quite early on in our relationship my ex-wife expressed an interest in being tied up
and choked. Told her that absolutely wasn't happening. Fxcking weirdo...
 

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I keep saying this but guys want to argue with their archaic notions of how things are/were even though it's based on a false hypothesis they hold to be true.

When you are not open to your inputs being wrong you can't ever get to the right answer in the end.
And not shocking you can imagine their outcomes.
 

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It's really a waste of time trying to figure out what women want.... What any particular woman wants changes with her emotional state.... which no man has any control over.... and can turn on a dime.

Yes... women like sex if they are attracted to the man they are with. If a woman loves you she'll pretty much do anything you want in bed as long as she trusts you and believes you will not judge you.

Woman like sex, but they really don't value sex like men do because she can get sex whenever she wants. Just about every woman, as long as she is moderately attractive, has in her cell phone contacts at least three dudes that all she has to do is text them and say "Come over and fvck me." And these dudes will drop whatever they are doing and run over. There are not a whole lot of men that can do that.
 

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It's really a waste of time trying to figure out what women want.... What any particular woman wants changes with her emotional state.... which no man has any control over.... and can turn on a dime.

Yes... women like sex if they are attracted to the man they are with. If a woman loves you she'll pretty much do anything you want in bed as long as she trusts you and believes you will not judge you.

Woman like sex, but they really don't value sex like men do because she can get sex whenever she wants. Just about every woman, as long as she is moderately attractive, has in her cell phone contacts at least three dudes that all she has to do is text them and say "Come over and fvck me." And these dudes will drop whatever they are doing and run over. There are not a whole lot of men that can do that.
While this is true to some extent, there are overriding things that become pretty clear the more research that is done.

What becomes crystal clear is that most women have fantasies that would make a hardened sailor blush and that women are turned on physically by many things although they tend not to always act on those impulses. I mean it's a thing that some women have earth shattering orgasms at the gym from doing certain ab exercises where they lift their knees up. I can't imagine going to the gym to both work out and get off secretly, but this is a thing for at least some women who have super sensitive cl!ts.

Whether they want to play them out with you or not depends on many things, such as you mentioned with how much the love you and want to please you sexually and how much they feel safe with you and trust you.

It's always great to hear women that are really into you ask for advice on how they can do things better or what things you enjoy because they want to please you completely in the bedroom. Once that happens the door the debauchery and whatever you want to do with them sexually opens up.
 

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Quite early on in our relationship my ex-wife expressed an interest in being tied up
and choked. Told her that absolutely wasn't happening. Fxcking weirdo...
So you went and married the women you’re clearly not sexually compatible with? Most women like tying up, choking and light domination
 

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So you went and married A women you’re clearly not sexually compatible with? Most women like tying up, choking and light domination
After 10 years together yes. Then married for a further 8, 4 of those in separate bedrooms, my choice.
Turns out I'm not sexually compatible with any of them, I just never really knew it at the time.
In any case, I'm not doing any of that dodgy stuff. No thanks. I never even got fully naked in front of my wife.
 

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Lol, yeah I was surprised the other poster found that "fvcking weird."
No, I said she was a fvcking weirdo, mainly for wanting that done to her.
I consider the act quite perverse and unnecessary. Perhaps that's because
the last time I had hands round my throat they were my fathers, moments
before he threw me down a flight of stairs. If that's sexy to you, you've got
bigger problems than I do.
 
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Absolute destruction...comes to any woman who is sexually wayward.

It not about what women want, it is just about the Alpha Male.

I told a girl close to me recently, she can either like a guy or have an opinion on sex, not both.

All women want the Alpha Male, then, their sexual behviours need to come in line. A woman is not gonna be attracted to another guy sexually, or want to take that risk, if she knows what she is gonna lose.

A few women I know thought it was cool to have casual sex before they met me. After they met me they just cannot think themselves cool to do that.

Our society is too ****ing immature. Women cannot have casual sex because they cannot have casual sex with an Alpha Male, ie a guy they have FEELINGS for.

Women can only have casual sex with beta males. Cos the Alpha guy she is gonna wana lock-down or be depressed if she loses.

We live in a broken society hence women want casual sex and choking etc. Those things are not compatible with having a real masculine positive infiuence in your life, and women who live in positive communities with high-wellbeing, mental and emotional health, do not do those things generally. These behaviours are correlated with the absense of love and well-being in a womans life, and this is what an Alpha Male needs to be bring.
 

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Absolute destruction...comes to any woman who is sexually wayward.

It not about what women want, it is just about the Alpha Male.

I told a girl close to me recently, she can either like a guy or have an opinion on sex, not both.

All women want the Alpha Male, then, their sexual behviours need to come in line. A woman is not gonna be attracted to another guy sexually, or want to take that risk, if she knows what she is gonna lose.

A few women I know thought it was cool to have casual sex before they met me. After they met me they just cannot think themselves cool to do that.

Our society is too ****ing immature. Women cannot have casual sex because they cannot have casual sex with an Alpha Male, ie a guy they have FEELINGS for.

Women can only have casual sex with beta males. Cos the Alpha guy she is gonna wana lock-down or be depressed if she loses.

We live in a broken society hence women want casual sex and choking etc. Those things are not compatible with having a real masculine positive infiuence in your life, and women who live in positive communities with high-wellbeing, mental and emotional health, do not do those things generally. These behaviours are correlated with the absense of love and well-being in a womans life, and this is what an Alpha Male needs to be bring.
You posted all that to basically say you can’t dominate a girl and are in fact, a gigantic fraud.
 

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Women want three things from men:

1) They want their needs for money & resources satisfied: The most given to them with the least amount of work or effort in return.
2) They want their need for attention met: Usually that involves having an orbit or unlimited supply of beta simp online to like their posts and tell them how beautiful they are.
3) They want their need for sex met: That means having sex with the highest SMV man who makes their vag tingle the most at any given time.

On rare occasions, a women gets all three of these met by the same man. Women who "commit" to a man typically will give a little on the sex if they are getting their resource needs met; TEMPORARILY.. That is until their 30s when they start to explore other options either by cheating or leaving the man or both. There are very few women who do not have an orbit or online community of simps groveling at them. This way they can always get their attention needs meet no matter what. It's like crack to them. Even if they are really happy with their man he may not be available to give them the attention fix they need, so they pull from the orbit/online pool of simps to get that fix when they need it.
 
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